Is it ok to wish relationship failure on your ex?

[DireStrike]

How about if you are on good terms? And it's been quite a while since the breakup?

And by ex, I mean girlfriend, not wife. I'm only 22!

[jpgray]

1. No

Wishing ill of anyone is rarely productive behavior.

[Guava Jelly]

2. depends on the X

and how it ended :)

[ZombieNixon]

3. My ex and I don't speak,

and I really don't care what she's up to, though if I got word of a bad breakup, I suppose I'd feel a bit of Schadenfreude.

I wouldn't actively wish it, but I wouldn't shed any tears on her behalf, either. :shrug:

[Philosoraptor]

4. NO!

And I'd really appreciate it if you'd just let she and I live in Peace!

[catmandu57]

5. It's natural to want to see it

as a form of revenge, but the best solution is too live the best life possible for yourself, let the past go.

[LadyoftheRabbits]

6. Well...

I'm too soon out of the breakup box to really know, but what I've done is cut all ties with them, so I don't know what goes on. I don't think I'd really wish anything bad for him.

[maveric]

7. As many times as my ex has broken my heart and screwed me over...Yes!

But thats just my situation.

[pitohui]

8. it is not merely okay but mandatory

indulge

[idgiehkt]

12. lol. n/t

[querelle]

9. No. Let It Go

Pre-occupying yourself by thinking of her too often is not good for you. You should work on building a new life without her and looking forward instead of back. You will realize one day that you just don't care. Indifference is the surest sign that you are over your ex. Until that time, just put her out of your mind as best you can.

Q

[El Fuego]

10. No, but secretly gloat about it when it happens.

:evilgrin:

[Skittles]

11. certainly it means you still have feelings for her

yes

[BlueIris]

13. Supposedly, if you do, you're not "over" him/her.

But I've always done it, just to remind myself to be or get over the ex's. I mean, who wants to be with someone who is a total failure at relationships?

[InvisibleTouch]

14. Certainly. :) n/t

[NewWaveChick1981]

15. Yes.

As long as you keep it to yourself and take silent delight in the relationship's demise. :)

[Whoa_Nelly]

16. Why expend the negative energy?

Put your energy into something positive for you. Move on...grow up :hi:

[pitohui]

17. are we so limited in our energies?

revenge and karmic fantasies are one of life's great pleasures

i hope i never grow so "up" that i must always be doing something "positive"

[Pale Blue Dot]

18. It's tempting to want karmic revenge.

But honestly, you'll feel so much better about yourself if you can get to the point where it really doesn't matter.