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Fountain79 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:25 AM
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Is it wrong to not want to date someone...purely on lack of physical
attraction? A friend tried to set me up with a coworker of theirs and as nice as the person was....there wasn't a physical interest there. Am I bad person?
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NewWaveChick1981 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:27 AM
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1. No. If you're not attracted to someone, you're not attracted.
Granted, there may be a whole lot more underneath the surface that's compatible, but physical attraction is at least somewhat important. At least you know up front and have saved yourself and the other person a lot of trouble in the long run. :)
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:28 AM
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2. No -- there's nothing wrong with that
People you like but whom you're not physically attracted to are called "friends." Seriously -- I know what you mean. It's truly a natural reaction.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:29 AM
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3. Not at all... But I, personally, would get to know what's underneath
first. But if that's not for you, it's not for you. :hi:
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Fountain79 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:31 AM
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5. Very nice person...just not attractive to me...
and unfortunately physical attractiveness is somewhat important to me. Shallow...so shallow.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:32 AM
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7. No you're not...not at all. You're doing the right thing.
:)
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:30 AM
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4. Oh, for Christ's sake!
I wouldn't date someone I was not attracted to. How would that person feel if he or she knew that you didn't find him or her attractive but were only dating out of guilt. Seriously, isn't there enough to worry about in this world without dwelling on whether our subjective feelings are right or wrong. They are neither. Our feelings are what they are and that is it.
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:31 AM
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6. Maybe not.
Edited on Wed Aug-09-06 11:32 AM by AirmensMom
But you might want to get to know the person a little better before you decide for sure.

FWIW, I wan't physically attracted to harleydad when we met. But we became good friends and then I became VERY attracted to him. We'll be celebrating our 30th anniversary on the 21st and I still think he's the cutest guy on the block. I must've been blind when I first met him. :shrug:

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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:32 AM
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8. no.
no physical attraction = no attraction
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Iniquitous Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:33 AM
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9. Are you kidding?
Physical attraction isn't the most crucial part of sustaining a relationship, but a baseline of chemistry is pretty necessary to start one.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:33 AM
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10. No, I won't date someone I'm not physically attracted to.
If it's not there, it's not there. No need to feel bad about it.
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:43 AM
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11. No, of course not!
If ain't there, it ain't there!
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:45 AM
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12. No. That person deserves somebody who finds them attractive
and you deserve a partner who you find as fascinating to look at as to talk to.
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ZombieNixon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:50 AM
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13. No. You can be great friends,
but if there's no physical attraction, chances of there being anything more are slim.

I wouldn't date someone I didn't find attractive, andI have ridiculously high standards that go far beyond the physical. :shrug:
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jpgray Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-09-06 11:50 AM
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14. No. Ugly people don't deserve love
:D Seriously if you don't have an attraction it's kind of disingenuous to date someone on that basis.
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