Do you ever get nervous in the presence of someone you're attracted to?

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And does it temporarily change your personality? Your normal, witty, sparkling personality that people like about you goes flying out the window, and you become a bumbling fool who can't put two words together? Then when that person is gone, the anxiety subsides and you're your normal self again? Does this happen to you and if so, what do you do about it?

[ZombieNixon]

1. I used to be terrible about this.

Just. Freakin'. TERRIBLE.

I think I'm getting a lot better now, though. :)

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3. Does this happen to men only? Is it part of the male "hunting" process?

[ZombieNixon]

10. I don't know.

I don't think so, though. I've been told that women will get nervous in the presence of someone they like, but I guess it manifests itself differently.

More to the point, though, I get nervous in the presence of a girl I'm attracted to if I don't know she likes me back. It's part of building/reaching that threshhold of comfort. Once I get past that, I feel comfortable enough to really be myself and everything usually goes OK. :shrug:

[antigone382]

11. No. I'm horrible about this.

If I'm interested in a guy I can't even make eye contact because I'm afraid he has some incredible mind-reading skills, and will instantly know that I like him. If I do make eye contact, I blush and stutter so badly that he doesn't NEED any mind-reading ability. And no matter how obvious it is that he's checkin' me out or whatever, I'll remain absolutely *convinced* that he couldn't possibly be the least bit attracted to me, until it's too late.

But if a guy is interested in me and I'm not attracted to him, I'm as charming as can be (and I don't mean to be that way; I don't like to lead men on and I try to gently shoot a man down up front if I can tell it isn't going anywhere). It's my curse that all my powers of attraction are reserved for the men to whom I am not attracted.

[Iniquitous Bunny]

15. No, it doesn't happen to men only.

I'm a woman. Most people view me as attractive, yet I have still felt like a stumbling doofus at times. It happens to all of us.

[idgiehkt]

2. I have the same problem, and generally I just end up

masturbating.


LOL. Sorry to be crude. Just kidding. Yeah, that's right.

[Guava Jelly]

4. shit yeah..!!

It's hard to act or look cool when your heart is racing 1,000 mph

[bigwillq]

5. Sometimes

I feel it's a very common reaction to feel that way.

[xchrom]

6. oh. hell. yes. -- i've been carrying a clandestine thing for years

and i still get nervous as a long tailed cat in a room full of rockers.

drives me nuts.

[mvd]

7. Yes, unfortunately

It's one reason I'm single. Will have to work at getting up the nerve.

[jpgray]

8. Only about two people in my experience have done this to me

I was insanely attracted to both. One I just botched everything, the other I had to mentally rev myself up before contact for a while and then eventually I found my groove. SCARY times though, those first few contacts--felt like I literally had zero to say.

[rug]

9. I get nervous if Matcom posts in the same thread.

[ncrainbowgrrl]

12. oh....oh yes...oh...crap... what's my name again... oh..take foot out of m

outh. I had such a smart thing to say, gosh.

Donno what to do about it- personally my anxiety is compounded by my attraction to the same-sex. I'm fine around boys. :shrug:

Of course, I'm happily partnered, so...perhaps I'm not a good one to ask about it.

[reyd reid reed]

13. Yup...

*sigh*

And I Still don't know what to do about it.

Sucks.

[Ariana Celeste]

14. Omg yes

I turn beet red in an instant, my leg twitches, I giggle at everything they say even though part of me knows it isn't really that funny but for some damned reason it seems hilarious at that moment, I have trouble speaking up and crack very few jokes because I'm so afraid I'm just gonna bomb. Etc.

Yeah it turns me into a freaking wreck. I just gave it time. With my SO, I was like that for the first few weeks of our relationship.

[u4ic]

16. Oh, yeah...

either I get very quiet and tongue tied or blather on at warp speed... :crazy:

[reyd reid reed]

17. You're lucky...

I'll do both at the same time. HOW I can manage to blather on about absolutely nothing at warp speed while I don't say a word is beyond me...but I seem to be able to do it.

And frequently require an emergency foot extraction at the end of it all...

:eyes:

[u4ic]

18. I'm surprised

that I CAN talk at all, considering my foot seems to be permanently lodged in my oral cavity.

Making sense...now that's another story. :yoiks:





:hug:

[reyd reid reed]

24. Sense?

Wassat?

:shrug:

:hug:

[GOPisEvil]

19. Not only that, but I get scared to make any move for fear of making the

wrong move. x(

[GalleryGod]

20. Let it Rip, David!

Try looking out at 62 young women 3X a week !:rofl: :spray: :rofl:

[GOPisEvil]

21. I admire your restraint.

;)

I want to let it rip, but it's hard sometimes...lotsa shit going on in the ol' cabeza that fucks with a guy...

[LadyoftheRabbits]

22. I do

I feel as though they'll actually like me once they get to know me, but I get so tongue tied and scared and terribly shy... I don't know what I do about it... I think I pray that the other person realizes what's going on and is more flattered that I'm so rattled about them than disgusted.

[NewJeffCT]

23. Story of my life

I was so nervous around women that I did not have a date until I was almost 21... didn't have sex until I was 22 1/2.

and, I don't think I'm particularly ugly or anything.

[Fox Mulder]

25. Happens all the time.

If you're a female and I stutter in front of you like an idiot, chances are, I like you.

I don't know what to do to fix that, either. :shrug: