My mom is ill.

[Swede]

We got the news on Friday. Terminal liver cancer. The doctors say it's a matter of weeks before the end. I'm gonna finish up some stuff in the next couple days then go back home to be with her. She had a hard life,and now she's going to have a hard end,but she'll be in her own house with her family.

[Flaxbee]

1. I'm so sorry, Swede

I hope you have some family around to help you, too. Being a caretaker in situations like this can be really rough. I do hope your mom doesn't experience (much) pain.

[Swede]

2. Thanks Flaxbee.

The clan will be together,so I won't be alone.

[Bunny]

3. Oh I'm so sorry.

I pray she has a peaceful journey. :hug:

[AirmensMom]

4. I'm sorry, Swede.

:hug:

[auntAgonist]

5. Swede, I'm so very sorry

for what your mother is going through and sorry for the loss you are experiencing and will experience. May her journey be peaceful and hopefully pain free.
My mother passed from colon cancer and in the end liver cancer. She faded into a quiet comatose state in the last week of her life. The paliative care Dr kept her medicated and we hope pain and anxiety free.
My best wishes and condolences to you and yours.

It's not easy to lose your Mother. :hug: :cry: :hug:

sincerely
aA
kesha

[GoddessOfGuinness]

6. Oh Swede, I'm so sorry...

My grandmother died when colon cancer spread to her liver. She managed pretty well until the last couple of weeks. I'm so glad I had the chance to tell her I loved her before she passed.

It's good that you can be with your mom...
I keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[Haole Girl]

7. It's good you'll be with her now

And, I'm sure she is very grateful. Hugs to you..:hug:

[REDKING]

8. I am so sorry Swede,

My thoughts and prayers to you and your family...RK

[u4ic]

9. Swede, I am so sorry

Enjoy the precious time you have left with her.

It seems so unfair that the ones who have spent a life struggling have to suffer even more as they pass. My mom was like that, too. I never found any answers, or any wisdom from it to pass on.

You and your family are in my thoughts. :hug:

[Metta]

10. You're doing the best anyone could do by going there.

Sorry to hear about your circumstances. The connecting will be magnificent partially because of the tremendous grief you all feel and partially by how your all deal with the situation. I suspect I haven't told you anything you don't already know.

Go well and be well. :hug:

[Jazz2006]

11. I'm so sorry, Swede,

What sad news. It is good that you can spend her remaining time with her and that your family will be together to support each other in such a terrible, difficult time.

I wish for your mom a peaceful and painless passage; and for you and your family, as much comfort and support that you can give each other.

It's going to be a tough few weeks for you, and I'll have you and your family in my thoughts.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[NewWaveChick1981]

12. Swede, I'm really sorry.

:hug: That's very difficult, as you know. :hug: My heart goes out to you and your mother and your family. :pals:

[MissB]

13. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[querelle]

14. Oh Swede

My best to you and your family. Cancer is never a peaceful death. Channeling much strength and fortitude to you.

Q

[Midlodemocrat]

15. Swede. I am so, so sorry.

Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. Godspeed to your mom and may she have a peaceful passage.

:hug:

[City Lights]

16. So sorry to hear that, Swede.

I hope her remaining days are peaceful.

:hug:

[Kajsa]

17. I'm so sorry, Swede.

I'll be thinking of you and your mom.

I've been through this with my Dad.

If you need to talk or need a hug,
just let me know.

:hug:

[mdmc]

18. I think that it is cool that she will be at her own house

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Peace.

ps- www.rigpa.org might be helpful. Rinpoche's book is one of my all time favorites.

[RiffRandell]

19. I am so sorry. n/t

[calico1]

20. I'm so sorry.

I lost mine earlier this year so I know what you are going through. Spend every minute you can with her. Tell her you love her as often as you can.
:hug:

[RevCheesehead]

21. You will *never* regret this decision.

Blessings to you, your mom, and your entire family. :hug:

[Omaha Steve]

22. The hardest reply on DU

This is one of those I don't know what to say topics. Nothing I say will change the situation. Just be glad you have time with your mom. Come back when you can. We understand what you are going through.

Steve

[RFKHumphreyObama]

23. I'm so very, very sorry Swede

I recognize words are woefully inadequate at a time like this but rest assured that your mother, you and your family have my deepest and most sincere thoughts, prayers, best wishes and positive vibes. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers :hug: :hug: :hug: :grouphug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

24. I am so very sorry, Swede

You will be in my thoughts. Do take advantage of any hospice care available in her area. The hospice workers not only comfort her but can comfort you as she goes through the stages prior to the end of her life.

As the good Rev Cheesehead said above, you will never regret it, hard as it may be.

My best to you. :hug:

[Writer]

25. Swede, I'm so very sorry to hear the news...

at least you'll be there to provide her more comfort. :hug:

[GirlinContempt]

26. Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that

At least she'll be with her family :hug:

[AutumnMist]

27. You Will Always Have Someone

here to talk to. Email anytime and I mean that. My husband and I lost his mother two years ago and it was very hard and very quick in some regards. Cherish every moment and cry when you need to do so. You are not alone. :hug:

[judaspriestess]

28. Many blessings to you

I am so sorry. My mom lives with me. I will be comatose for a year if I lose her. She's been my rock lately with all the hard times I have been having.

Thank God you have this time with her to love her.

[Nicole]

29. I'm so sorry Swede

I'll keep your mom, you & your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[KT2000]

30. Sorry to hear this

Sending good thoughts your way.

[wildhorses]

31. .....

:hug: will keep you and your family especially close to my heart. May she go gentle into the night.

[Bullwinkle925]

32. I've walked that road before and it's a very difficult one.

My thoughts will be with you and yours.
BW925

[graywarrior]

33. Very sad to hear that. I wish you well.

[miss_american_pie]

34. I'm so sorry

I pray her passing is peaceful. :hug:

[Beausoir]

35. Take care. Be good to yourself.

Try to eat well and get enough sleep. Don't let yourself get run down.
I am so sorry.

[Rhiannon12866]

36. I am so very sorry.

What terrible news and what a tough thing to have to face. I lost my Dad to cancer, at far too young an age, so I'm with you, my friend. Just do what you need to do and you'll have few regrets. My Dad was at home, as well, since that's the way that he wanted it. I wish that I'd known then what I know now, since I never believed that this could happen. Stay strong and I'll be thinking of you. Your mom raised a very good person and must be proud of that. Your friends on DU are always here, whenever you need us...

Rhiannon:grouphug:

[Swede]

37. Thanks for all your kind words.

My sister just called to tell me it's time to come home.

[Haole Girl]

38. Please have a safe journey home and..

take care. :hug:

[rustydog]

39. Swede, I am sorry for you and your family

I lost a brother-in-law to liver cancer.
Be with her, love her, help her pass on.

[mike_c]

40. damn, that's hard Swede-- I'm so sorry for you and your family....

I hope this ends as quickly and as easily as possible.