Why do people tell you they're going to do something and never do?

[YellowRubberDuckie]

I'm so tired of people telling me one thing, then never following thru with what they say. What is wrong with people? Apparently the only person I can invest any emotion in is my husband, because everyone else seems to let me down. I've apparently managed to somehow lose my best friend, find out my in-laws truly favor my brother in law and his live in, and realize people are going to do nothing but let you down all in one week. My in-laws truly hurt my feelings this weekend. We were supposed to have them over for lunch today, but apparently they had to do something for my brother-in-law so, they cancelled. But of course they're going to dinner with them and the live-in's grandparents on sunday for her birthday, but going with us for dinner on my birthday was just too tiring for them. They always seem to cancel on us, but always seem to be able to bend over backwards for their other son. It's really frustrating and is starting to piss me off.
And apparently, I apparently have started pissing my best friend off. No idea what I've said because she's never even bothered to tell me what I've done. Even though she's been ignoring me for weeks, and I never said anything, because I just figured she was busy with things on her mind. It's really frustrating when you're continually doing something to someone else that is pissing them off and they're more and more angry with you, but they don't bother to say hey, shut the hell up, you're pissing me off. If I don't know, I can't do anything about it. Whatever.
I guess the only people I can invest any emotion in is Skip. God, I hate being that cynical. It kills me.
Thanks for listening to my rant.
Duckie

[Lindsey]

1. I'm really sorry all of this has happened.,,

It's very hard to understand people's motives. Family is just too complicated to figure out so I quit trying myself. As far as your best friend goes, you might want to have a real heart-to-heart..... if you want to keep the friendship. Before you talk to her, make sure you're prepared to hear what she has to say. I've actually told my friends to please tell me when I'm not being my higher self. It truly helps me grow.
Good luck!

[graywarrior]

2. Took me years to accept that everyone in my family is

self serving and psychopathic liars. Funny thing is, I do the same thing to them. There is no respect for eachother in my family. Everyone of us sits back and watches while someone else in the family goes through agony, fucks up or otherwise is on the spot.

I happen to like my brother more than my sister, but I spend more time talking to her because he is NUTS and lives in total unreality. I just nod my head now. Better to keep my distance than get fucked over by them.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

3. I learned this a long time ago in my biological family...

My mother is selfish and self serving, but if you turn around and do the same shit to her as she does to you, you get disowned. It's pathetic. I was optimistic about my in-laws. Apparently I was wrong. And the stupid thing about the whole lot of them is the older son is selfish, irresponsible, and living hand to mouth, but still trying to buy a house. Sure, they may have nothing to eat, but they have a nice house! :eyes:
Duckie

[graywarrior]

4. It's hard to let it go when you are in the middle of it.

My sister in law is the sickest person I have ever come across. She is TOXIC and I can't even hear her voice on the phone without gagging up maggots.

Best thing to do, and the hardest thing to do is detach from them. Start watching them like they're an experiment and try to not expect anything from them. I treat my si in law like she's very mentally ill. Sometimes compassion for them gives you the compassion you need for yourself. Lord knows, you'll never get it from them.