Night shift loungers: How would you interpret this...

[Writer]

Let's say you work with a member of the opposite sex. You know this person somewhat well, perhaps a step above casual. You meet with this person from time to time in a generally professional setting. The person seems friendly yet aloof.

Then, one day, during a meeting with this person, he or she quietly invites you out to play a game of raquetball, one-on-one, that Saturday. No one else has been invited.

Should you interpret this person's actions as:

a) Friendly, just trying to get to know you better

b) Friendly, but might be trying to move toward a relationship

c) Is trying to get laid

What's your take?

[Broken_Hero]

1. I see it as option B...

alone time, to get to know one another, in a public/social setting...

[Writer]

5. Would you still say the same thing...

if it were a mountain hike?

[jpgray]

2. Depends if your social status is a) single or b) married

[Writer]

4. Okay... so what if you are married but the person in question is...

single?

[Broken_Hero]

6. if you are married, and that person knows that

than my answer changes to C, big time...

[Writer]

7. May I inquire further as to why?

Let's say the single person in question is the male...

[jpgray]

12. It shows you're capable of making decisions you'll regret later in life

:P

[Broken_Hero]

13. because whoever the married person is

shouldn't be putting themselves in situations like this, this is how extra-marital affairs happen. I'm married, and if my wife knew that I was going hiking, or playing games with another woman, she would be highly suspicious, and become jealous.

It's not that she has a trust issue with me persay, but she does have a trust issue, with other women. On the other hand, I have witness three close friends, cheat on their respective married others, via scenario's, that you bring forth in your OP. The other scenario's,

1. Going out to the bar to have a few drinks, and so and so will be there, and so will my girl friends=wife cheating on husband...

2. Our office is having a semi-get together at a restaurant, its going to be small talk, boring...=husband cheating on wife(three times, three different women)....

[LSK]

3. option B

[leftofthedial]

8. is it a condescending older man

who treats you like you are a naive young thing?

[Writer]

10. LOL - WHAT?

No... no condescending, older men apply here. A guy who works at my lab.

Although... that would be an interesting twist to this "rhetorical" situation...

[Robeson]

9. Go play a game of racquetball. At the least, you'll get a good workout...

...and take it for what it is. If you both feel something different, then go from there. Don't over analyze it. You'll know if you "connect". And if you don't want to connect with this person, then you will at least have had a good workout.

On edit: all the married talk above leads me to believe one of you is married. If so, that's a whole different ball game.

[Writer]

11. Why would that make that a "whole different ball game?" n/t

[Robeson]

14. If you or his spouse has an open relationship, then it wouldn't matter...

...but I'm not sure which one of you is married, so I'll just assume it's one or the other. As said, if it's an open relationship with your partners, no problem....

But if one of your spouse's would care, then you both are taking a chance, because you could get caught. In that case, you possibly could be looking at lawyers, kids, divorces, in-laws, lives that are wrecked, jobs that are lost when the boss finds out, and a plethora of other real world issues. You see, if one of you is married, the issues are bigger than the raging hormones involved.

[Writer]

15. Let me guarantee that the married individual involved will not be...

playing racquetball anytime soon...

[Robeson]

18. That's good to hear...

...so I will assume this thread was a philosophical exercise...:thumbsup:

[Writer]

20. Yes... philosophical in that "oh my God I can't believe what just...

happened" kind of realistic way. :)

[Robeson]

21. That's O.K., ....

...everyone likes a little flattery...;-)

[chrisau214]

16. None of the Above

Perhaps the Inviter merely heard a rumor at some point that the Invitee was a tremendous raquetball player and wants to verify the information because the Inviter is involved in a mixed doubles raquetball tournament and their origianal partner was accidentally killed in some sort of wacky raquetball mishap.




Chris

[jpgray]

17. I'd like to change my lack of answer

[Writer]

19. Wow. That's a fairly f'ing creative answer...

;)

kudos.