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be aware that a side effect of some medications may be that he slows down and gains weight, so he may not be able to do much about these symptoms at this time
but there is no harm in raising the issue, if you're on the wrong track, then he can clear the air, and if you are not on the right track, it is worth exploring what action he can take to treat his depression
i'm frustrated w. my track record, i have a friend who was clearly to my eyes suffering from depression for almost five years and really immobilized by it...all our tactful hints got him to do was to sulk more and announce that his wife was the crazy one and somehow he actually got her to start taking anti depressants (wtf?) so sometimes a frank discussion (or a lot of frank discussion) don't do diddly
we have to know the limits of our own powers, do the best you can but don't blame yourself if your dad makes his own choices
as a postscript my friend, oddly, snapped out of his depression w. hurricane katrina because suddenly he was called upon to Do Something Useful, we always hear that retirement stresses and depresses men, and i guess my friend was a good example of that -- apparently what we took as proof of his success (his early retirement) caused him to feel useless and the storm and his bankruptcy have given him a new lease on life, it is truly odd and NOT how most people necessarily react to stress
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