Soulmates

[MsKandice01]

Do they exist? Or is it just a bunch of fairytale mumbo jumbo?

[MrScorpio]

1. They exist

Trust me

[Broken_Hero]

2. I am not sure

what is the definition of a soul mate? My wife always tells me that i'm her soul mate, but I don't feel the same thing about her...but my definition of soul mate is

1. Feel like i've known you forever

2. Can half read your mind

3. Share a lot of things in common....

My wife and I, we don't have much in common really, in upbringing, or hobbies, I can't read her mind, and I don't feel like i've known her forever...

[wildhorses]

26. you did not marry your soul mate but, perhaps she "thinks"

you are her soul mate...what is HER definition of soulmate??? Also, I think we have several soul mates but, there is only ONE twin soul for each of us...rather we find them in this or any other life time is one of the reasons (IMHO) for returning

[Guava Jelly]

3. I would love to believe they do

Will we ever find our "Soulmate"?
hopefully everyone will someday

[ForrestGump]

4. Maybe...maybe not

Basing it on the usual definition...

Maybe we have more than one out there, potentially.

Maybe we'll never find them. Or we find them and never know it or never take the step necessary.

Maybe we find them, or some of them, and we mess it up because of egos, misunderstandings, or whatever.

I hope we each find one, in the end, and it works out.

[Jamastiene]

5. Like the Fox Mulder poster said,

"I want to believe." I want to believe that they do, because I sure would love nothing more than to meet mine ASAP. I need some soul sharing feelings as opposed to living in a red state full of jerks who won't get off how holier-than-thou they think they are.

I truly hope there are soul mates for each and every one of us and I hope I meet her soon.

[Guava Jelly]

6. A-men to that

:)
me also

[SeattleGirl]

7. I know they do.

:loveya:

[Heidi]

8. It seems every person has his/her own definition of "soulmate."

Merriam-Webster says a soulmate is:
1 : a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament
2 : a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs <ideological soul mates>

If that's the case, then Call Me Wesley and I are soulmates. But if the definition includes being able to read the other person's mind or "feeling" like I've known that person forever, I guess I can think of nothing more freaky than having my mind read or reading my partner's mind, and nothing more boring than knowing everything about that person already. One of the best parts of our relationship, for me, is that CMW is still engaging and surprising. The mind-reading is highly over-rated, I think.

[Broken_Hero]

9. by the webster definition

my wife and I are soulmates then...its just a matter of definition.

[Heidi]

12. Right on.

I have a handful of friends with whom I have that "other" soulmate thing (the mind-reading and feeling like we've known one another forever), but I wouldn't want to be with those people on a day-to-day basis, if you know what I mean.

[Broken_Hero]

14. Yeah, i know what you mean...

I never really believed/thought about soul mates...I was just hoping that someday a respectable woman, would be with me!...;)

[Guava Jelly]

10. I think a soulmate for me

would be someone whom melts me with a word an action or just being quiet.
And just knowing that each others heart is the most precious thing on the planet.
I'd love to feel breathless..again and have it reciprocated.
someday hugh?

[Heidi]

11. Well, what you're describing is

being well-suited in temperament, and I don't believe that's too much to expect. But I think anyone who expects everything to be perfect, like some big 24/7 mystical, head-over-heels experience that goes on forever-and-happily-ever-after, is living in an alternate universe. :shrug:

Breathlessness is a nice dividend to compatibility, but most of the time, I prefer to be able to take a deep, healthy, contented breath. :)

[Guava Jelly]

15. All i can say is "You lucky dog you"

:)

[Heidi]

17. We don't use the "d" word in our house.

The Wiley and Excellent Boy Cat Named Ginger has forbidden it. :P But you can call me a lucky cat. ;)

[ForrestGump]

13. "nothing more freaky than having my mind read"

I knew you were going to say that. :P

[Heidi]

16. I see you've read the book.

[Dangerously Amused]

18. I met mine once, so I know they *can* exist.

It was pretty much the way people describe it here, a connection like no other. Pity it couldn't last. But it was a valuable learning experience nonetheless. Because of him I underestood the difference between "loving" someone, and being "in love." He set the standard for all others.

I wonder if I will ever find another. But I think the odds not good.

[MsKandice01]

20. I think I've met mine too...

We've kinda floated in and out of each other's lives for the past 8 years. From our first conversation, I felt an instant connection to him...something I've never experienced before. We've gone years without speaking at times but that connection never goes away. Only problem is that since the time we've met and anytime we regain contact with each other (which always seems to be in the strangest and most coincidental of ways), it's always at the most inopportune time. One of us is always in a relationship with someone else. It's extremely frustrating, especially because every time I talk to him, I get this overwhelming sensation that I'm SUPPOSED to know him...in what context though, I don't know.

[Dangerously Amused]

21. Yep yep yep.

Similar situation to mine in nearly every respect. Frustrating as all hell, I know. Don't know whether to let it go, or put everything you got into one grand play for him.


It hurts. I know.


:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

22. to both of you charming ladies.

You'll never know if you never try..

I would kill to have at least that :)

[Dangerously Amused]

33. Aww sweetie. C'mere.

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

36. thanx

i needed that :)

[lizziegrace]

46. In what context...

I know exactly what you mean. Twice in my life, I was stopped in my tracks by the sight of someone. No rational explanation for it, as I've noticed men before. But, this was different. I had the same overwhelming sensation that I needed to know both of them, but the context wasn't clear. The first one was when I was sixteen. He's Lelapin's father and we were married for not quite 18 years.

The second was not quite two years ago. I knew absolutely nothing about him. Now I do and I'm still struggling with it. Knowing him has changed me. I appreciate life more and try to focus on what really matters. And so much more. But is that it? And why these two men? I have no idea...

[MsKandice01]

47. Well see, here's the deal...

I met this guy a long time ago through a mutual friend. We became friends right from the start and were nothing more than that because, at the time, he had a girlfriend and I was married to my ex-husband. Then he went off into the military and during that time, I divorced my ex for completely unrelated reasons. By the time he got out of the military, I had a boyfriend but it was nothing major...but my friend was now living on the other side of the country. His phone number changed one day, I moved, and we lost contact for what I thought was forever. We just happened to find each other online one day a few years later but by that time, I had a child and was married to my current husband. We still have a very solid friendship and we talk via IM all the time and it has been nothing more than that but I think both of us somehow know there's something there, even though we never discuss it.

Our interests are so freakishly similar, it's scary. When talking via IM, we're constantly saying the same thing at the same time. We're constantly telling each other, "Get out of my head!!" He understands me and knows me more than anyone else I've ever met because our thought processes are so similar. We're both a little cooky and unconventional but in exactly the same ways. We've helped each other through a lot of tough times and our friendship is very valuable to me.

I'm married though and I take my vows seriously (even though we have very little in common and aren't nearly as compatible as I once thought we were). For now, I'm just resigning myself to the fact that my soulmate can be just my friend and nothing more but I have to admit, the "what ifs" are driving me nuts.

[NMMNG]

19. Maybe

If so, I know I haven't met mine yet.

[fudge stripe cookays]

23. reprehensor...

knows me better than I know myself. I think he probably knows what I'm thinking a good deal of the time.

He's a fostering influence, keeps me grounded, makes me laugh, and makes all the shit that has happened to me the last year or so not quite so bad.

Yes, I believe in soul mates. But I never did until he came along.

[AirmensMom]

24. Yes, they do.

Harleydad is mine. :loveya:

[bertha katzenengel]

25. I don't know if they exist for everyone, but they do for me. I have two.

My beloved, my mate, Mrs. V. And my best friend, Dale. Obviously one a lover & married partner, one a platonic friend. But they are both soulmates.

:hi:

[RevCheesehead]

27. If they do, then mine's been MIA for 44 years.

[jobycom]

28. I believe in them

Which is why I love corny movies and cheesy love songs! Now if I could just get over my shyness and conservative (in nature, not politics) upbringing, maybe I can find mine... Am I still speaking aloud? Geeze... :blush:

[Bassic]

29. They exist. It's just not as glamourously obvious as it is on tv. nt

[ForrestGump]

30. It'd help if life had incidental music

You could listen to the soundtrack and when the music paused and then the violins swelled, you'd have some indication that he/she was The One.

And when you hear that mounting, scary music, you'd know that someone was behind you or behind the door of the darkened room that you just walked into, and you could run away.

A laugh track would be handy, too.




EDIT: haven't slept, and just noticed I left out of the above random words and inserted others, the whole making even less sense than normal...

[Bassic]

31. That's true.

Women woudl be a lot easier to read, if not to understand if we had such music. :D

[ScreamingMeemie]

34. Hahahahahaha....

:rofl: :yourock:

God, I wish you lived closer.

But then again...MrG would be in trouble. :hug:

[ForrestGump]

38. There's my laughtrack

:D

Now cue the shifty-eyed music while I check the perimeter for MrG....

[ScreamingMeemie]

39. Cue the Sims-like Orchestra music...

... he's at work... :rofl:

[ForrestGump]

40. Ooo...cue the pizza-delivery-boy theme tune

Heavy sax.

'Sax,' I said... :eyes:

:P

[ScreamingMeemie]

41. Yes...but... I haven't put my contacts in yet...

;)

[ForrestGump]

42. And it is, after all, a full-contacts endeavour

*rimshot*

*groan (and not the good kind)*

Looks like the pizza's not the only thing cheesy around here. :D

[Iniquitous Bunny]

32. Yes.

I don't believe we necessarily only have one either, but I'm very happy with the one I have now. The stars were lined up when we met so our similar souls could coexist with one another. I'm sure he's not the only man I'd fit with in the entire world, but I have no reason to find any others either.

[gollygee]

35. Yes

I used to date men who were all very similar to each other. They were all wrong for me, and all in the same way. I had the same relationship over and over again, and it was a very bad relationship.

Then, somehow, I met my husband. He's very different temperment wise from them, and from me really. But somehow, we fit together. We truly never fight or have problems. It's eerie how well we get along.

[Shell Beau]

37. They exist! I married mine!

[rbnyc]

43. I'm married to mine.

Wouldn't have believed it before I met him.

[Ramsey]

44. They do exist

But sometimes you cannot be with your soulmate.

[LeftyMom]

45. I don't really care for the term

it has some wierd religious or new-agey connotations I'm not really into. I don't know that there's somebody out there who's an ideal match for everyone. I know that I lucked into somebody who couldn't be any more perfect for me if he tried, but I don't think that's part of some universal plan for all of our lives.