I need good vibes and help

[JohnKleeb]

:( yelling everywhere in my house today because my dad is a pyscho who takes his problems out on my brothers and I by yelling and blaming us, blaming all the problems on me and my brother. Sigh not to mention the stress in school. :(
Damnit
weak :cry:
Sigh

[amazona]

1. that stinks

If you can, get out of the house. That's what I used to do to get away from my folks' screaming. They were a noise pollution hazard if you ask me!

Closing my eyes and trying to send the good vibes your way....

[JohnKleeb]

2. Its cold out there and I got nowhere to go

I am in my room, so I cant hear it that good. No its just my dad. Sigh he needs examned IMO.

[Bertha Venation]

3. get out for a while

go for a walk, drive, or bike ride... go to 7-11 for a slurpee... go sit in a tree... go find someone's dog to walk... go mow the snow... just get out for a while.

If you can't get out, put on headphones & turn 'em up.

If he's hitting people call the police right now, dude.

Take care of yourself. big :hug:

[JohnKleeb]

8. I dont feel like going outside

Cold and I slipped on the ice earlier. Either way, I dont drive, and hes not hitting people, just acting like typical self, yelling. Sigh I love that bastard with all my heart but man oh man can he be a dick.

[Mikimouse]

4. Sorry man, that stinks

Sounds like the house I grew up in. All you can do is try to be invisible, that way, you make a less identifiable target. Hope it gets better real soon; usually these types of things blew over fairly quickly, but with considerable emotional damage, in our house. My thoughts are with you.

[bif]

5. I grew up in a similar environment

My parenbts yelled and screamed at each other all the time. It used to get real ugly and I spent half my childhood with my stomach tied up in knots. Go for a walk and get away from it for a while. To this day, (I'm in my late 40s) I still can't confrontation.

[JohnKleeb]

9. Its not my parents, its my dad and brother

Sigh if my brother didnt always try to con me, and my dad wasnt a pratically bipolar dick, it would be good.

[MuseRider]

6. John

If you need you can ALWAYS email me. I grew up in a very bad family so I get it as many here do. We are here, you are loved, hang in there. It will pass but it is never easy. Send some mail if you need, please.

[nini]

7. big hugs to you..

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Wish I was there to help.


:-(

[nostamj]

10. damn

that sucks.

my parents never fought (in front us anyway)

my brother and I, that was a different story...

headphones?

[JohnKleeb]

12. Yeah I could put some music on

Its not my parents, its my dad n brother, sigh fuck them both, I swear. Times like these make me wanna escape.

[everythingsxen]

11. Well chummer..

I gotta tell ya, this time o year we get that a lot.

I have various packages and specials ranging from the "Instant Karma" package to the "Jimmy Hoffa" special.

For a low fee, you can let the psychos in your life know you are serious!

*ahem*

Sorry man, I can't help but joke around most of the time.

Seriously though, you just gotta chill out and be cool.

If he's yelling at you, just paractice the "la la la" method. Lookat himas though you are scared and are paying attention to his ravings. Look at the ground as though you are ashamed by "your failures"; in your head though just say "la la la" over and over and drown it out. Or think about how much of an ass he is and how you can't wait to get out of there as soon as you can.

The school stress, well thats a tough one.

My Step-Dad was a little psycho, though in fairness, I usually deserved it (not saying you do, it sounds like hes a bully); nothin like your Dad though.

[JohnKleeb]

13. My dad's a good guy but he really can be an asshole and he knows it

and knows I hate it when he is an asshole. Yet he does it.

[everythingsxen]

15. Yeah thats the impression I got..

don't mind me, I'm an asshole too.

Just not the yelling kind, the "make smartass remarks about other peoples lives" kind.

Anyway.. hope it all settles down and you can shill out and relax. YOu are sounding frazzled.

[JohnKleeb]

17. Well man just talked to my bro and him

They are like we dont like the way you are. They dont understand why I spend much time in my room and on the computer. I do it to escape and to put my stress away. Sigh, the yelling has ceased but they dont understand me.

[everythingsxen]

19. I'm sure man..

I feel that pain.

There's really nothing I can say to make it not be that way, except, eventually you will go to college and then you will hook up with that crowd and undoubtedly find people more like you.

[commander bunnypants]

14. Sending some Karma your way my friend

DDQM

[UrbScotty]

16. Hoping for the best, Kleeb.

Here are your good vibes.

[KCDem]

18. others pretty much said what I would have

but I thought you could use another cyberhug! :hug:

Take care of yourself. I hope this passes quickly.

[MissMarple]

20. I'm sorry, I lived through that when I was growing up, too. Disheartening

and depressing. But there is light at the end of the tunnel, and it's not too far away. Going away to college was the best thing. It really gives you a sense of separation, of personal integrity, more than just the breathing space. And learn how not to repeat the cycle.

Big hug! :hug:

[LuLu550]

21. I'm sorry

it is tough and as you can tell from previous posts, not that uncommon. If your dad is bipolar, try to remember he is ill just as much as if he had a physical disease.
Escape by putting on headphone and listening to music, learn relaxation exercises, find a support group. They are out there....
and come here for liberal hugs from your DU friends!

:hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug:

[Green Mountain Dem]

22. Been there....done that...

and I'm the father..now grandfather..sometimes the only people we are "assholes" to are the ones we love the most. You come to DU when you need to vent, and you come here cuz a lot of people care about you and you value their input. Where does dad turn when he needs to vent and receive support??

FWIW...I always remembered this when I was your age:

I promise I will be tolerant in my opinion of others, realizing that they may be actuated by motives which are unknown to me, and that under the same circumstances, I may have acted just as unwisely.

It has helped me thru a crisis or two.

[jus_the_facts]

23. At least it's not your neighbors.....your family will eventually.....

.....get over it and settle down....but the apartment neighbors are relentless and you can't even blast music to shut 'em out or YOU get in trouble...sorry man...I feel your pain as my neighbors won't EVER EVER SHUT THE FUCK UP...day and night..night and day screamin' at eachother and their poor kids who scream too on and on and on...sucks BEYOND BIG TIME!! x( {{{{{{{GOOD VIBES FOR YA}}}}}}}}} Hope it helps!:shrug:

[JohnKleeb]

24. Guys thank you

My dad and brother have calmed down and arent mad at me anymore.

[Green Mountain Dem]

25. Your Welcome....

to steal from your sig line...Cry for us all mighty God for the peace shall come.

[JohnKleeb]

26. I hope the peace shall come

BTW that is my own words, but I stole a little from my fave book All Quiet on the Western Front.

[soleft]

27. vibes for peace sent

[ikojo]

28. John Kleeb

You are among my favorite DU posters. I am so sorry that you are growing up in an environment such as that.

Your DU family cares about you. I know we are only a cyberfamily but we care.

:hug:

I hope that helps!

[JohnKleeb]

29. Its ok

Thanks.