My Ex is driving me craaaazy....Ugh

[bicentennial_baby]

He keeps calling to tell me how he doesn't ever want to talk to me again, over and over...He crys, he tells me he's suicidal...I've done everything I can to help him, but nothing works...I'm so tired of this. He's been my best friend for 15 years now, and I miss him...But, I can't deal with this... x(

[billyskank]

1. That sucks

:(

[bicentennial_baby]

4. Yeah, tell me about it

Thank Billy...the f'd up thing is, I broke up with him almost a year ago! :o

[Floogeldy]

2. Do you like it when he calls?

Otherwise, you would get a protective order or file charges, or something - - - whatever is available in your state. Or, you wouldn't answer the phone.

Let go, BB.

:smoke:

[bicentennial_baby]

5. It's not like that...

I just need to stop answering, it's true... sigh.

[Floogeldy]

11. You tried.

That is admirable.

:smoke:

[bicentennial_baby]

12. Well thank you,

I think. :)

[jpgray]

8. Floogeldy has arrived in another thread. The plot thins!

B-)

[bicentennial_baby]

10. personally,

:scared:

[Floogeldy]

Of course you are scared.

Your ex might commit suicide and you might be tempted to blame yourself.

Don't do that.

:smoke:

[bicentennial_baby]

21. Nope, I wouldn't

But that wasn't very nice of you to say...although I'm accustomed to expect nothing less from you... :shrug:

But no, I wouldn't...I know his mental problems extend faaaar beyond me...yep.

[Floogeldy]

23. I wonder.

You keep talking to him and putting up with him. That is quite an investment.

I hope both of you live long and happy lives.

[bicentennial_baby]

26. I know I will

Barring unforseen incidents. :)

You're...weird. i don't know about you, for real.

[amitten]

24. Stop smoking. n/t

[Floogeldy]

16. I'm flattered.

:blush:

[jpgray]

19. I don't know, that was mostly tedious and childish

Next time I'll do better.

;-)

[MrScorpio]

3. There's only one way to handle this

Ignore his drama. Don't even acknowledge it.

When he acts nice, then talk to him

He should get the message

[bicentennial_baby]

6. You're right...

Hi Papi!! How are you?! :hug:

Yeah, it's f'd up...He's nice for the first 10 minutes, and then, BAM! Ambush!! :crazy:

But yes, you are correct. :)

:loveya:

[ZombieNixon]

7. ...

:hug:

Also...wait a minnit...he keeps *calling* you to say how much he *doesn't* want to talk to you...umm...how much sense does that not make? :shrug:

[bicentennial_baby]

9. Uh yeah, exactly!!

That's what I just told him... :wtf:

[ZombieNixon]

13. Just don't answer.

My ex tried to call me a month ago, and I ignored her. No message, no nothing, and I haven't heard from her since. :D

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

14. So what's the Stalker Rating on this behavior, on a 1 to 10 scale?

[jpgray]

17. That's the Hinckley scale, yeah?

[bicentennial_baby]

18. Eh, he's better than my previous ex...

Who used to stand outside my window to hear me having sex with other guys...This one, he won't even come to my apartment, for fear of meeting my new bf!

[Redstone]

27. He used to WHAT?? BB, you need to choose your company a bit

more wisely. Take it from an old guy who's been a few places.

Redstone

[bicentennial_baby]

28. Oh that was a brazillion years ago!

The old, old, old days...I don't even know the "me" from that time, seriously. No worries :)

[Redstone]

32. "Don't know the 'me' from that time?"

You've tapped a universal truth right there. Most of us have such periods in our lives.

Redstone

[Redstone]

15. He's not your friend. Not anymore.

You need to cut it off, kiddo. Trust me on this. You're not doing yourself or him any favors by continuing to listen to him.

And if I recall correctly, there were some other factors that should tell you to cut off contact with him, yes?

(See, I CAN remember things now and again, if they relate to someone I like.)

Redstone

[bicentennial_baby]

20. Which factors?

Remind me...hehe, I'm tired, sorry...Have to get up early too... x(

But yes, which factors?

[Redstone]

22. You posted an absolutely gorgeous picture of yourself at age 18 or so

some time ago, and I complimented the photographer. You replied about him, and mentioned incarceration, I think. Or something else equally unpleasant.

Selective memory. Isn't it great? You, I remember. I'm damn tired as well, and hope this gives you the info you're looking for.

Redstone

[bicentennial_baby]

25. Oh, different ex!

Hahahaha...My torturous lovelife thus far..at the ripe ol age of 29. :D

NO, prison ex was from age 17-22, this one was from age 23-29. But, we've been friends since I was 14. He was (or so I thought) my "true love"...but, alas... :shrug:

hey you :hug:

[Redstone]

29. You've picked poorly in the past. You'll pick more wisely now and

in the future. Happens to all of us.

Get some sleep, m'dear. Sleep heals all. You can wonder and worry about it again tomorrow, but for now, head for bed, OK?

I'm gong to do the same. Perhaps we'll meet in the universe of dreams.

Redstone

[bicentennial_baby]

34. The future is now

I'm beyond happy...blissful. Healthy, mind-blowingly awesome relationship I have now...I'm blessed. All 3 of us are. Truly. :)

:hug: G'night.

[Redstone]

36. And I'm happy for you. You deserve it. Sweet dreams.

Redstone

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

30. That sucks.

I've had crazy ex's too. The best thing is probably just to not answer the phone.

:hug:

[Redstone]

33. Caller ID is your friend, isn't it?

Redstone

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

38. Yes, it is.

I once had to have my best friend pretend to my girlfriend to get rid of a stalker. After she did that for me, she won the title of a the best straight girl a lesbian could have.

[bicentennial_baby]

35. Yep

Thanks, you ;)

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

31. He's calling to not talk to you, and letting you know he's suicidal

Being manipulative or not, when someone claims to be suicidal, I take it seriously.

You don't have to talk with him, or be involved in any way beyond calling 911, or whoever should be called, to inform them that he's claiming to be suicidal, and where he can be found.

Other than that, there's nothing you can do, BB. :hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

37. Thanks

:hug:

[KG]

39. you need a new man in your life. a real man

a man with a cute dog. :)

[bicentennial_baby]

40. awwwww.....

Tempting baby.... :loveya:

But, I think sniffa might protest, hehe... :P

:hug: