am married to a freeper

[medeak]

for 30 yrs... can't take it anymore...DU has saved my sanity but now think I need to leave.

I just said "Dick Cheney" and was cut off by husband saying "I can't talk politics with you"

Am so terribly repressed.. just want to leave and move to a DU convent? Is there one? His friends feed him telling him they don't know how he could be married to a liberal...it's very sad.

and am sad. help!

[RagingInMiami]

1. How was he during the Clinton years?

[Random_Australian]

2. My best shot:

1) :hug:

2)Tell him that his friends denigrating you is making you sad, and you feel like you are bieng stigmatised for bieng a liberal; (those words are important, because the difference between the stylised 'liberal' that freeps believe in and the real you will get through to him. (I hope)

3) Decide what is more important, converting one person (plenty of fish in the sea for that) or just not discussing politics with him, and converting all the other repubs you can find, and keeping the relationship. Good idea tell him you are not going to talk politics with him.

4) I would also advise making it clear that you are going to be politically active, (the phrase "in order to work off the frustration I feel with you" may be helpful) and that way you can still bring about positive dem change.

Whatcha think?

[Lars39]

3. A DU sanctuary does sound appealing.

Is marriage counseling an option? :hug:

[Floogeldy]

4. Remain calm. When you want to talk about Cheney, keep talking.

If he doesn't like it, he can FUCKING LEAVE.

If he raises a hand, 911.

[Whoa_Nelly]

10. Best advice seen all night here

:thumbsup:


It is your home, too. ANd is most defintely your life, your mind, your right to have and voice an opnion.

[smtpgirl]

5. I ended a 4 year relationship because of that

personally I feel better, kind of lonesome at times, but at least I don't have to deal with it day after day.

I FEEL FOR YOU

I am looking for a person who does not believe in any right leaning ideals.


Anyone???

[jobycom]

6. I feel your pain. My thoughts

You can't talk politics with him. Give it up.

Now, the other questions you should ask: Do you feel repressed only on politics? Is this a symptom of something larger? Does he respect generally, even if he doesn't respect your political views? Etc. If there is no respect, there's no trust, there's no relationship. Get help, force him to listen, or consider more drastic options (doesn't mean a convent. Can mean something that forces him to realize what's at stake. Separation, in-house strike of some type, something.)

One more thought: I can't imagine any friend of anyone's insulting their spouse over politics unless he gives them permission or brings it up first. Either he has really bad friends and refuses to stick up for you over them, or he's starting it. Either way, not a good sign.

Just my thoughts. Apply them only if they make sense to you, I'm not a guru or anything.

[ismnotwasm]

7. No advice but here's a big hug for you

May everything work out the very, very best for you.
:hug:

[Zookeeper]

8. Ouch. Where to start?

After 30 years of marriage, it would seem that you two have something in common. Unless, you've spent all of that time raising a family. I would strongly suggest seeing a marriage counselor.

Aside from that obvious advice, I wonder how strong of a priority politics is for each of you. I know a lot of "mixed" couples (usually wife/Democrat, husband/Rethug) but politics is low on their list of priorities, usually because they are preoccupied with raising their kids.

If you could find a group of liberal friends (in real life, not virtual) to share your opinions with, would you be able to live with your husband and not talk about politics?

At the risk of adding fuel to the fire, the way that he is discussing you with his friends is disturbing. He is looking to them to support him against you. The way that you put it makes it sound like he is building a case against you. It's hard to believe that there isn't a lot more to this than political differences, although I suppose things are nasty and polarized enough right now (thanks to the Rethugs) for politics to be enough alienate partners from each other.

On a corny last note, Dear Abby always said to ask yourself if you would be better off in or out of the marriage. Do a very realistic evaluation of options, finances and emotional needs before you do anything else.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[JVS]

9. My parents were married for over 30 years, and if either of them...

had suggested breaking up the family because of politics I'd have kicked their ass. Don't let politics fuck with your family life. Remember that the rulers of this country (those within both parties) get along with each other in a usually congenial attitude. It isn't right for those of us at the bottom to sacrifice our relationships with family, when up top they get along well, go to the same parties, universities, fraternities, marry the same women (John Heinz-R, John Kerry-D have both had the same wife), and generally had a grand time together. Don't let yourself be played by martyring your life to politics, when the politicians themselves have fun.