How do you deal with whackos?

[GirlinContempt]

I mean, like really whacked out people?

People who, say, pretend to be DJs & musicians, and constantly follow you around and harass you, but are totally awful and clearly lying. People who put up websites dedicated to their musical released, except it's just poorly photo shopped crap and there's no coherent time line and the record label they claim to be on has never heard of them before? And they are always going on about tours to Germany & other parts of Europe, but they can't afford anything better than a geocities site, and their tour dates are impossibilities. And the local shows they claim to play never, ever have happened ever.

And this person just shows up and wants you to let them DJ while you're in the booth, follows you around, won't leave you alone?

Like, this person is beyond just weird, they seem like a pathological liar, or severely delusional (or both?)

I'd provide links as examples, but he just uh... 'released' a... er.... 'rap' track that is clearly made in fruityloops or some such, and is the worst thing ever to pollute the airwaves in the history of ever. But the real reason I wont share it, well, I'll let him explain that himself:

Please be aware that ***** is Aboriginal and is not in any way involved with nazism and has not had any thoughts of avenging ****'s Death, though this video will have a strong tissue of Racism and violence as it is for entertainment purposes only.

Like, seriously, he freaks the shit out of me. It's easy to laugh when I'm safe in my hope, but he's scary and creepy and weird.

[achtung_circus]

1. That

is a VERY personal question, thank you just the same.

[GirlinContempt]

2. Ew

:P

[achtung_circus]

3. OK, I read the post now

R*E*S*T*R*A*I*N*G O*R*D*E*R

Seriously, I can give you the Criminal Code citation, should you wish to approach the 'Peg's finest.

[GirlinContempt]

4. Doesn't he actually have to DO something?

I mean, before I could do something like that

[achtung_circus]

5. My Criminal Code is at work

and I'm off to bed, anyway.

But I believe it's a very liberal interpretation. It's not uttering threats, at least from what you posted, but some of the harrassment definitions might fit.

[GirlinContempt]

6. Maybe we'll have to find out

:)

[achtung_circus]

48. When approaching the police to register a concern

you are always in a stronger position if you can provide a citation.

From the Criminal Code of Canada, online http://laws.justice.gc.ca/en/c-46/267645.html|Criminal Code>

Intimidation

423. (1) Every one is guilty of an indictable offence and liable to imprisonment for a term of not more than five years or is guilty of an offence punishable on summary conviction who, wrongfully and without lawful authority, for the purpose of compelling another person to abstain from doing anything that he or she has a lawful right to do, or to do anything that he or she has a lawful right to abstain from doing,

(a) uses violence or threats of violence to that person or his or her spouse or common-law partner or children, or injures his or her property;

(b) intimidates or attempts to intimidate that person or a relative of that person by threats that, in Canada or elsewhere, violence or other injury will be done to or punishment inflicted on him or her or a relative of his or hers, or that the property of any of them will be damaged;

(c) persistently follows that person;

(d) hides any tools, clothes or other property owned or used by that person, or deprives him or her of them or hinders him or her in the use of them;

(e) with one or more other persons, follows that person, in a disorderly manner, on a highway;

(f) besets or watches the place where that person resides, works, carries on business or happens to be; or

(g) blocks or obstructs a highway.

Exception


(2) A person who attends at or near or approaches a dwelling-house or place, for the purpose only of obtaining or communicating information, does not watch or beset within the meaning of this section.

On edit: Bolding the appropriate pieces.

[khashka]

33. I agree with achtung circus

Restraining order. He doesn't have to DO anything. It's a hassle but you can get a temporary restraining order, You have the right to live your life without some creepy guy bugging you and creeping you out.

Khash.

[EstimatedProphet]

43. It may depend on the municipality

I had a stalker once (!), and the police told me there really wasn't anything i could do about it. Apparently a restraining order was out of the question.

[asthmaticeog]

7. Wait 'til he's drunk, push him in the river.

Presto, "accidental" drowning, problem solved.

Sounds like a fucking masterpiece of psychosis, sorry he latched on to you.

[GirlinContempt]

8. Yeah, it's uh...

special.

Check your pm in a min

[Wetzelbill]

9. I finally put one on Ignore a few weeks ago

:)

Now your situation, that is a tough one.

You might have no choice but to just tell them to let you be. If they make you that uncomfortable, I think walking on eggshells around the issue probably won't do much. I don't know if this is something you would want to let the police know about, but if you let the person know you want to be left alone and they ignore it, you may eventually have to file a complaint or something. Restraining order might actually be a good idea.

[GirlinContempt]

10. Oh, I've told him to fuck off

I'm a pretty straightforward kinda girl. But he's CRAZY. And part of the problem may be that when he harasses a guy I work with, the guy is... nicer... to him.
I dunno, yeah, it's weird.

[Wetzelbill]

12. oh hell

definite restraining order time. Also get your colleague in line with you on this. This guy sounds pretty screwed up. :)

[bridgit]

11. they're part of the floor show around here...

:rofl:

[Wetzelbill]

14. didn't I tell you not to refer to me like that?

The doctor said the meds will make me perfectly normal! Honest!

:rofl:

[bridgit]

23. dad gum voodoo/sangria witch doctor & his co-pay'z anyhow...

:rofl:

[GirlinContempt]

15. Do you have a sarin smoke machine?

I'm thinking of investing, I could use some tips, but I can't find anything on epinions.net

[bridgit]

24. would that it were so...

:-)

[GirlinContempt]

26. Hm, you and I both

What say we devise some sort of device? :D

[bridgit]

29. sure, a couple feet of plastic tubing, a bell jar with a busted up...

porcelain doll head with half the hair singed off/receptacle for the sarin, an egg timer, and a modest battery operated aquarium pump seems like it'd do the job :thumbsup: oh and duct tape...you simply have to have duct tape

[GirlinContempt]

30. I'll get some scale models going

Not that I don't trust you, doll, but theres not much error wiggleroom

[bridgit]

31. not with nerve gas no ma'am...

[ghostsofgiants]

13. I try to avoid sketchbags at all costs, but have no tips for you...

Aside from become a hermit like me.

[GirlinContempt]

17. Wanna be my bodyguard?

[ghostsofgiants]

22. If by "bodyguard" you mean "guy who gets killed a minute before you do"...

Sure, why the hell not?

[GirlinContempt]

25. Yeah

I'd end up saving your sorry ass ;)

[ghostsofgiants]

28. Yeah, something tells me you'd be able to kick far more ass than I could.

[ScreamingMeemie]

16. That is the liner note for that track?? Wow...

Well, I wouldn't deal with him at all. I'd let the police do it. Does he show up everytime you are at work? Be safe.

[GirlinContempt]

19. Yeah, it is.

Not EVERY time, but often enough. Thanks MrsG :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. Here is what I did with my ex.

I contacted the police. They wrote it up. He was basically calling incessantly for a week and a half...scaring the heck out of my daughter. A photo was circulated to her school and my place of employment and the police paid him a visit...basically letting him know he was on "notice" and to cut it out.

I hope this ends soon. I'm frightened for anyone who deals with this. :hug:

[GirlinContempt]

27. Well, I'll see whats what with the whatting

:hug: You're sweet :)

[WCGreen]

18. I feel your pain sister.....

See my sig line....

there was an element of truth to that....

[GirlinContempt]

21. Indeed

thanks WCGreen

[Monk06]

32. He is probably a high functioning manic depressive maybe.....

With drug and/or alcohol issues.

I had the same thing happen to me today.

Guy rolls up to me and asks for a cigarette.
I give him one and he immediately strikes up
a conversation. He begins to tell my his life
story in fragmented bits. He talks incessantly.
When I say something to him he doesn't hear
correctly or misunderstands me. I realize my
comments are just a means for him to carry on
his monologue.

To make a long story short he asks me where I'm
going and could he walk along with me.

"Sure." My mistake.

After five blocks I realized he was going to follow
me to my front door however far away that is and
I'll have to slam my door in his face.

If you work in a bar get the management to refuse to admit
him next time he shows up. Get the bouncer to evict him
if he somehow gets in. Don't call the bouncer yourself
You don't want to let him to think that you got him barred.

[GirlinContempt]

36. Did he follow you

all the way?

[Monk06]

40. Almost to my doorstep but luckily he ran into someone he knew and

said his goodbyes.

I was pretty relieved. I empathise
with your story. It's hard to be rude to someone who
is overly friendly but at a certain point their over
friendlyness turns to agression. It's just a matter
of time.

You either have to establish boundaries with this
guy and how he isn't a stalker or take steps to
keep him away.

He's fixated on you because he needs someone to share
his fantasies. Who knows what fantasies he is creating
about you and I don't mean sex. He may be telling everyone
that you are his producer or a scout for a record label.

Better deal with it soon GiT

[Omphaloskepsis]

34. You talking about DJ Phazz...?

If you are, I'm stunned I remembered that.

[GirlinContempt]

35. Yeah

[Beware the Beast Man]

37. Hey, I use Fruity Loops!

Oh...

[Ohio Joe]

38. Restraining Order

While certainly not a perfect solution, it sounds like you should get one.

[ThomCat]

39. I avoid family reunions.

[Deep13]

41. Complaint to cops, take routine security measures.

If you are the DJ, have him thrown out of the club. Alter your routine so your path is not predictible. Make sure you park in the open and not some secluded lot.Be ready to make a lot of noise if confronted. Maybe consider a 0.380 caliber companion.

[Misunderestimator]

42. It's impossible to treat them as you would a reasonable person...

Some people just cannot be reasoned with... especially when they are deluding themselves. There's lots of degrees of whackiness out there... this one sounds a little over the deep-end. Good luck with this... sounds like a restraining order may be in order in the near future.

[HEyHEY]

44. Aww, come on, he LIKES you, give the guy a chance

[Sugar Smack]

45. Look at THIS LINK, honey!!!!

http://hollabacknyc.blogspot.com/

*eeeee* :* :bounce: :loveya: :hi:

[EstimatedProphet]

46. I used to have a nutcase stalk me

He was small and geeky, and was almost a carbon copy of the Ratzo Rizzo character from Midnight Cowboy. Think it could be the same guy? For your sake I hope not. I couldn't ge rid of this clown-he was the human equivalent of tar.

[cobalt1999]

47. I avoid Kevin Federline too, but I suppose

you could call Britney and ask her to come and get him. :)