Is it true that it's not how you look, it's how you feel about yourself?

[Deja Q]

:shrug:

[hfojvt]

1. maybe so

but the cute and fuzzy bunnies usually feel pretty good about themselves too, the smug, arrogant bastids :argh:

[pink-o]

2. it only becomes true when you're old

like me!!! And it's because you have no choice.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

5. Absolutely right

when you get older, you finally give up and it is so freeing.

[riona]

11. And, you can wear peculiar clothes

and try out weird hair colors.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

12. And say very naughty things!

[miss_american_pie]

3. Of course it is

:hi:

[Nikia]

4. It depends, but usually

People who are confident usually are more attractive than people who are not. Regardless of how attractive you are or think you are, feeling good about yourself will help your general mental health and have more confidence in whatever you do.
Yes, sometimes very attractive people who feel lousy about themselves get approached in a dating situation but the relationship won't get very far if the person feels lousy about themselves. If they stay together, it might not be that good of deal with the person with lousy self esteem because abusive people are often attracted to that type or discover that they can walk all over that person.

[auntAgonist]

6. I think they go hand in hand

at least for me. I've gained more confidence lately. I know I look better than I did when I was MUCH MUCH heavier. I've slimmed down, I feel good about that, therefore I feel good about me. My self esteem has risen a bit. When I dress and I look good, I feel good. Importantly though, my mindset tells me I'm healthier, and I'm someowhat proud of what I've accomplished. disjointed answer perhaps. But that's the way "I" see it for_me.

aA

:hug:

[zanne]

7. Of course it's how you feel!

Especially now that I've reached a certain age, I think about all the fuss I'd go through to get ready to go to work, etc., and the obssession I had with my appearance. Now that I'm 54, it's the other way around--it's MY turn to look at OTHER people! For the first time, I can really appreciate how beautiful young people are, though I wouldn't want to be young again myself. And, call me a dirty old lady, but now I really like to see a well-sculpted man. In other words, I'm not concerned with what other people think of my appearance--I'm more interested in THEIR appearance!

[ForrestGump]

8. Yes

Unless you live in Los Angeles... :D

[fleabert]

9. kinda. i also think how you look affects how you feel about yourself

it's circular. If you do the best with what you've got, then you tend to feel better about how you look, and when you feel better about how you look, you feel better in general about yourself, and then tend to look even better, and so on and so forth.

watch 'what not to wear' for transformations - most all participants talk about feeling much better about themselves afterwards.

[xchrom]

10. yes -- think about the variety successful of people and drive.

people -- to a large extent -- propel themselves forward in the world by mastering their ''self image'' and whatever negative internal dialogue they might have.

it's not that they don't make mistakes -- but they don't let those mistakes undermine their fundamental belief to get what it is they are after.

[xmas74]

13. To an extent.

When you feel good about yourself you tend to smile more and carry yourself well. People tend to prefer that to someone who only smirks or frowns all the time.

[tjdee]

14. If you're a man, yes.

People, in my experience, are more willing to look past a guy's looks. If he thinks he's smart, he's got confidence and feels good about himself, he's a "go getter" and "ambitious". Everyone likes a confident man who is comfortable with himself.

If you're a woman....it is possible...but not as much of a sure thing.

But then, there is something to be said about being at peace with yourself. An unattractive person at peace with him/herself, and who likes him/herself, is going to be happy. And people who are at peace are way better to be around than the best looking uptight jerk.

[Ivan Sputnik]

15. To an extent

Attitude counts for a lot. People with an appealing "character" can be considered attractive even if they aren't conventionally handsome/beautiful. Probably more true for men than for women.

[pink-o]

16. All Glibness Aside....

I seriously look better than I did in my 30s, because I was on the yo-yo diet wheel and almost anorexic at times. Since then, I've discovered a very healthy, non-extreme lifestyle with food and exercise I sincerely love. I can tell you from experience that your confidence goes thru the roof when you take good care of your body. Men taught me a lot--all about working out and doing positive things for yourself instead of starving and being too weak to even get out of bed at times! So my recommendation to all is try to live as healthy as possible and you'll look great!