Would you have rather loved and lost - than never have loved at all?

[WWW]

I was thinking today about this quote about my pets, and then I thought about humans who I have lost and loved, and I guess overall I am glad that I loved. I sometimes think I am the last person in the world who should have kids, a husband and pets because I love them so much and I fear the pain that will follow if I lose them.Your thoughts?
sorry edited for poor grammar.

[JaySherman]

1. YES

Without love, we become are nothing but empty shells. Just look at the Republicans.

[WWW]

2. Do you think that is the thing that

sets us apart from Republicans? I do. I think Democrats are a bunch of romantics who live every day to the fullest.

[Deja Q]

3. Personally? No.

I loved once.

Was betrayed.

I want to love again. But I know it will never happen.

Besides, I am not loveable.

All I have are memories and longing. At least I could simply have been merely longing. The memories hurt too much.

Oh well, applesauce happens. Best thing to do is to make lemonade out of it.

[WWW]

17. But there is something in your life that you love

Right? Like DU, a perfect meal, a great movie? Plus, I know a lot of people on DU think you are very loveable. :)You have great posts that I treasure....

[JanMichael]

4. Yup. No question.

I don't regret any pain caused by failed or lost love.

Not a once.

[Droopy]

5. When I saw the headline

I was thinking of the more romantic kind of love and not the kind I have for my relatives.

I'm single and I don't have a special person in my life. I don't think I've ever had that. Maybe never will.

As far as my relatives are concerned, I love them all and would never change that. Even my cat. She's getting old and I know it will not be long until the end, but my world has been enriched by her presence in my life.

[WWW]

10. So... would you have been better off without her?

Of course not...:)
sorry poor grammar again!

[greatauntoftriplets]

6. Far better to have loved...

...even if you have lost. And I am talking people, not pets. An experience I would NEVER trade.

[mikehiggins]

7. Absolutely, but I was lucky. I'm still in love thirty years later n/t

[Don_G]

8. Beauty's Princely Majesty Is Such

To confound the tongue, and make it rough....

[WWW]

9. beautiful n/t

[WWW]

18. is that shakespeare?

[ProudGerman]

11. Losing love sucks

It hurts more than it feels good when you have it. Though I still long for it. Guess I'm a glutton for punishment.


I just wanna make someone happy, is that too much to ask for?

[shanti]

12. yes, painful as it was

i learned so much from each "lost" relationship.

[Nikia]

13. I have pondered this recently but, yes

We must take the good with the bad. With joys, there are also sorrows, maybe even more sorrows. Anyone who I truly cared for, I was glad for the time we spent even if I no longer get to see them again, even if things ended badly. They were all worth it. I am talking mostly about friends who I no longer see, but it is true for all relationships even human-pet.

[populistmom]

14. Loved and lost

Sometimes love can be lost in a multitude of ways and to go through life without it is simply too hard. I believe we need these connections to feel alive, to truly be our best selves. Part of being human is also loss, whether it is due to death, abdandonment, or betrayal. It hurts like absolute Hell, and sometimes we need time to process it all, but we can't let it shut us down forever out of fear or we stop being all that we were meant to be. We deny other people from loving us and getting love from us. Sometimes, you just have to take certain leaps, even if logic tells you otherwise.
:loveya:

[WWW]

16. To love is to be loved

even for a little while...

[SOteric]

15. I have loved and lost

more than once.

Pain doesn't erase the joy, the tendernesses, the impact of a life you share for however long or short a time. It changes the texture of your joy, the rememberance of things past, but we each chose as individuals how the loss will affect us.

I remember chatting with my doctor one day some years back about my cat. He wistfully made the comment, "they live such short lives."

They do, it's true. But they live lives, and I have the opportunity to be important in this little dude's life, and he in mine. I can't help thinking we'd both be the poorer without that opportunity.

[corarose]

19. I have been on both ends in the past and it was over 10 years ago

One thing you don't do is allow others to get involved and tell you what to do.
Hopefully when you get older you learn from your mistakes in the past and you change them before it's too late.

I listened to my friends one time and I dumped a nice guy and it was too late to turn the hands back in time. The people that told me to dump him are now long gone and I am sitting here alone.

Still is was better to Love then not have Loved someone at all.

[Bertha Venation]

20. Absolutely. No question. n/t

[camero]

21. Yes

Even with all the pain, it is still the best life experience you can have.

[dolo amber]

22. That's like asking

"Would you rather I poke you in the eye with this razor-sharp knife or with this pointy stick?"

Sucks out loud, either way.