So this guy from MySpace wants to take me to Italy

[yvr girl]

Should I go?

[Midlodemocrat]

1. Okay, just tell me it wasn't my brother.

because he is getting married in June and going to Italy on his honeymoon.

:scared:

[yvr girl]

5. He's already proposed so

maybe

[Midlodemocrat]

7. How do you feel about 4 year old very, very precocious

little girls and anger management?

Just curious.

[yvr girl]

26. Lock them in their room?

Not sure. I'm pretty laid back. But I was a pretty good kid, and might not tolerate poor behaviour well.

[Midlodemocrat]

29. Apparently, I wasn't clear.

The anger management is for my brother. :bounce:

[yvr girl]

31. I wouldn't be so good with that

I expect better behaviour from adults.

[Midlodemocrat]

37. Sorry. You are out of luck.

Too bad. He's rich, handsome and liberal.


Please choose from the lovely departing gifts behind the red curtain.

:P

[yvr girl]

46. But does he hit?

Wouldn't matter how rich, handsome or liberal he was then.

[Midlodemocrat]

51. Hello? Of course not.

He is a LIBERAL.

He just yells at people while he is driving. Quite funny actually.

[yvr girl]

53. We sheltered battered women at my house when I was a kid

I'm very cautious of guys with anger management problems.

[Midlodemocrat]

58. I was just being snarky.

He is a great guy. He yells at bad drivers from within the confines of his car.

Sorry, yvr. Didn't mean to upset/offend you.

[yvr girl]

64. I'm not offended

I've been known to yell at bad drivers too. I can deal with that.

[LSK]

2. does he drive a 1978 Chevy Van?

:popcorn:

[yvr girl]

3. An NSX

whatever that is.

[LSK]

6. expensive sports car

How do you know he really has one and not a 1978 Chevy Van?

:popcorn:

[yvr girl]

12. He has a picture of himself standing in front of one

You CAN'T fake that.

[LSK]

15. i have a picture of me in a Ferrari

Yes you can fake that.

[yvr girl]

49. He has a picture of a big house too

You don't think he could be faking that too. Damn.

[ContraBass Black]

72. I have a picture of my driving a Porshe when I was 14.

Not that it really happened.

[yvr girl]

78. lol

[bigwillq]

4. Um

that would be NO!


How long have you known him?
Have you met him in person?

Start there first!

[yvr girl]

11. I've known him since Tuesday

online.

[LSK]

13. tuesday as in the day before yesterday???????

:wow: :spank:

[yvr girl]

28. Not long enough?

Or am I wasting time?

[LSK]

33. wouldnt meeting for coffee in a crowded place be a better 1st date?

Maybe Im just old fashioned....

[yvr girl]

50. He offered to fly here to take me for dinner

But I think that might raise his expectations a bit.

[GOPisEvil]

57. Hmmm...you two should go to Monk's.

The chicken was really good. So was the wine. :9

[yvr girl]

65. C'mon, he says he's a doctor

I'm going to go for Lumiere at least. (Home of Vancouver's own Iron Chef.)

[bigwillq]

14. Ok then

A BIG NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

[yvr girl]

30. You're no fun.

:cry:

[bigwillq]

35. I'm just trying to protect you.

Yes, I have done crazy stupid things with strangers but I have never gone to Italy with a man I met two days ago!

[yvr girl]

54. I haven't technically MET him

Details, details.

[bigwillq]

56. Are you planning to?

:shrug:

[yvr girl]

66. He's trying to pin me down for a date in April

And so far I'm being evasive.

(For dinner, not Italy.)

[bigwillq]

67. is he cute?

:shrug:

[yvr girl]

69. Very cute

Yes, indeed.

[bigwillq]

73. Does he have a job?

:shrug:

[yvr girl]

77. He says he's a surgeon

I don't have proof though.

[bigwillq]

79. Get the proof.

Surgeon! EEK! He can cut you into little pieces. :scared:

[yvr girl]

80. What a pleasant thought

Yikes.

[bigwillq]

81. But see?!??!

That's why you really need to find out all about this guy! Especially before you go to Italy!


:)

[CarpeDiebold]

95. If he's really a surgeon, ask him what he made on his step 1 and mcat

mcat scores are between 0-45 and step 1 is between 180-ish and 300.

if he says something like oh i made a 92 on each, he's a liar. if he gives you a number in that range, then you can know he's not totally lying. you can't be sure he's a *surgeon* but you can know he's not lying at least.

or if there's a simpler way to see if he's a surgeon, then by all means...lol

[ZombieNixon]

8. Is this the same guy who wanted to show you his dick?

If yes, then no.
If not, then still no.
No.

[yvr girl]

17. Someone sent me a picture

He wanted to prove that he was posting naked too. Different guy.

[ZombieNixon]

25. Hmm...you seem to attract naked people.

Why is this?

Could it be because *you* occasionally post naked? Hmm? :freak: :tinfoilhat:

:P

[yvr girl]

32. I post naked

but I don't post naked pictures.

[ZombieNixon]

40. It's the thought that counts.

:P

[beyurslf]

9. I'd go. Just bring enough moeny to get your own hotel if you need to :)

[yvr girl]

19. I know what you mean

I mentioned this as a concern.

[djeseru]

10. It's not really Italy.

He's just going to give you some of those Chevy Tahoe shrooms when you two get to the airport.

:scared:

[yvr girl]

43. He lives in a different city and province

[TK421]

16. It wasn't this guy, was it?

[yvr girl]

20. No

Who is that?

[TK421]

22. The psycho from Silence of the Lambs- Buffalo Bill

[DS1]

18. As you're not blonde, if you disappear you have no hope of the

American media trying to find you..

[yvr girl]

21. What about the Canadian media?

I can go blonde for summer, just in case.

[Midlodemocrat]

27. Thank you for posting that. I, too, am concerned for yvr's

well being. It is what makes DU such a caring community.

[yvr girl]

34. You know I'm kidding right

I actually was asked, but I'm a cautious soul.

[Midlodemocrat]

42. No. Actually. As we speak, I have the

RCMP searching for you to bring you back into the fold of those who love you. Here. At DU.

What do you need an anonymous myspace guy for? You have DS1, matcom, underpants, kick-ass-bob....

Way better than some guy who will want you to *gasp* do his laundry....

[yvr girl]

45. those guys are all married or taken

I had a different guy offer to do my laundry.

[Midlodemocrat]

47. YVR!!! That is what is so awesome!!!

NO COMMITMENT!!!!! Just fun and games and fun and games!!!!!!

:bounce:

[yvr girl]

52. I went on a date with laundry guy

but there was no zing.

[Midlodemocrat]

59. Okay, but did he do the LAUNDRY!!!!!

Cuz, to me, that is huge. Way better than zing.....

:bounce:

[yvr girl]

68. I met him at the restaurant

First date, Internet - must be a little careful.

[DS1]

75. Actually, I think he said Greece

as in do it like they did in Greece...

[miss_american_pie]

23. Take yourself to Italy

and have a fling with someone named Mario.

[yvr girl]

36. It's so much better when someone else is paying

He's a doctor after all.

[miss_american_pie]

38. I have a feeling

you'd wind up paying one way or another.

[yvr girl]

41. mmm...

with my virtue perhaps.

[miss_american_pie]

44. And that would be the "good" outcome

:scared:

[philosophie_en_rose]

24. Maybe.

Questions to consider:

Do you trust this guy? Why?
Do you think you'd enjoy this man's company? Why?
Why is he offering to take you to Italy?
Have you ever met in person?
Is there a way to know each other before going to Italy?
Do you have the resources to go immediately home, should you need to?
Do you speak Italian? Could you ask for help, in case of axe murderer?
Do your expectations of the trip match his?


It's up to you. I'm naturally cautious, so I'd be nervous about going. More likely, I'd plan a trip on my own and then meet him there for sightseeing or casual dating first. I admire you for your sense of adventure.

[yvr girl]

39. I'm cautious too

He wants to take me out to dinner too - he lives about a 1000 miles away (or so.)

[DerekG]

48. A reading of Grimms' fairy tales might be more advantageous

Said tales are host to a bevy of very trusting and stupid young women who find themselves preyed upon by the crafty.

Don't be trusting.

Don't be stupid.

[yvr girl]

55. Even if I bring my horseshoe and my 4-leaf clover

I'm sure everything would be OK.

[DerekG]

61. I'm not being facetious. Not in the slightest.

Allow me to play big brother when I tell you, by way of Yeats, "the world's more full of weeping than you can understand."

[yvr girl]

70. Just what I need, another big brother

(I have 4)

But I appreciate the concern.

[Skittles]

60. I will be in Sicily next week

yes INDEED :D

[yvr girl]

71. Well if we go next week and he gets out of hand

Will you kick his ass for me?

Have fun!

[Skittles]

82. looking to kick some Scalia-type ass

but some of those Italians..... *SWOON*

[yvr girl]

84. They're all hands

Just warning you.

[ProfessorGAC]

87. Cool!

Say hi to famiglia mia while you're there. Grazie!
The Professor

[ProfessorGAC]

88. Cool!

Say hi to famiglia mia while you're there. Grazie!
The Professor

[Vidar]

62. Italy's great even as a fantasy.

[yvr girl]

74. I must say,

I like the way he thinks. Much better than Vegas or something.

[Dangerously Amused]

63. Take Skittles with you for protection.

Then, and ONLY then... okay.















Edit: Spelling.

[yvr girl]

76. Skittles could handle him

But I have 4 older brothers, so I did learn a few tricks of my own.

[Skittles]

83. yes.....I have five brothers......they're not completely worthless HUH!

they taught me not to be "like a girl" :D

[yvr girl]

85. A kick to solicit opinions from the day crowd

[Mrs.Matcom]

86. Good Morning Sunshine

Tell you what. If you go I will call some of my 'family' that is still in the old country and let them know to keep an eye on the so called doctor. You will be fine...oh, I know you have four brothers, but these 'cousins' are all women named Lorena...if you get my drift :D :* :hi:

[yvr girl]

98. I do get your drift

If he's bad, I'll take him to Boston on the way home and get Matcom to run him over with a tank. He can borrow one for the day can't he?

[leeroysphitz]

89. Why bother when you can get EXCELLENT Itallian food

right here at home and for a great price at one of our many family friendly "Olive Garden" locations in the U.S. and Canada.

[SteppingRazor]

90. If you go with this guy, DS1's thread here describes what will happen:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x4964022

[Robb]

91. I was looking for the HELL NO option in the poll

Just consider: would I want to spend time socially with someone who hangs out online all the time? :rofl:

[radwriter0555]

92. Why doncha have him come to your town first for a date? Then if he's

like way too hot, go for it, why not?

Google his name and check him out with the AMA to see if he's legit. Easy to find out.

What kind of surgery?

[DanCa]

93. How can he afford that on his 20 dollar aweek allowance?

Though I can't fault him for his taste :D

[DrGonzoLives]

94. Jesus, no one ever responds to messages I send there

What am I, some kind of loser.

Wait, I am. I forget sometimes.

[billyskank]

96. No! Go with me instead!

:hi:

[SouthoftheBorderPaul]

97. I took my girlfriend to Italy

Actually, we had broken up a couple of weeks before. Anyway, it was DISASTEROUS.

I would suggest spending a lot of time with him beforehand to learn as much about this person as possible. Also, clear up any mystery....is there an expectation of sharing a bed, physical intimacy, etc. Make sure both parties are on the same page.

I've travelled with love interests a few times with varying results but the reoccuring theme is that travel is stressful and brings out a side of someone's personality you might not have seen. You will get to know that person better than before. The catch is, you may end up not liking that person....and then you're stuck with them for what can seem like an eternity.

The best experiences I've had traveling with a love interest is when there is LOTS of prior communication about the relationship and expectations.

Just my $0.02.

[northzax]

99. are you willing to put out?

I think that's expected from such a gesture.

oh, come on, I'm a guy, we expect it for taking you to McDonald's.

[name not needed]

100. He just wants you for your skin.

[yvr girl]

101. My skin?

I'm sure he has his own.

[name not needed]

102. .

[gardenista]

103. I don't know if this is a serious question.

But I'd be highly suspicious of anyone who started making promises like that right off the bat.

sounds like a guy, who in the best of circumstances, doesn't think things through.

Or he could be a guy who offers to take lots of women to Italy.

Go to Italy under your own steam, if you want to go.

Sounds like you're more into the money than him. Just mho.

[yvr girl]

104. I would never go to Italy with a man I don't know

The offer happened - I just thought I'd have some fun with it in the lounge.

[gardenista]

105. Whew!

Ok, so it's not a serious question.

Good.

[XemaSab]

106. My friend went to Russia with a guy she met on the 'net

And she said he was such a jerk that she had real trouble not strangling HIM!!!!!!