I am frustrated

[windy252]

I am frustrated because I can’t seem to find a mate in real-life. I work out and I feel confident and I’m good with my hygiene and other than my gut, which I am working on, I think I’m fairly good-looking. It just seems that I see everyone with someone but myself. What am I doing wrong?:dilemma:

[MissMillie]

1. There's no way of telling, really

It could just be that the universe is telling you that it's not time for you to have a mate.

But then again, don't listen to me. I'm still alone after being on this planet after nearly 42 years. I can't begin to understand what happened to all the partnerships I thought for sure would be "the one" that would last.

[hfojvt]

2. You are not seeing all the other people who are alone.

It gets tough when you get out of school and you are not surrounded by Brazilians of people of the opposite (or same for GLBTs) sex.

[Shine]

3. You're not doing anything "wrong". Re-frame your internal conversation.

to one of Abundance and Fulfillment, instead of Make Wrong and Scarcity. Trust that you're doing just fine and stay OPEN, in your heart. Worrying about what you don't have only closes your energy down and constricts it. Focus on loving yourself and being happy and content, within. That's the true secret. It's corny, but true,: you need to love yourself first before you can fully love another.

:loveya:

My two cents. :hug:

On edit: Welcome to DU, my friend. :toast: I wish you abundant blessings of Love and Inner Peace.

[khashka]

4. I second everything Shine said

It's real easy to believe you need someone else. But what we all really need is to believe in ourselves, love ourselves.... so that when we do meet that special someone we have something to offer to the relationship, other than just neediness.....

You won't always be alone. Consider this time as a break in which you can develope yourself, grow, learn, have interesting experiences.

And keep your eyes open - the people who love us and want us are often not the people we expect.

Khash.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

6. Beautifully said!

:hug::loveya::beer:

[windy252]

5. I'm kicking this to see if anyone else wants to say anything

[GoddessOfGuinness]

7. You're not doing anything wrong

Enjoy your freedom. Revel in the fact that you can do things your way without having to compromise. Take the time to get to know and love yourself while you have it. :hug:

[Alleycat]

8. When you find out let me know

I'm pushing 42 been divorced from hubby #1 since 31. I've had a few OK only two longish relationships, a few dates here and there but as of late nothing. I haven't enen met anyone who sparks any interest.