advice?

[fizzgig]

sorry for the emo bullshit beforehand

my dad has four daughters (maybe more kids floating around)

i can't stand the two my dad had before me with another woman

i've met them both once and talked to them a few times

they want nothing to do with my father, a man who plays father to all those who don't have one, a man with so much love it boggles my mind (i may be biased because he's my dad, but he loves anyone who needs it)

my dad has tried so hard with the two of them and it breaks my heart to see the hurt he won't vocalize about the two of them

not too long i told my dad he better specify in his will what they will get, because i won't give them a damn thing (i know that was a hurtful thing to say, but my dad and i don't hold anything back)

is it wrong that i hate and resent them?

how can i be a better daughter to the man i love more than anything?

[petronius]

1. I don't see the problem here...

"Hate and resent" may be a bit strong, but it's perfectly normal to dislike people who are causing pain to someone you love. About all you can do is try not to let your dad see your feelings, and support (or at least not hinder) his attempts to reach out to them.

As for the will, it's a very good idea to ask him to specify clearly his wishes for after he's gone as you certainly want to be sure to do what he would/will want.

It sounds as thought you're a great daughter...

[Maddy McCall]

2. Question: Were you raised by your father?

Were the two girls before you raised by your father? Was your father married to the mother of the other two girls?

Could it be that the two other girls (how old are y'all?) resent you if you were raised by your father and they were not? They may feel abandoned by your father.

You say that your father may have other children out there that he doesn't know about? Whoa. That's quite a statement.

Are you now closer to your dad than the two girls are? Were they once close to him? Why do you feel that it would be your authority to "give them anything" when your father passes? That statement alone shows that maybe you are favored by your father over them, or at least you perceive yourself to be the favored child.

There are just too many questions you need to answer before anyone can give you advice.

[fizzgig]

3. the mother of the two girls in question

ran out on him, he's never even seen the youngest except for pictures

the distance is not by his own doing, and this is not daddy's little girl talking, he has tried and it breaks my heart to see him so upset by the fact that they don't want anything to do with them, especially because the woman went after the younger one with a 13 inch knife

as for the other children my father my or may not have, it was the 60s and he was a man whore...my mom (my parents are now divorced) used to joke that other men wouldn't let their women down-wind of my dad

i've come to terms with that part

and yes, my dad was in the house when i was growing up and he's the only family i have left in my area...he is the most supportive person i have in my life