Christmas is ruined

[Roon]

Everything was going fine until my brother came in to town.My brother is a successful attorney and he is addicted to meth.It's the craziest thing I have ever seen,how a person with so much time and money invested into a law degree would risk losing it all because he wants to tweak and play with his peepee.I swear,the whole planet is losing it's mind.

The meth addicts don't want to quit...they whine that everything is a "trigger".Going online is a trigger,having a phone is a trigger,renting a car is a trigger. It's total bullshit.Meth aint that great of a drug. The downside of using meth is severe enough to cancel out any high you get from it.I just don't get these people who won't quit.

This meth is really hitting the gay community hard and no one has a solution.I guess all we can do is just watch the addicts rot away until they die,there is nothing that can be done about it.

My brother is slowly killing himself and I am in mourning. I just don't feel like celebrating Christmas this year.

[wildhorses]

1. will a hug help....sorry about your brother

:hug:

[Roon]

2. Thanks!

I am having a really rough time and that helps!

[wildhorses]

5. any time....I know what you are going through

and it is a tough thing to watch....especially during the holidays

[neweurope]

3. Poor Roon. It's terrible to see a friend or relative go that way.

:hug: I'm truly sorry.

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Remember Fallujah

Bush to The Hague!

[Roon]

4. Thanks

I really appreciate it.

[rbnyc]

6. SUCKS!!

I can relate, because I've dealt with heroin addiction in my family. Heroin shuts off your heart so that you no longer love anything or anyone you used to love, and are living exclusively for your next fix.

I also have a friend who is struggling to get off meth, and I'm similarly perplexed. He's got so much going for him. Why flush it for such a stupid drug?

Addictions are very hard to deal with.

Your brother isn't from NYC area is he?

Check out:

http://www.gaycenter.org/Surveys/crystal

This is a program of the community center where I used to work for 5 years. It's an amazing place.

Best of luck to you and your family.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

8. All substance abuse warps one's perception of reality

[rbnyc]

9. Hi NSMA

Wish I could have met up with you in CA. So much to do, so little time.

I think we will go back there as soon as possible. We loved it so much.

:hi:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

12. Look forward to seeing you next time

It wasn't a good time for me anyway. Glad you enjoyed yourselves.

[Debbi801]

7. I'm sorry. for both you and your brother. I hope he gets the help he needs

:hug:

[Redstone]

10. I can only offer sympathy and good wishes, and hope that helps,

because, try as I may, I cannot think of one word of advice. Sure wish I did, though.

Hang in there.

Redstne

[BlackVelvet04]

11. I'm sorry he has ruined your christmas.....

I highly recommend you go to an Al-anon meeting or it's equivalent for the friends and family of drug abusers. You need support. You can learn how to effectively deal with your emotions about his drug use. You can learn how to not allow his destructive behavior to ruin your experiences.

He's still alive and where there is life there is hope. Learning how to relate to him differently can be the impetus to his getting help.

I do know how you feel....my brother and father are recovering alcoholics.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

13. Since he is home,. you may want to get professional assistance

and schedule an intervention. Being a practicing attorney, he can lose his ticket to practice since most state bars have sanctions for drug addictions.

It wouldn't alter the outcome of this holiday season necessarily, but it might make for a happier future for you, him and the rest of your family.

Best wishes for your own well being in all of this.

[KitchenWitch]

14. My heart goes out to you

I would like to echo the sentiment of another poster who suggested you find an Alanon group to attend. Alanon will give you strategies to detach from your brother and his addicted behavior.

:hug:

[Roon]

15. Thanks to all who replied!

I took a nap and feel a little better.