Should I visit my first GF from High School?

[Taverner]

Or would that be danger zone material.

She's always still had a little crush on me, but I'm married with child.

[pdx_prog]

1. I don't think your wife would appreciate it much...:)

[Shell Beau]

2. Well, I think it depends on what your wife thinks. If she

doesn't have any qualms with it, then by all means, visit her. But otherwise, don't do it. I wouldn't really want my husband to do it, and I know he wouldn't want me to either. Although, it has nothing to do with trust, it is just weird. But some people have no issues with it and don't mind. But do not do it with out talking to your wife. That just raises too many questions and creates trust issues. Don't put yourself in a situation that will likely cause problems later. And also ask yourself how you would feel about your wife doing the same.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

3. If your wife has no problem with it, and if you insist she comes along

I don't see any problem with it. But if there are ANY misgivings whatsoever, I'd just skip it.

[eyesroll]

4. Depends what you mean by "visit."

Meeting for coffee (with your wife's knowledge)? Cool.

Flying across the country and meeting her at a hotel (while telling your wife you're on business)? Not cool.

Somewhere in between? You know yourself best.

I'm friends with my ex-husband, and I see my good friend from high school/on-and-off fling (that ended in 1992) on occasion. It's not automatically playing with fire.

[Wapsie B]

5. If she's still got that crush

seeing her would most likely be dangerous from a marital fidelity pov.

[LaraMN]

6. It's Rachel Ray, isn't it? Don't. Do. It.

She'll tempt you with her glistening EVOO- smothered lips!

[Robb]

7. Hey! I met my ex-wife that way!

...which seems to be my response to every other post. :D

[Shell Beau]

8. Haha!

:)

[bicentennial_baby]

9. since it's you...

i would say no, unequivocally.

[Taverner]

10. Oh? And what's THAT supposed to mean?

:evilgrin:

[bicentennial_baby]

12. my dear, you know exactly what i mean

and you SO know that i am correct about this one... :)

[Taverner]

13. You doubt my morals of steel?

My chastity?

[bicentennial_baby]

16. Bien sur...

i know ya better than that buddy :D

[Scout1071]

11. NO.

Especially if she is single.

If you are with your spouses, that is one thing, but without? Quite another.

Don't put yourself through it. You've got a good thing going with a wife and a child. Just move on.

[AirmensMom]

14. I had a friend who did that.

Now he's married to her. Oh, and he was married to someone else at the time. Sounds like danger to me. :shrug:

[never cry wolf]

17. But is your friend happy now?

And was he happy in the first marriage?

[AirmensMom]

19. Well, I guess so.

His current wife is insanely jealous, so we're not friends anymore. I guess there's a trust issue there. He thought he was happy in his first marriage ... I guess that changed when he saw his high-school sweetheart.

[Whoa_Nelly]

15. Just send her a Xmas card

or whatever holiday card

From you AND your family.

If you're thinking of seeing the GF from HS who still has something of a thing for you, am wondering why you are asking people here for their opinion. Is it about reconnecting with a friend, looking for an ember to reignite, curiosity? Your wife and child should be first and foremost in considering your decision...if your family doesn't come first, then what's the point?

Just wondering :shrug:

[JVS]

18. How much do you plan on having to drink before doing this?

If it's over 8 servings, GO FOR IT!

[Loonman]

20. Remember: when your wife says she doesn't mind old flames

Is when you'll be picking your severed penis off the lawn the next morning.

[Call Me Wesley]

21. I always quote Marx on these:

"History repeats itself, first as tragedy, second as farce."

[pdx_prog]

22. I remember an X GF calling me one time when I was married..

My wife was taking a nap.....when I said "sure, I know who this is" I heard my wife get up.....she came in and wanted to know who it was....I told her, and she told me to get off of the phone......then she started punching me in the kidneys until I got off the phone.

You're married.....what business could you have with an ex gf other than just wanting to see her?