WTF is it with ending personal calls w/ thanks for calling? (rant)

[wildhorses]

I just don't get it...we are friends...you do NOT have to thank me. Is it a GUY thing or what? Is it force of habit? Am I reading something into it that is not there? Why do guys do it? Just quit it I say...you do NOT have to THANK me for my fucking phone call!!! You may now go back to your previously scheduled programming
:blush:

[bicentennial_baby]

1. you know, this used to bother me...

seriously, it bugged me as much as it does you. That was until i realized that some people just do that, force of habit or whatever. i don't think it's a big deal anymore...What does get me though, is when a close friend says 'Take Care' at the end of a phone call. It's just sounds so...weird to me. :shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

2. Ummmm...because they appreciate that you think enough of them

to contact them? Just a thought. ;) I say it all the time (woman).

[MissHoneychurch]

3. I see it the same

I don't say it all the time but once in a while - yes. Esp. if I haven't talked to the other person in a while.

[WCGreen]

4. Ditto MHC... It's so nice to hear from someone out of the blue...

I always make it a point to thank them for thinking about me....

[wildhorses]

8. I too say it once in a while but gee whiz

give me a break on the every single time we talk thing!!!

[wildhorses]

6. yes but have you been talking with them on a daily basis?

[ScreamingMeemie]

7. Guilty as charged...I always say thanks...

I'll try harder next time. :P

[wildhorses]

11. well...maybe I am just reading something into it that is NOT there

or perhaps it is a regional thing but, I have known several guys that do it worldwide and none of my girlfriends ever do it and they are pretty much well travelled also... but by all means keep saying it if it suits you...I am just trying to understand it is all...just a little quirky I guess...and possibly hypersensitive :shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

12. We all have our issues...I, for instance, punch people right in the face

who tell me to "Have a Nice Day". ;) You're not hypersensitive at all. It bothers you...you feel it should go without saying, which is okay in my book. :hi:

[wildhorses]

15. thank you for the kind words ....I am starting to feel better

:loveya::pals:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

5. It's called "appreciation"

I know that's a foreign word for most people and all, but still...

[wildhorses]

9. I understand appreciation but it is reciprocal and somehow just sounds

so damn false and fake to me after we just had this nice light easy breezy hot and greasy conversation going on...it just rings sordid to me some how :shrug:


edited cos I am too steamed to spell correctly

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

14. Appreciation is not a matter of reciprocity.

I'm sure you appreciate people and things that have no appreciation of you.

And I can't speak to your conversation, but as long as it was friendly, I'm not sure why you'd think it's fake. Do you think people shouldn't appreciate you? :shrug:

[wildhorses]

16. please see my post #13....of course I want to be appreciated

but not on some meaningless nonchalant level as if he is saying thanks to the hooker for the blowjob kinda thing ( I hope I didn't get my own thread locked by this comment:blush:)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

17. I think you're WAY overthinking it.

And I'm not sure why you'd think of it that way at all. I, for one, always tell people how much I appreciate them and I don't think that cheapens anything. I think the world would be a much better place if we all thanked people more often for mundane things.

[wildhorses]

18. perhaps I am WAY over thinking it....

I will now quit obsessing over it and go to bed and try to sleep ...yeah now that is something to obsess over...the all illusive bitch called sleep....

[emmajane67]

10. I say Thanks for calling and also Take Care.

I appreciate people thinking of me. Since I have been in a relationship and also moved around a lot I don't have friends I talk to every day or anything, so when someone calls I thank them.
I say 'take care' to people I care about but not enough/not comfortable enough to finish with 'I love you' which I say to a lot of friends. I thought years ago that if that was the last time I ever spoke to someone for whatever reason the last thing I ever said to them would be how I felt about them, that I wanted them to take care because they mean something to me or that I love them. It's important to say, well, I think so.

[wildhorses]

13. I understand it in this context but some guys say it as throw away

off handed "spiel" kind of way and it just negates the whole rest of the "personal" conversation we just had...it is not so much WHAT has been said as the WAY it has been said.