Life is so fucking unfair sometimes....

[LynzM]

A friend who has tried and tried to have another baby had her daughter 11 days ago... she has Trisomy 18... they are taking her off life support tomorrow. She is a wonderful, kind, loving mom... I HATE this. I hate that I am so far away and there is nothing I can do to help her other than listen. I HATE IT. :cry:

[lizziegrace]

1. I'm so sorry for your friend

and for you too. I can't imagine taking your baby off life support.

:hug:

[LynzM]

2. I can't imagine it either....

I can't imagine what it feels like to face tonight, or tomorrow, or forever in her shoes... holding her daughter and knowing that soon she will be gone. It just makes me so sad and so angry for them...

[MissMillie]

3. Wow... how terrible

I can't begin to think about how someone would deal with that. Even if you were w/ her, there is little that you would be able to do. Listening is really the best you can offer her.

:hug:

[LynzM]

15. Thanks MissM

:hug:

[WCGreen]

31. Wise words... Listening to the grief is the best thing a person

can do....

[ET Awful]

4. How sad.

:cry: :hug:

[LynzM]

18. I know, dude.

:hug: back, thank you...

[GOPisEvil]

5. That is awful.

:(

[LynzM]

19. It really is...

It's so unfair :(

[Midlodemocrat]

6. I'm so sorry for your friend's loss and your pain as well.

I had friends that lost a child to severe birth defects and they had a bracelet made with the baby's name.

Similar to this website.

http://www.myforeverchild.com/store/Default.asp

[LynzM]

16. We have a friend on our board who makes jewelry...

I think she will probably make something...

[BikeWriter]

7. It is so incredibly sad when it's the Little Ones.

[Bunny]

8. How are you holding up, BikeWriter?

:hug:

[BikeWriter]

14. Not too well, Bunny. Some things a parent has trouble with.

Thanks for the :hug:

[LynzM]

17. Hugs for you, too, BW

:hug: I cannot imagine what it is like to lose a child, no matter when it happens...

[BikeWriter]

27. Yes'm, I'd lost a Grand Baby five years ago, too.

So I already knew how tough it is to lose a tiny one. Thanks, Dear.

[Bunny]

9. That is such a blow for your friend.

So sorry.

[LynzM]

20. Thanks, Bunny

:hug:

[Syncronaut Seven]

10. Sis and my BiL cary genes for cyctic fibrosis

Many miscarriages, 1/2 kids have CF, other half just carry the genes.

Tragedy all around. Your right, life doesn't seem fair sometimes. It's hardest to accept when bad things happen to good people.

Being there as a friend is most important, whether your next door or 1800 miles away. The best people feel deeply. :hug:

Syncro

[LynzM]

22. Oh SS, that sucks...

Many :hug: to them, as well... Life is so unfair sometimes.

[GreenPartyVoter]

11. Oh, I am so sorry :^( *hugs and prayers*

[LynzM]

23. Thank you GPV

:hug:

[Arugula Latte]

12. Oh no.

I'm so sorry.

[LynzM]

24. Thanks, Oregonian...

:hug:

[Pithlet]

13. I'm so sorry.

How awful. :hug:

[LynzM]

25. Thank you Pithlet...

:hug:

[nini]

21. It is ... I'm sorry for your friend and your loss too

She is lucky to have you in her life. :hug:

I have a friend that has been a neo-natal nurse for almost 30 years and the stories she tells me are so heart breaking. There is so much sadness in the world at times :cry:

[LynzM]

26. Thanks Nini

And a thank-you to your friend, as well. I have a friend who works a pediatric unit, and I agree, the heart-break is just unbelievable. People who can do that kind of work well are such a blessing to those who hurt. :hug:

[miss_american_pie]

28. I'm so very sorry.

[LynzM]

29. Thank you, MissAP

:hug:

[CatBoreal]

30. I'm sorry LinzM

That is sad beyond belief.

Wishing your friend and her family Peace, Comfort and Strength.

[LynzM]

32. Thanks, Cat

I wish her the same, as well... :hug:

[Shine]

33. Oh, how heartbreaking! I am so sorry to hear of this news.

To lose a child is just unfathomable. May Comfort, Strength, Courage and Peace be theirs during this most difficult time. Listening to their pain and just being willing to BE with it, without having to fix it or make them feel better is the greatest gift you can give them, as a friend.

Perhaps you can light a candle from where you are, as they are removing her from life support. Help to shine her Home, with great Love and Compassion.

Blessings to All,
Shine
:grouphug:

[LynzM]

35. Thanks, Shine

Thank you for your kind words :hug:

[Xithras]

34. I'm so very sorry to hear that.

She will certainly be in my prayrs tonight.

If I may ask, what was the malformation? A friend has a T18 child and he nearly lost the baby to a heart defect. He survived the surgery, but is very disabled today.

[LynzM]

36. Thanks, Xithras

She has many defects... several heart valve issues, as well as her heart being on the wrong side of her body, a cyst at the base of her spinal cords, and urinary and other misformations internally and externally. It is probably best that they let her go, but what a terrible choice to have to make. Thank you for your prayers for them. :hug:

[bigwillq]

37. What awful news!

How sad. :cry: :hug:

[LynzM]

45. Thanks for the hugs, bigwill

:hug:

[u4ic]

38. I'm so sorry

:cry:

Your support will mean so much. :hug:

[LynzM]

46. Thanks u4ic

:hug: We have a good community of moms to support her; we all just wish there were more we could do...

[RFKHumphreyObama]

39. I'm so very sorry to hear this

My thoughts, prayers and positive vibes are extended to your friend. And take care, LynzM -prayers, thoughts and best wishes to you as well:loveya:

[LynzM]

48. Thanks, SD

I sure hope she can feel all this good stuff surrounding her and reaching out to her and her family in the midst of so much pain. :hug:

[devilgrrl]

40. That is horrible...

So sorry to hear that. I hope your friend will be able to cope. :hug:

[LynzM]

50. Thanks, devilgrrl

She has a lot of support from her family and our online community... I hope that we can help support her, as much as a mainly-online group can...

[Zomby Woof]

41. I am so sorry Lynz

:-( I wish I could say or do something to ease the pain...

[LynzM]

51. Thanks ZW

Me too :(

[mac56]

42. I am so sorry.

Prayers and supportive thoughts to them and to you.

[LynzM]

53. Thanks, mac

They are appreciated :hug:

[TallahasseeGrannie]

43. What a sorrowful tragedy.

[LynzM]

54. It really is, TG

How is life treating you these days?

[TallahasseeGrannie]

60. Life it good most days

I have a new granddaughter so this story is especially moving to me.

[LynzM]

61. Awww....

I'm happy for you :) I hope that you get to spend a lot of good times with her! Is your family nearby?

[TallahasseeGrannie]

62. Extremely close by

We share a house while my son in law is in pre med.

[LynzM]

63. Ooh....

So do you get the sleepless nights, too? ;) I'm glad you can share in their new joy! :bounce:

[flamingyouth]

44. I'm really sorry to hear this.

I knew someone who had a sibling with Trisomy 13. :cry:

[LynzM]

55. Thanks FY

I think it's pretty common, but you just don't know until you know someone who goes through this kind of thing :cry: :hug:

[In_The_Wind]

47. I'm so sorry LynzM.

:hug:

[LynzM]

56. Thanks Joan

I'll pass the hugs on :hug:

[In_The_Wind]

59. You're right. life isn't fair!

:grouphug:

[SW FL Dem]

49. I am so sorry for your friend.

I know the heartbreak of infertility but can't imagine the pain of losing a child. It has to be awful for you not to be there. :hug:

[LynzM]

57. Thanks, FL Dem

I haven't experienced either, but I wish I could be there to give her a real hug and shoulder to lean on :( :hug: back at ya

[Blue_Roses]

52. that is so heartbreaking

I'm so sorry :hug:

[LynzM]

58. It really is... it just really sucks.

So unfair. Thanks, BR :hug: