My family is going to be out of town for Turkey. Is it wrong I'm happy?

[Scout1071]

I mean, picture this.....mid 30's. Nice one bedroom apt, but one bedroom nonetheless with a small kitchen. Not great for entertaining, but I'm a social person. Family calls with a dreary tone to say they will be out of town. I have dearly loved friends and neighbors not able to make it home, not natives, who I'd love to spend Thanksgiving with were it not for family. As it works out, I now get to have the massive entertaining kitchen and household to host all my friends and I'm excited! The menu is in the works as I type. Sub-zero fridges, practically professional kitchen suddenly at my disposal after 3 years with a somewhat inadequate kitchen in an apartment. I love to hostess and it's so damn hard to do in an apartment!

So, my question, is it wrong to be excited that I'm not spending Thanksgiving without my family?

The last time I felt this good about it I called home on Thanksgiving from a small island off the coast of Thailand.

Weird.

[Scout1071]

1. one kick before bed. nt

[Ladyhawk]

2. You feel what you feel.

:shrug:

What matters is what you do with it, I guess.

Personally, I wish I didn't have to play "pretend" with my family on holidays. I'm thinking about opting out this year. Things are just too hairy.

It sounds like you genuinely care about your family, but would rather do something else. :shrug: I care about my family, but being around them makes me feel uptight and unaccepted. I can't help how I feel.

You might share your plans with your family, let them know you plan on having a good time. :shrug: Maybe they'll wish you well for it?

[Scout1071]

9. LH-

By no means are you alone in feeling that way. Why do you think I have such a relief that I don't have to be subjected to it this year? I love 'em, but damn it's hard to be around them sometimes.

And I've told most of the family about my plans. They are a little jealous I'm throwing a party while they are out of town!

Best wishes to you. Who knows? Maybe they'll surprise you this year and you'll have fun.

[Wapsie B]

3. Not at all.

If you like to entertain go for it! You get to spend the holiday doing what you love. Sounds great to me.

[WCGreen]

4. How many times have you spent TDay with relatives...

How many chance like this do you get....

Simple...

Go with the flow...

And look at it not as a chance to build up some good old fashioned family guilt, but as a change of circumstance....

[In_The_Wind]

5. Enjoy every minute of the day!

No, it isn't wrong to be excited.

[leftstreet]

6. Not at all.

I remember my first time. It's a rite of passage that should be savored.

Dump the guilt and ENJOY it!

[Oeditpus Rex]

7. Emotions are neither right nor wrong

They simply are.

What you do about them... that's different.

Most of us aren't so blessed with such enormous periods or degrees of happiness that we can afford to dilute them by questioning whether we deserve them.
Enjoy. :toast:

[driver8]

8. Your family goes to Turkey for Thanksgiving?? How ironic is

that? Antalya is gorgeous this time of year!!

[Metta]

10. Do you think you're upcoming situation reflects those happier days?

Just a thought.