How often do women leave their husbands for other women?

[MalibuChloe]

Just wondering.

I'm not in love with a beautiful, dark-haired, dark-eyed, sexy-voiced, sweet-smelling married woman or anything. That would be wrong.

;(

P.S. Does it matter that she's only married to him for reasons having to do with immigration?

[jandrok]

1. That happened here at work a couple of times.

One was an affair between two married women who decided to make things more permanant, and the other was a married woman who left her husband for another woman.

Then there was the lady who left her boyfriend for another woman AND the lady's husband, and then announced it to everyone by posting it on the internet, complete with pictures. THAT was some fun screen saver time, I tell you what.

[WCGreen]

10. Where the fuck do you work......

And can I get a job there....

[jandrok]

19. I work at a large (1400+ employees) company in Austin.

We do a lot of different stuff, fulfillment, tech support, inbound telemarketing, list and database creation and management, order-entry systems, direct marketing programs, shoppers (in the California and Florida markets), ummmm....logistics, direct mail....

I've been here for 8 1/2 years and I've seen some interesting shit, lemme tell ya. I had a guy working for me who was a woman. He was taking the hormones, dressing, the whole thing.

We've had our share of employees get caught having various types of sex in the building.

We've had our share of affairs, public and private. We've had the horndog executive assistants. We've had the horndog warehouse clerks. We've had the horndog executives.

You get the idea. With 4 facilities and a lot of people, you get the weird stuff. Wimmens with the wimmens is old hat.

I'm the facilities manager. I'm privy to a LOT of it.

[Wapsie B]

33. Sounds like working in a hospital

"We've had our share of employees get caught having various types of sex in the building.

We've had our share of affairs, public and private. We've had the horndog executive assistants. We've had the horndog warehouse clerks. We've had the horndog executives."

[underpants]

13. See post #12

[jandrok]

20. Ahhhh, not so much.

These were not Carolina Panther cheerleader types we're talking here. Not much there to fuel the heterosexual male girl-girl fantasy.

[DS1]

2. Yeah, someone that marries for immigration only

Now there's a keeper :sarcasm:

[Midlodemocrat]

3. LOL

:thumbsup:


You are killing me today.

[progmom]

4. people marry for all kinds of practical and impractical reasons

:shrug:

[MalibuChloe]

6. I have known SO MANY people who have done this...

living in L.A., practically ever person here is married for that reason. Can't really blame them. We really do have a pretty damn fine country here, even with Smirky in the White House.

[redqueen]

21. Oh that's right I forgot, marriage is a sacred and holy institution!

O8)

[progmom]

22. ....

:hi:

[redqueen]

24. ....

:hi:

[DS1]

25. Not true, but it does help if you actually know the guy

:-)

[redqueen]

26. I can see living in a country so shite

that you'd sign a marriage contract with some stranger in order to get out.

:shrug:

[AirmensMom]

5. If she'll do it WITH you, she'll do it TO you.

:shrug:

[MalibuChloe]

7. good point, but...

she did tell me she thinks she might be a lesbian, to which I replied (genius that i am) - "oh, i'm sure you would know that by now." (she's 41)

so that is stuck in my head and now I am imagining this poor lesbian who is basically forced into being married to a man (at least for a few years) because she has no other way to stay in this country.

i don't know. i guess i should just forget it. :-(

[AirmensMom]

8. I would forget it.

I mean, even if she does leave him for you ... for whatever reason ... you have to worry about the trust issue. You're headed for heartbreak if you keep it up. Sorry.

:hug:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

23. Could I double and triple nominate this post?

How the hell do people forget about this? :shrug:

[swag]

9. This happens roughly once every 11 minutes.

[matcom]

11. every second. well known fact

ALL women really want to be with OTHER women. yup every one of them. they are drawn to each other for pure, raw, sexual stimulation.

most also want a man to watch them or participate. WELL KNOWN FACT. NOTHING turns a pretending lesbian on more than male involvement.

note: the above statements may NOT be scientific however, they ARE a part of MY thought process. :hide:

[underpants]

12. as usual, it needs to be said-We are going to need pictures.

:yoiks:

[WCGreen]

14. Here Here....

Such prophetic words coming from Underpants....

[RevCheesehead]

30. ROFLMAO

:rofl: What was that, a triple? quadruple entendre?

[AirmensMom]

15. You can keep them as part of YOUR thought process, matcom.

'cause they ain't true for this woman! :hi:

[matcom]

16. yes it is

WELL known fact :7

[AirmensMom]

27. I suspect their sample was a bit tainted.

Probably the real fact is that all men WISH it to be true.

[DS1]

17. It even transcends language

[matcom]

18. *snif*

i miss Germany so :cry:

[One_Life_To_Give]

34. They really want a Chick with a ah appendage

Yes nothing excites the female as much as a beautiful SheMale!

On the bright side Matcom. You have nothing to loose but your pants.

[Thtwudbeme]

28. What do numbers have to do with this? This is an interesting question

because I personally know several people going through this right now.

Everyone involved in the situation I know about seems to be a good person; they have their faults...but, god knows, don't we all--I sure as hell won't be throwing any rocks soon--

However, the way this question was phrased is interesting. Would you feel less guilt over an adulterous relationship if you had company?

Another problem that I see is this: if all the people involved aren't working on their problems that caused their relationships to fail...this one might not work out so well either.

In addition, how can you be sure that the woman you are in love with is actually gay? I mean, it's so common for women to try a lesbian relationship temporarily that it was actually scripted into "Sex in the City." It's a cliche it's so common. I am not sure I would bet the bank on a woman who was married to a man, then fell in love with a woman.

For some women, coming out of a bad marriage (bad for whatever reasons) having a lesbian affair is a bit like a trip to DisneyWorld. It's sexy, it's exciting, fresh, new and a bit dangerous. However, in the end, we are who we are...and who really wants to live with Mickey and Minnie forever?

The stressers from relationships (ask me, I am fairly newly married...short enough time to be estatic, but long enough to think "Can I deal with the family over the holidays?") might be amplified here too....I know if I left Michael and brought home a nice lady...hell, I could dig up and bring home Eleanor Roosevelt herself to my VERY liberal family that I am close too...and eyebrows would not only be raised...you could cut the air with a knife.

Anyway...those are only my thoughts---I would definetly do what you think is RIGHT...not what you think is RIGHT NOW. Our "hearts" get excited...our brains should be used at least as a clutch...if not an emergency brake.

Stephanie

[noonwitch]

29. It happened to both my dad and my brother

My brother married his first wife when she was too immature to make such a commitment (she was 21, but had issues she never dealt with). After being married a couple of years, she decided she was gay, and left my brother.

My dad had a girlfriend who was living with him, that he found out was fooling around with women behind his back. I'm glad, too, because I loathed that girlfriend and really like his current girlfriend.

[In_The_Wind]

31. Probably more often than we realize.

I wouldn't do it.

[ernstbass]

32. I know of 2 instances

[RedCloud]

35. It almost happened the opposite way . She from her (2x) to me.

Yeah Baby, keep hope alive.

She just wanted me to donate something to give her an offspring. I said this isn't something you do lightly.

Turns out her SO wanted artificial insemination too just to keep up with her. And called me a "sperm donor"! So I asked her if she is then an "egg layer"?

And all hell broke loose after I told her that the sperm carries both masculine and feminine sperm!

So no double play!

Besides, I was married at the time...

[RetroLounge]

36. Uhm, oh, forget it, never mind...

RL

[Greyskye]

37. I work with a woman who recently did

She and her (ex)husband both work at the same company I do. She divorced him, and married a Canadian woman - and will be relocating to Canada once the immigration paperwork is completed. She and the ex-husband are still friendly.

A woman I used to work out with at a martial arts studio left her husband when she realized that she was gay - took her a couple years to end up in a serious relationship with a woman though.

And I know of a few other similar situations - but those are all friend-of-a-friend scenarios.

Evidently in California, it's not tremendously uncommon.

[Beer Snob-50]

38. i know of two womwn who did.

thet were friends and left their hubbies for each other.