Got dumped. Anybody got painful break up stories?

[yurbud]

[democracyindanger]

1. No, but I got a cure

1) Get a bottle of scotch
2) Start drinking
3) Listen to Lyle Lovett's "If I Were The Man You Wanted" repeatedly
4) When the combination of scotch and the song reaches the point of confidence tinged with anger,
5) Listen to Ben Folds Five "Song For The Dumped." Continue drinking.
6) Pass out.
7) Wake up to a brand new day.

[WeRQ4U]

57. "Song for the Dumped" is such a good tune.

"Slow it down some........and have some space.......WELL FUCK YOU TOO!"

"GIve me my money back. Give me my money back, you Bitch"

[taterguy]

76. Dumped by a Ben Folds fan

The person that took me to my first Ben Folds show dumped me a few weeks later for some cretin she met at a Bob Dylan show. I didn't associate that song with her at the time since she dumped me seven years before Ben started performing the song. Was painful at the time but I've gotten over it.

[WCGreen]

90. And don't foget..... My black TShirt.....

[mykpart]

2. Let's see . . . husband came home drunk

beat the crap out of me, threatened to beat our 4-year old son. I waited for him to pass out, then grabbed kids & left with only what I could get in the car. That was in 1975. Painful enough for you?

[yurbud]

9. it can't much worse and still live to tell

[ComerPerro]

51. Probably not what the poster was looking for, but damn

Definately painful.

[NNadir]

88. That dwarfs any story I could tell.

How'd your boy turn out? I hope you're both OK now.

[MarsThe Cat]

3. just wait until you do the 5 AM drive-by, and HIS car is still-

parked out front of her place...

that hurts.

[BlueIris]

4. Well, let me see: left me because I can't have kids,

left me because I allegedly couldn't give decent blow jobs, left me because I wasn't smart/ "special" enough (read: going to a public university instead of a private one). The break-ups were painful not so much because of the hurtful things these men said before leaving, but because my "partners" abandoned me after exposing the depth of their depravity and the lies they'd been telling. Knowing the selfishness, dishonestly and sheer cruelty human beings are capable above is making it very, very difficult for me to believe I will ever date again. At least not before I get my would-be hookup to submit to a background check and thirty-five point behavioral profile.

But, none of us are you. I would like to emphasize that I don't think your pain over your break-up is no less agonizing just because someone else's was worse or "worse." But hey, if our responses make you feel better...

[yurbud]

12. the only bad blow job is the one you don't get...or teeth

yours makes me feel better.

[BlueIris]

13. Yeah...he had issues.

MAJOR issues.

[yurbud]

14. sounds like a jaded trust fund baby

[BlueIris]

19. Entirely the opposite.

Family always just scraping by, loans to pay for education, fighting debt. Your post is interesting though. He was an elitist snob in the making--I've met jaded trust fund babies who were more polite and capable of enjoying that kind of thing than he was (MUCH more).

Yeah, I'm still kinda bitter. His issues weren't so much about the fact that "someone" (read: repressive, misogynist parents) had told him that "good girls who give good head are whores," (although that was probably a part of it) but that...well, it was more about wanting to be in control all the time. My main issue with it isn't the fact that this is why he left, but the fact that he felt it acceptable to tell me this is why he was leaving. People have the right not to enjoy certain sex acts or refuse them in relationships and end relationships for whatever reason--but they shouldn't have the right to be cruel about it. Someone who does think callous behavior is a-okay and not at all an abdication of our responsibility to act like civilized human beings? Needs long-term therapy.

[yurbud]

67. that's a good point. I have the opposite problem

I can't break up with people because I don't want to say anything that hurts their feelings and makes them feel rejected--even though that's what I'm doing.

[newportdadde]

94. He critisized BJs?

Tell him to wait till he gets married he wont have to worry about it anymore... heh.

[hickman1937]

5. A long time ago on a planet far far away,

A shit bastard broke up with me because I wasn't domestic enough. I was pregnant with his child at the time. Then, of all the nerve, he tried to come back right after the baby was born. Fortunately I had a Dad and 3 brothers. Asshole had to go back to the bitch he was cheating on me with.

[BlueIris]

6. @#$%*(&^!!! That sucks.

Good thing your family was supportive, and that you kicked his ass to the proverbial curb.

[hickman1937]

11. He came from a very traditional Italian family.

My daughters step dad met Frank the Jerk's oldest sisters husband at Black Lake(a uaw place). Paul(step dad) showed the man Kate's picture. The guy was destroyed. Frank the Jerk told his family that the baby wasn't his. Unfortunately she looked just like his older daughter(by a wife that fled to florida). Last I heard his oldest sister still didn't want anything to do with him, but that was 10 or 15 years ago.

[BlueIris]

16. So did one of my exes.

The nasty one who (after lying for years about being okay with my not wanting kids) bailed when he found out my health wouldn't allow for them. You know, because I was no longer useful to him. That's what women are for, don't you know? I have nothing against Italians, or their traditions, but--treating your partner like a breeding device (or a maid/house servant) is fucked up. It's a sign of sociopathy, egocentricity, and misogyny, not pride in your cultural heritage.

[hickman1937]

21. My dear Blue,

Fuck all of them, but I'll keep the horse that they rode in on. The horse is much more fun.

[BlueIris]

22. Totally!

I love horsies.

[HEyHEY]

7. I coughed the testical up eventually

[Chan790]

8. I got one

Ex-girlfriend from a long-term long-distance made me come to NJ and waste my last 3 days of vacation under false pretenses so she could break up with me face to face 5 minutes after I got there because she felt that she owed me the face to face breakup.

Breakup made worse by the fact that I didn't drive and my brother who I came down with was interested in my now-ex's best friend who we were staying with and didn't want to go home.. Best-friend was a long-time friend of mine (had set us up, didn't know this was coming either) So I got to spend my vacation heartbroke listening to my brother plow my ex's best friend for three days straight while I sat on the couch waiting to go home.

[yurbud]

10. that's a good one

[LeftyMom]

15. My exhusband tried to kill me twice

He broke into my home, stole my stuff for spite, spit on me and left wierd drunken messages on my Dad's answering machine for ages afterward. Oh and the wierd thing is last I heard he was still tellling anyone who would listen what an evil bitch I am. :eyes:

[entanglement]

59. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a jerk

People like that make me :mad:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

17. Yeah..I'm bad with money

other than that I'm a really nice person

[CanuckAmok]

29. it would take more than that to make you less than a great person.

n/t

[lazarus]

32. Yup

To the nice person part. Thanks for the help with the car last year.

:hi:

Luv ya, babe.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

35. Thanks. That's sweet.

at least I'm good with the money I'm bad with :evilfrown:

[southlandshari]

42. You are so much more

than just a "nice person". So much more.

You were my very first friend on DU. During my entire first year here, I was petrified of the Lounge, and mildly afraid of most of the other forums, too. But you and I crossed paths on threads about race relations from time to time, and you were always so welcoming to me. I will never forget that. And your passion for truth and justice inspired me. It still does.

I :loveya: you very much!



:hug:

[GOPisEvil]

47. You and me both.

On both counts.

[JimmyJazz]

49. "really nice?" Oh lady, you are so far beyond "really nice."

:loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya:

:hi:

[Buddyblazon]

18. Ever find out your girl was cheating on you....

by ending up with a VD?

[BlueIris]

20. Ouch. Sorry, man. nt

[Buddyblazon]

23. No...I was just asking....

never happened to me...but boy would that suck!

;)

[BlueIris]

25. Ohhhhh. That's happened to a lot of women I know,

resulting in a lot of permanent, expensive and even life-threatening health problems, so I thought you were serious. Also, I couldn't think of a reason someone would ask that jokingly.

[Buddyblazon]

26. Well, I'm twisted that way.

And my sister ended up in the hospital for a week because of a boyfriend giving her Chlamydia (sp?). They had been together for years.

Luckily...no permanent damage. I have two holy terrors for nephews.

[BlueIris]

33. Twisted is one word for it.

There are many STDs that do cause permanent damage, including, as hopefully everyone on this board is aware, loss of life. I would think that your sisters experience would motivate you to post less offensively about the subject.

[XemaSab]

36. It's a fact.

I had to dump a guy who wasn't up front about his Hepatitis C status... fortunately I came out clean, but it was a real wake-up call that nasty diseases *are* out there and guys (and gals) can be very horrible about being safe with their partners.

And in response to the OP, every guy who has dumped me... I felt bad at the time, but later I realized they weren't the one and most of 'em were jerks anyways.

[WindRavenX]

61. FWIW...

It's pretty hard to contract HCV sexually although it is certainly a possible. It seems usually it's co-transmitted with HIV.

[Buddyblazon]

37. Sorry.

It's the kind of humor that my whole family has. We're all educated, bright people, but we tend to offend.

But humor is generally the way we deal with shocking things.

Sorry if it's not your cup of tea.

[WindRavenX]

24. i have a bad story...

...My roommate, we'll call her Jane, has a boyfriend, Jim.
My other roomate, Sally, who had herpes, cheated with Jim.
Jim gave herpes to Jane.

Isn't that a kick?

[CanuckAmok]

28. So Jane got dick. What did dick get? Spot?

[Buddyblazon]

30. Apparently you didn't lose your sense of humor.

[CanuckAmok]

31. She got that for a while...

...but I seem to have knitted a decent replacement. Now how to get rid of the frown-lines...?

[CanuckAmok]

27. my ex-wife ran off with an older married guy.

Destroying our marriage and his.

She had raided our savings and investment accounts, and submitted falsified documents during or division of assets trial, with her lawyer's collusion. None of which I could prove.

I lost about a half-million dollars to her, went broke trying to defend my interests in court, and she got everything; the house, the condo, the boyfriend, the retirement fund...

I got the cats.

[Buddyblazon]

34. May the fleas of a thousand camels....

infest her crotch.

And may her arms be too short to scratch.



Did you find a new woman?

[CanuckAmok]

39. No. Not looking.

Dating a little.

That's all.

Everybody sucks. But some people swallow, too.

[LisaL]

63. At least you got the cats.

[Tsiyu]

38. During my most heinous divorce

the judge wanted proof that my ex was impoverishing my kids and me ( after I had to quit my job cuz he totalled MY car and was disabled for six months - I mean, I literally wiped this guy's bum for him when he was in the hospital).

When my lawyer showed the judge six months of bank statements - where he would have $10,000 in his account and I'd have $1.50 or less in the same month in my account, his lawyer was pissed. He glared at me and said (so the judge wouldn't hear but I would) "Well, I guess I'm going to have to get vicious."

I just laughed and said as loudly as I could, "How the hell do you get more vicious than THAT?"

Well, they showed me, but I don't want to talk about how downhill it went from there...

[hfojvt]

40. reading this thread, makes me kinda glad

that I have never been in a relationship. :scared:

[MissHoneychurch]

41. let's see

my last ex lied and cheated on me the whole time I was together with him. Pretty much everything he told me was a lie. Since I was too trustworthy and he lived 2 hours away from me it was an easy thing for him to do.

The ex before that tricked a lot of money out of me I will never see again.

[enigmatic]

43. wellll....

When I was playing in bands a gil I was in a relationship with actually broke into my place and stole (among other things) a notebook of songs I had but hadn't played to the band and played out solo at another club in the town we were both in w/ those songs in the set. And of course, she said she wrote them.

This was 4 days after I found out she was screwing the drummer of another band (who were friends of ours); she broke up w/ "me" when I confronted her. I later found out she was married to another guy in a big city nearby; he had no idea what was going on at the time, either.

That wasn't one of my better times..

[khashka]

44. Yup I got one

My lover wrote me a note and I quote:

"It's wonderful that you are in my life. I appreciate your mind and your character and your loving nature."

Two weeks later he dumped me because "he didn't want to be gay" - got himself a bottle of Viagra and tried to woo a female friend in another state. She, of course, was not stupid enough to fall for it.

We decided to get together and try to be friends.... he tried to get me to sleep with him. I wasn't falling for that.

Khash.

[RedCloud]

45. A few here. But I was always the dumper...

Several of the posters have had life threatening situations and deserve a lot better treatment.

Dumpings as early as I can remember:

#1 She was the wild woman from the Amazon that you can only dream about and quite enthusiastic. However her father cheated on her mother. Her mother killed herself. She felt obligated to hurt any man she came across. It got boring! result dump: her result: Is today a nun! (just my luck, eh?)

#2 Was also from the Amazon (some folks never learn, huh?). But was poor at communicating, wanted only her monologue, and wouldn't stay in college despite repeated efforts at helping her. Then I got a job far away, she cheated so she wouldn't have to face SNOW!!! result: Dumped!

#3 Was a real hot feminist. Left handed (I think guys know what I mean here!). Different. All was clicking. Then she wanted to live out her fantasy. I was breathless. It was: throw her around the room, knock her around and then have rough sex with her. (I bought myself some time with the feeble, I need time to think about that.) Result: Dumped. I'm not into violence with ladies, even under these circumstances. This one really hurt.

#4. The math professor. Yes I was really nutty about her. But she was stoic. Not mean, but didn't say anything nice. Usually had her friends around to do her talking for her. Result: Dumped. I need encouragement, not a robot.

#5. Again I met one in the tropics. This time way down in Mexico. Yet she was from Sweden. She was divorced, but more virginal than the Virgin Mary! Bizarre! So how was she still a virgin yet divorced? She explained her ex was ready to beat her. I said I would help her sue him for trauma. She didn't want that... Turns out he was gay!!! So I thought to myself this is how she got a US visa... She truly knocked me off my feet. I couldn't do anything but think about her. I began to notice how pathetic I was. I always visited her. I always called. I always wrote when we were apart. And though I had no reason to suspect it, I came across the treasonous "book of rules". I saw she was using their tactics. Result: Dumping. result on me: several long months of moping, feeling sorry, ready to tergiversate. her result: She is a nun! (that's twice!)

#6 Still in process. Will share with DU if time permits.

But I really don't want to dump anyone anymore. It was never how I envisioned things. I should have always tried my best.

[Madrone]

62. Left handed

(I think guys know what I mean here!)




OKAY - 'splain to us *girls* what you mean there! :)

I'm SERIES!

Hate to think there's something my SO is missing out on -- *dying of curiosity*

[RedCloud]

75. Putting the red in Redcloud now!

Well when things are used to moving to the right, oh save me Lord, a tendency to move them to the left feels, say, different and perhaps better?

:blush::blush::blush::blush::blush::blush::blush::blush::blush::blush:

[Madrone]

89. ah HA!

Thanks! ;) I was wonderin'!

So switching hands (even if not left handed) is GOOD.

*duly noted*

[skygazer]

46. Hmmm......

Ex husband. Was a liar, cheat, abuser and major drug dealer - managed to keep all that hidden for the first two years of relationship. By the time I found out, we had a baby together and I was afraid to leave since he assured me he'd take the kids (my two from a previous marriage and our own) and kill me. I had no reason to doubt him.

I spent 8 years with him before he was arrested with 42 grams of coke, transporting interstate. Yay!!!!!!

I divorced him before the ink was dry on his conviction. He got friends of his to make threatening phone calls to me and sent me threatening letters informing me of what he was going to do when he got out or, if he couldn't wait, what his evil friends would do.

When he got out of jail, he used the fact of my full scale nervous breakdown (caused by him) to get custody of our son (who was 11 at the time) and he's had him ever since. I've seen the boy once in over 6 years (thankfully, he's somehow managed to grow up a level headed and sensible kid - he's now almost 18 and we talk regularly). I moved 3000 miles away so I could sleep at night but I still carry a weapon wherever I go and I'm always watching my back.

[DawgHouse]

71. Your story is very similar to mine. I am so sorry!

:hug:

[toey]

48. my first "relationship" after i was raped

he was completely understanding and sympathetic when i had flashbacks in the middle of intercourse.

His excuse for breaking up with me was that he didn't feel like we "made love."

Imagine how that makes my sexual self-esteem plummet.

[Left_Winger]

50. Yeah, here's one for ya...

About twelve years ago I was dumped and the reason given was this:
"I have been dating you because it upsets my parents (who are Jewish and you are not) and you are from South Carolina (she was from Cleveland and her parents thought of all southerners as incest-practicing trailer trash). I have now met a Japanese guy who will upset them even more...."

What hurts is that I allowed myself to be used like that. But, hey, she was a damned good liar/actress; she never told me about her parents and how they felt. I would have ended up with more respect for her in the end if she had told me in person and not over the phone.

[fudge stripe cookays]

87. Wow.

Just wow.

fsc

[sundog]

52. sure

my heart has been broken so many times i've lost count

that's the extent of my elaboration on the subject

[Blue_Tires]

53. no matter how bad you may think you feel, read here:

especially the posts by Sooner04:

http://mb5.scout.com/fkansasinsiderfrm7.showMessage?topicID=32.topic

[enigmatic]

77. Jesus...

I'm only up to Chapter 7 and I'm shaking my head..

[Blue_Tires]

83. lol....that guy should write a script for a movie

hell, i'd go see it...so incredibly outrageous, and i think about that thread whenever i feel love has taken a piss on me (and it continues to do so)

[EstimatedProphet]

54. I have a lot of stories that were painful at the time

and believe it or not, my ex-wife wasn't one of them.
After her I got into a repeat series of mistakes where I would fall for someone who was leading me on for attention, then would blow me off when she got her fix. Every time they were exceptionally painful.
However, now I have my partner, and I let go of the pain from all the other ones. They're just a distant memory now.

[no name no slogan]

55. heh heh heh, funny you should ask

My ex-wife separated from me last May. I knew that our marriage of nine years wasn't going really well, so I scheduled a few marriage counselling sessions.

At our intake session, my ex- said that she had been emotionally withdrawing from the marriage for the last couple years and that as far as she was concerned the marriage was over.

I had been severely depressed for quite a while (have struggled with major depression most of my life), and this incident was the straw that broke the camel's back.

I was hospitalized for a week in the psych ward, which was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. It gave me a sense of separation and finality, and made me realize that part of the reason I had been so depressed the past few years was because of my ex-wife.

I didn't talk to her for a few weeks, and since then our conversations have been short and business-like. It was very easy to fall out of love with her, and move on with my life-- mainly because I realized how bad she had been for me (and to me). In fact, I had a harder time when I broke up with my college girlfriend of three years than I did with my ex-wife.

After I got out of the hospital, I moved in with my mother in another town, and commuted 200 miles round trip to my job. In August I got an apartment, and custody of my cats (the one good thing to come out of my marriage). Although our lawyers are still fighting over our assets, the ex- and I will be closing on the sale of our marital house in three weeks, and should have a final settlement by the end of the year.

It's been almost six month, and my recovery has been nothing short of miraculous. I have not been this physically or mentally healthy in over a decade. I've gained a lot of wisdom, a ton of confidence, and a newfound joy that I never thought I'd have. I've also met a wonderful woman (through DU, no less) who loves me for who I am, not for what she thinks I should be, and doesn't judge me according to some impossible standard.

The breakup of my marriage is one of the best things that ever happened to me. I don't regret it for a minute. It allowed me to reassess my life, get healthy and even find somebody who is more compatable and who I can love in return, without worrying about living up to an impossible ideal.

Sometimes the things that look the worst turn out to be for the best.

[ScreamingMeemie]

56. And I, for one, am so proud of you! I remember when you first posted

about that. The transformation in you (from a posting standpoint) is amazing. You've done everything just right. You took care of you!


Here's to a wonderful future! :toast: :hug:

[no name no slogan]

58. Thank you!!!

I am eternally thankful to all my friends and family who stuck through me during this whole ordeal. Sure, it was messy and difficult, but I would not trade it for anything. The payoff at the end has been that good!

Thanks for all your support! :hug:

[yurbud]

69. you met a woman through DU?

[tjdee]

70. Yes he did.

And yes, I'm nosy.

:)

[yurbud]

73. sounds like a good story....TELL

so I can try it.

[no name no slogan]

74. Well....

It all started because of a thread I posted about my cats back in July and about the trouble I was having in getting them from my ex. She first noticed me there, and sent a very nice PM to me.

We exchanged a few more PMs, and eventually traded phone numbers. Pretty soon we were spending at least an hour a night on the phone with each other. I flew down to visit her in late August, and we got along really well.

We have a lot in common, and have the same interests and values. Of course, the fact that she's adorable and has a wicked sense of humor also help, too! I've been down to visit once more since then, and she's coming to visit me for five days over Thanksgiving.

We've discussed our long-term situation and plan to be together in the same place in the near future. We haven't worked out the details but we're both pretty resourceful. :)

Oh, here's a picture of me and Sugar Smack, from my last visit:

[yurbud]

86. I can't believe you picked up a chick with a CAT story....

you probably have to fight them off with a stick when you go to gardening and accounting.

[sakabatou]

60. I have many, MANY break-up stories

Some of them stupid, some sad. Some possibly funny.

[alarimer]

64. Three years ago I broke up with someone who lied

about neary everything. First, he was experiencing some pain in his shoulder and claimed he was diagnosed with a degenerative illness, I forgot the name, but at the time I searched all over every health site I could find and found exactly nothing. Not one mention anywhere. Now it was supposedly really, really rare but you'd think there would be a mention somewhere. So I really think that was a lie too.

When we first me, he told me he was divorced. When he went back east to work, I wanted to come out and visit but he would never respond to my queries as to when was a good time. That should have been a major red flag. He ends up in the hospital with a series of minor strokes (this I suspect was actually true as I called the hospital- he was there at least for something). Also he claimed his ex-wife was taking him to court for her share of his business (which, incidentally, was in HER name- why would it still be in her name if they were divorced??) but it was actually a CHILD SUPPORT case for a kid I never knew existed. Why would he not tell me he had a kid?

Finally, I call his cell phone and his WIFE answered, disabusing me of the notion they were actually divorced. Soon after I talk to him and find out the truth. I couldn't deal with any of this so I broke up with him. Four years later I am still reeling. I DREAD meeting new people. I do meet them on occasion but I find myself dodging phone calls and avoiding them until they stop calling.

[Lisa]

65. went to visit my boyfriend at Christmas -- and found another woman ...

... had moved in. He hadn't said a word about this to me, and was hoping that she would fight with me (and he admitted that he'd done this on purpose, figuring that if things didn't work out with her, he could go back to me, painting her as the villain). That kind of ruined Christmas AND my birthday, for several years after.

[JackDragna]

66. Here's a good one for all you romantics out there.

Same thing happened to me in two relationships. I went out with two really nice girls..funny, attractive, smart. We got along great. After a while, we considered the possibility of marriage. As that time grew closer, it became a big problem for both women that I was not only not Christian, but an atheist. Now, you see, before you chastise me for not knowing more about my girlfriends, both of them were people whose idea of church on Sunday was to vomit the previous night's booze into a toilet bowl while asking God to make the sick feeling go away. Suffice to say, they were religious only by what they called themselves.

Anyway, as things began to get serious, my lack of religion suddenly became this huge issue, mostly because both girls were scared of what their families would think of them marrying an unbeliever. It eventually got to the point where both women tried to talk me into converting to Christianity, even though they gave a fig about it themselves. I cared about both women, but I could never myself ask anyone to change their core beliefs just to be with me. It didn't matter. So, eventually both women left me.

The first time it happened, I merely became angry at the shallowly religious. The second time, I became convinced Americans are self-centered whackjobs who love to be seen as rebels, but get all cowardly if they have to do something important (like get married) that doesn't strictly fall along social norms. I'm sorry..I would have bent over backwards for those women, but I'm not about to change my religion to placate anyone. I will be alone my whole damned life if I cannot find anyone who will accept me for what I am. I did nothing in my personal conduct to ever criticize my girlfriends' religion or how they lived their lives until they tried to strongarm me.

This is why I urge people in this nation to eschew relationships. Americans are ticking time bombs of warped emotions and fucked-up priorities. All too often, these symptoms do not manifest for years, sort of like how many cancers don't actually cause you physical pain until they're too late to treat. I posit it is much healthier mentally to live alone than waste years of your life with someone who will eventually go nuts and ruin the years you spend with them.

[MissB]

81. I'm a sucker for romantic stories.

Seriously though, I hope you someday find a fellow atheist. It does happen. :D

[merh]

68. He left me on Christmas morning.

:-(

That sure has spoiled my holidays for me.


And on top of it all, he took the present I gave him, a beautiful sweater. I really liked that sweater. It was very expensive and I would have looked great in it. x(

[Lisa]

84. it does, doesn't it!

My breakup was during the holidays too. It messed up my birthday, and New Year's, for years after. I would get an apprehensive feeling that whenever I was happy and enjoying myself, there was something bad just waiting to happen!

Re: the sweater -- I feel your pain. I had given my boyfriend a homemade quilt earlier in the year, and knowing that he and his new girlfriend (who moved in just before I got there) had been snuggling under it for more than a month ... I actually haven't been able to quilt anything since.

[merh]

85. Now don't do that - don't you dare give them your craft.

You must quilt again, for you. What we do out of love should never be stopped because idiots are too stupid to appreciate the effort.

The odd thing is, I always end up seeing him around the holidays. I run into him at the darnedest places too.

What can you say, love can hurt, but it is good to know that I can love. Pity the fools who can't.

:hug:

[Dastard Stepchild]

72. ohhh... I had my own real-life Pretty in Pink tale...

I was punk, he was yuppie. We got along so very well together, but his friends really disliked me. He chose his friends over me. It really hurt at the time.

[nashbridges]

78. I was dumped by a girl in college

And I came down with a "present" shortly thereafter. After seeing the doctor and getting assurances it could be taken care of (nothing permanent, thank God) I called the girl up to let her know.

Her answer? "Oh yeah, Rick gave that to me."

I should note my name isn't Rick.

[Patiod]

79. Found a pic of my ex-boyfriend asleep on top of my girlfriend..

I dated a total whore, a guy I met at the beach (he was a lifeguard) who slept with or kissed everyone I knew (he took some sick pleasure in targeting my friends in particular).

Was going through friend #1's photo album, and there's friend #2 asleep on a sofa with this guy on top of her. Friend #2 apologized, and I told her if I held a grudge against everyone Mr. Sleezy went after, I would be friendless.

I had REALLY bad taste in men in college. Plus I was a total sucker for lifeguards...

[Gidney N Cloyd]

80. The girl's parents usually tell me when it's over.

So far it's worked out well.

[Xithras]

82. Lost my fiance 6 days before we were supposed to get married.

It's a long and winding story, but here's the whole thing in a nutshell.

I met a great girl in college and asked her out. We dated once, kissed, and then she admitted she was engaged to someone else. She said that she thought I was a great guy, and decided to set me up with a friend of hers.

That friend and I hit it off right away. We dated for months, fell in love, and I asked her to marry me. She said yes, and we set a date a year later.

A week before I was supposed to get married, the first girl came to see me and propositioned me by basically taking her clothes off (yes, she was married by this point). She told me that she'd wanted me for a long time, and wanted to get her fantasy fulfilled before I got married. She was certain I'd say yes because I'd liked her "once before". I said no and threw her out but made a fatal mistake at this point when I did NOT call my fiance and inform her that her matron of honor tried to get me into the sack...I didn't think she needed to deal with that a week before the wedding.

Mrs. Jilted was apparently furious, however, and went to my fiancee to begin filling her head with lies. She told her that I'd been having an affair with a co-worker, and that I'd come on to her at my house. She also gave certain details about my underwear to "prove" that I had actually been stripping as I did it (she'd apparently seen them in a laundry pile).

I didn't know a damned thing about any of this, of course. My fiance came storming over to my house wanting to know who "Julie" (the co-worker) was. She asked if I liked Julie, to which I answered yes (we were friends)...I didn't understand where the question was coming from. She then laid it all out and claimed that I'd tried to have sex with her friend, and when I tried to explain what had really happened, she just didn't believe me. Our engagement ended right then and there.

I couldn't believe it. I was devastated and couldn't function for weeks. I tried to repair the relationship, but she wouldn't even talk to me. Eventually though, I moved on and continued my life. I struck up a relationship with a girl I'd dated in high school, and am today married to her.

The bitch friend got what she deserved though. Last I heard, she'd been married four times, and all four marriages were ended by her HUSBANDS infidelity. Karma rocks :)

[fudge stripe cookays]

91. The Lawyer from Hell....

This guy couldn't tell the truth about ANYTHING. I met him through a personal ad, and GOD did he run me through the ringer.

He had an ex he was obsessed with, only he didn't tell me that. He told me that she'd gone off her nut after they broke up, caught him with his secretary, and pulled a gun on them.

To me, "You're so beautiful, so sweet...blah blah blah..." But he was writing something completely different.

After several months of him trying to get his practice off the ground (he was an ambulance chaser. Surprised?) in Austin, he had to give up and take a job at an established firm. The first one he got was in Dallas. So we agreed we'd stay in touch.

He was the one calling ME saying how lonely it was, how he missed me, etc.

When I went to visit, we went out to dinner, then Saturday, he had to go into the office for a few hours.

I sat down on the couch, watched some TV and played with the dog. There was a magazine rack next to the couch, so I started looking for something to read. What looked like a sketchbook turned out to be a diary.

I KNOW I should have shut it, but I'm glad I kept reading.

I wasn't as pretty as the ex, tits weren't as big as the ex, I was too this, too that. I had "psycho potential!" (after he told me about the ex with the gun). I was BUGGING him (while he was the one calling me after he moved), and oh yeah...

"I need to break this off, but she's the only chance for sex I'll have for awhile, so I'm going to keep it up, if only for that."

I can't even tell you how much therapy I needed because of that fucker. I had just lost 30 pounds and looked better than I had ever looked in my life. There's nothing like being the best you can be, and still having someone still think it's shit.

Thank God I found reprehensor. He's the best thing to ever happen to me. But MAN did it take awhile to find him.

fsc

[hunter]

92. We were fighting, I jumped out of her moving car and tumbled down the road

That was painful. But it turned out all for the best. She married someone else, I married someone else, and we all live happily ever after. (But I do live in fear she will tell stories about me.)

Another time a woman who had always told me she was divorced confessed to me that she was only seperated. (Shortly after she went back to her husband.) She left me sitting on a bench in front of a library. I sat there for a couple of hours doing nothing until a campus policeman came by and asked me if I was okay. I said, "yeah," and went home and cried.

[NNadir]

93. Once I found "hickeys" on the private parts of a girlfriend.

I hadn't put them there.

I was devastated, since I was crazy in love with this girl, very devoted and loyal to her, and, as I soon learned, she had started sleeping with half the guys in her town. (This was just after her father had walked in us making love.)

I thought I couldn't live past it.

I was all of 19, and looking back, that was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. (And thankfully it was well before the time of widespread dangerous and incurable sexually transmitted diseases.) It inspires me to think of this wonderful Tom T. Hall song, once recorded by Leo Kotke.

I’m the guy who didn’t marry pretty pamela brown
Educated, well-intentioned, good girl in our town
I wonder where I’d be today if she had loved me too
Probably be driving kids to school

I guess I owe it all to pamela brown
All of my good times and all my roamin’ around
One of these days I might come ramblin’ through your town
And I guess I owe it all to pamela brown

I’ve seen the lights of cites and I’ve been inside their doors
I’ve sailed to foreign countries and I’ve walked upon their shores
I guess the guy she married was the best part of my luck
She dug him ’cause he drove a pick-up truck

I guess I owe it all to pamela brown
All of my good times and all my roamin’ around
One of these days I might come ramblin’ through your town
And I guess I owe it all to pamela brown

I don’t have to tell you just how beautiful she was
Everything it takes to get a country boy in love
Lord, I hope she’s happy ’cause she sure deserves to be
Especially for what she did for me

I guess I owe it all to pamela brown
All of my good times and all my roamin’ around
One of these days I might come ramblin’ through your town
And I guess I owe it all to pamela brown

When I finally did settle down, many years later, I got a dream woman, with whom I've had twenty magical and monogamous years. (By the way, I did drive the kids to school this morning.)

I have heard a religious person say it this way, "I have lived to thank God that all my prayers have NOT been answered."

[ellie]

95. I was dumped

by this guy who said I was too young for him and he ended up marrying a classmate, who was the same age! :silly:

[Politically_Wrong]

96. I once broke up with a girl because she had a manly cough...

It wasn't painful for me...but I think it was for her...