When homosexual members of your sex say you're attractive...

[ZombieNixon]

do you take it as a compliment?

I do.

[progmom]

1. can't see that it could possibly be an insult...

:shrug:

[ZombieNixon]

4. Neither can I...

but there are homophobic freaks in this world. My hometown is full of them.

I figure not every woman in the world who thinks I'm good-looking wants to have sex with me, so why should every gay man.

:shrug:

[cssmall]

7. But, that's exactly what they are taught.

Gay men are going to try to fuck you and turn you gay! :eyes: Whatever. Talk about a selfish, immature worldview. 99.9% of the homosexual males I know do not want to fuck me, in fact, they would rather enjoy their relationships.

Ignorance is an issue that can be cured, but willful ignorance is a crime.

[ZombieNixon]

11. My reaction is "thank you very much."

Maybe they'll be disappointed when they find out I'm not gay, but what the hell...a compliment's a compliment.

[Eyeball Kid]

39. Yeah...

99.9% of the homosexual males I've met don't want to fuck me either.


















:cry:

[deebo550]

2. Sure why not?

It is someone finding you attractive. That's always flattering no matter who it is coming from. *grin*

[cssmall]

3. I do, too.

What bothers me, and this goes for BOTH sexes, is when said male/female knows you're married or engaged or have a SO, but STILL try to go after you. It's happened to me once with both sexes, but otherwise, of all the number of homosexual males I know and of heterosexual females I know, it's only happened once from each group.

:shrug: I figure that people who are insecure in their feelings with their SO or with themselves would take offense.

[SeattleGirl]

5. Doesn't bother me at all, and I do think it's a compliment.

Over the years, I have had gay women tell me I'm attractive, and I thank them. They know I'm straight, and respect me (they also respect other lesbians and don't try to hit on an unavailable/uninterested party). I am also okay with finding another woman attractive -- I don't think that makes me a "closet" gay, it just makes me someone who appreciates attractiveness in either sex.

[cssmall]

12. I do the same thing with males.

Some men are very handsome and charismatic and it's obvious. What's so wrong in world if I say as a man that Hugh Jackman is a very attractive male. Does it make me a bad husband or bad father, I honestly don't think so.

[Jamastiene]

6. I do too. Of course, I like members of my sex. LOL.

I like women, so it's especially nice when women like me.

I couldn't resist. I had to say it. I love the way you worded your poll question. It's open to all to answer, including those of us looking for a freebie moment to make a funny. :P

[ZombieNixon]

8. 'S what I do...

[hickman1937]

9. My ex husbands ex girl friend told me once that

it was me that she really wanted. Long story, but she told me this when I was 8 months pregnant with my son. I still have no idea how I feel/felt about this.

[ofrfxsk]

10. Hell, I don't care

A compliment is a compliment. Call me vain.

[ZombieNixon]

13. All right, who's the Freeper who voted NO?

Show yourself!

[Cannikin]

15. When I find out, I'm going to hit on them.

[ZombieNixon]

16. Smite them!

[nickgutierrez]

25. .

:rofl:

That's the funniest thing I've seen all day.

Yes, it is just 1 AM... but it's still damn funny. ;)

[Maine Mary]

14. I get hit on by women all of the time

I'm very fem: I love Victoria Secret and wear high heals w/my business clothes. I don't know why, but I DO get hit on by alot of women :shrug:

[GrpCaptMandrake]

29. In all fairness,

that kind of a response requires a photograph!

[WCGreen]

41. I second that motion, for a photo I vote....

To see for ourselfs this, this woman of note...

[Maine Mary]

42. I JUST don't need one

Ha! :-)

Just the ask boys (that've been around for awhile) if they they like that black haired, blue eyed Irish girl with a body even the Arabs run after... Teehee or....Oh Lord (that part is funny but it's not)

I'd put in a pic but my scanner no longer works, I tried to get my exisiting pics from Imagestation and I can't remember what I used for a name let alone password.

[Seabiscuit]

17. It depends. If said to my face while trying to hump my leg, well....

:)

[ZombieNixon]

18. Well, yeah, if a hetero woman tried to hump my leg, I'd be a bit freaked.

We're talking within the contextual norms of polite society here. ;)

[Seabiscuit]

20. The problem is it's happened to me. More than once.

[Maestro]

19. Sure. For whatever it's worth

I've been hit on by more gay men than straight women and I am straight as an arrow. Go figure.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. Well now, my dear Maestro........

If I ever get to Texas, and meet you......

Just sayin'..............:blush: :loveya:

[Maestro]

22. Yes, but don't tell your hubby!

:hi:

[Misunderestimator]

57. And I've been hit on by more straight women than gay women....

Go figure :shrug: :D

[Maestro]

61. Wow!

:)

[BlueIris]

23. It's interesting that you would post this tonight. Just lately, I've had

a lot of gay women assume I was flirting with them--and run away. And I--I'm pretty sure I'm still a boring straight chick and that I wasn't making advances toward them, I swear. Not that this really has anything to do with what you posted because these women weren't telling me I was attractive--in fact, it was kind of the opposite.

[Pale Blue Dot]

24. Dear lord, yes.

A compliment is a compliment.

[Momgonepostal]

26. Regardless of the sexual orientation of the person...

saying it, IMO it's a compliment.

Where a comment crosses over into "not a compliment" or negative category is when it's something crude.

Example: "Hey, you look really nice today!" = compliment/positive

"Hey, I love that tight sweater, it really shows off your big bazoombas!" = not a compliment/negative.

In my mind, sexual orientation is not the issue.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

27. I'd take it as a compliment even though I'm straight.

Hell, a compliment from anybody would help. I never seem to get them, though.

[WCGreen]

28. I love the attention for either sex...

What's wrong with that, I am perplexed...

[William Bloode]

30. My answer is no i don't.

I don't find it insulting either. I would most likely feel uncomfortable, and maybe embarrassed. I am not homophobic, nor do i hate homosexuals. The fact is i have very little experience with true out of the closet normal, decent homosexuals. I am sure i know/have met a few who are in the closet.

What experience i do have with homosexuality is pretty negative. Most of it comes from being in prison, and the other is the fact a relative tried (pretty much succeeded) to sodomize me when i was 5. Funny thing the relative was not a true homosexual, just you garden variety pervert. So as i mentioned most of what i have personally seen of homosexuality was bad.

That being said i am a big supporter of gay rights. I teach my children that being homosexual is a normal thing and theres nothing wrong with it.

I have often thought i would enjoy the company of homosexuals for the experience, and to get more comfortable with them. I just don't want to look like George from Seinfeld when he was trying to make black friends

[Heidi]

31. I'm sorry that happened to you when you were a little boy . . .

but the person who abused you was a pedophile. "Homosexual" and "pedophile" are not interchangeable terms.

:hi:

[William Bloode]

34. No big deal, it's long over and he's dead.

If you read my post you will see i fully acknowldge i know he was not a homosexual but a pervert. I danced a jig the day he died :D

Anyway i am not nor was not blaming homosexuals or homosexuality for what happened. What i was saying, and this may clarify a bit. Was the fact that for many years as i was younger i did not know the difference and it twisted my thinking, to the point i was of the gay basher mind set for quite some time.

Many years later with much thought on the whole situation i know better. Twenty years of warped thinking, and anger has taken a long time to reconcile. I no longer feel hate for homosexuals, nor fear them. I do however still get very nervous in their company, but this is largely due to lack of any positive homosexual models in my life.

I know i could be better, and i fully realize my short comings on the issue come from deep seeded problems of my own.

[Heidi]

35. Thank you, William Bloode.

You're OK with me. We're _all_ works in progress. :pals:

[fleabert]

45. I am so sorry you had such a long road to where you are,

but you sound like a very healthy person now, and I commend you for the journey (not just being on it, but sharing it with us).

I had just about the opposite experience, heterosexual males that are "uber-male" tend to freak me out and make me uncomfortable, and i am a straight female.

the first time I saw two men kiss, I was 14 and I knew them both so well, it was natural to me, and always has been. I have had several 'inappropriate' experiences (from early childhood into early adulthood) with straight men (the 'super jock' type, who flaunt their sexuality and claim to 'love' women so much) that make me downright fearful of other men like that if I am alone with them.

It is amazing how our early experiences shape us, and how much work it can take to get past or around those experiences.

:hug: thanks for sharing.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

40. umm why were you in prison?

[William Bloode]

43. Growing and manufacturing marijuana.

Got popped sometime ago under daddy Bushes "Operation Green Merchant" back in the early 90's. I also forgot the conspiricy charge. So i got 20yrs (10 + 10) had to do 5.

[In_The_Wind]

32. I've always taken it as a complement.

[Dude_CalmDown]

33. Happens to me all the time - It'd be nice to hear it from a woman...

...every now and then but I know it's probably because most are too shy. I know I'm good looking (sorry - can't help it) but it's always good to hear from anyone - especially on a bad day/week/month/year.

[Wapsie B]

36. I would definitely take it as a compliment.

Doesn't mean he or I would want to go to bed with each other. Not that that's a bad thing. Just that he sees something attractive about me.

[enigmatic]

37. doesn't bother me

It's a compliment.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

38. yes and somtetimes i even sleep with them

[Parrcrow]

44. I definitely do

after all its meant as one!

[Clintmax]

46. I don't understand it when guys take offense...

when they get complimented by another guy. There've been a couple Dudes on here who have taken offense when I told them I thought they were sexy after they posted their pictures in a thread. I CERTAINLY don't mean to offend anyone, but I guess you never know how someone is going to react to a compliment by a guy. Still...I just don't get it. :shrug:

[Heidi]

47. What part of homophobia don't you understand, my friend?

It isn't that you've done anything wrong; it's that _they_ have an irrational fear. :hug:

[Clintmax]

48. I know, I know...

I guess they are afraid I'm going to jump through the computer, attack them, and then summarily rape them. I feel sorry for them.

[Heidi]

49. I feel sorry for them, too . . .

because their irrational fears are keeping them at a distance from more than 10 percent of the human population. Much of my joy in life arises in the context of my relationships with other people, so I try not the irrationally limit those "eligible" for friendship with me. :shrug:

:yourock: Clintmax!

[Clintmax]

50. Thank you, Miss Heidi!

I totally agree. And :yourock: too, my dear!

[tjwmason]

51. I do when anybody does.

I'm not quite sure why, but I tend to get a lot of compliments from middle-ages women - as a young gay man they don't interest me, but I am flattered. A compliment is a compliment.

The odd thing is that I've never heard of a gay man finding straight attention bad - I'm sure that plenty of us would prefer the attentions of gay men to straight women (that's just logical), but the notion that we'd find a woman's compliment offensive is odd beyond belief.

I'm glad that you take it as a compliment, b.t.w., because I can well imagine that you get many - you certainly deserve them. :evilgrin:

[billyskank]

52. Was this thread inspired by you, mason?

:evilgrin: :evilgrin:

[tjwmason]

53. I never go around complimenting the straight-boys.

Even the ones with such alluring eyes as yours :evilgrin:

[ZombieNixon]

64. No. It wasn't.

Though thinking back, it could well have been. :evilgrin:

Actually, I was inspired by the comment of another DUer in a pic thread as well as an occurrence a few days ago. A guy who I know to be openly gay told me my ass looked good in the pants I was wearing. I was with a girl at the time, whose ass, IMNSHO, is much more attractive than mine, but go figure. :shrug:

[klyon]

54. sure

KL

[NewJeffCT]

55. I used to work in a restaurant

and would get hit on by the gay male staffers all the time... I took it as a compliment. Why wouldn't I?

[billyskank]

56. Gotta accept the compliments from wherever they come!

It'd be rude not to. :evilgrin:

[SarahB]

58. It rarely happens.

I guess something about me screams suburban-mom and that's about it. :(

[dr.zoidberg]

59. Yes.

I see it as a compliment because at least someone out there finds me attractive.

[Allenberg]

60. Of course.

a compliment is a compliment. :)

[ContraBass Black]

62. Those are most of the compliments I hear.

I'm told that women compliment me just as often, but they rarely make the complements when I'm in earshot, unless they're drunk.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

63. I would, but they never say that! Heh.

[DS1]

65. I've had a few dudes give me the *woof*

It's all good :-)

[DarienComp]

66. nope, especially if the homo in question is a hottie. :-)

I do find it really offensive when those breeder chicks say I'm a attractive. Can't they keep their sexual preference to themselves, for god's sake?

[guinivere]

67. A compliment is a compliment.

Just because they say you look good does not mean they want to live happily ever after with you.

[Nikia]

68. In contrast to a "compliment" by men

I accept compliments about my appearance by lesbians always, even if they are as crude as things I consider harassing by men. I'm not lesbian. Maybe, I am sexist though.