Ouch! Just found out ex is remarried with twins...

[Tallison]

Just re-established contact with an ex I went to college with and haven't communicated with in 7 years. He was (is) a great person, but dating him occurred at the wrong time for me, I was an ass, and the relationship reasonably deteriorated to death.

His message was friendly, kind. and receptive. It's good to know things are well for him.

But ouch. Damn. She's a lucky woman.

[WCGreen]

1. Them's the breaks... I hate when I run into someone

I know was good for me but I turned or, more likely in my case, drove them away....

But seriously, you probably weren't ready at the time...

Life is a timing issue.....

[Tallison]

5. Thanks. And that's the upshot

If it was the wrong time, it was probably the wrong person.

I also don't know that I'm the partner type. I love men, but cohabitation has always been disastrous. I also don't think I'm parent material, although I love others' kids.

Who am I now to get all misty-eyed that kids and marriage is what it's about? I need to snap out of it. It would never have worked. Time for Tallison to reembrace reality.

[In_The_Wind]

2. It is nice to learn that someone we once loved is happy an doing well.

I wish that for my friends and my ex-lovers.

[Misunderestimator]

3. That's a very generous thing to say...

I wish the same for mine. :thumbsup:

[In_The_Wind]

4. life should be good for all of us ...

I wouldn't wish unhappiness on anyone.

[Tallison]

6. He deserves it

We all do, I think.

[In_The_Wind]

7. You are right about that ~ We All Deserve The Chance To Be Happy!

[Tallison]

10. Aww, I wub that smiley!

Especially the way it pats itself once embraced.

[SarahB]

13. I feel exactly the same way.

Even if a person ultimately wasn't right for me (or I for them), we once saw something special in each other to make us feel something together. I want nothing less than for everyone to have whatever they need to fulfill their hearts. :)

[In_The_Wind]

24. The World Would Be A Much Better Place!

:thumbsup:

[LincolnMcGrath]

18. I agree with you 100%

Although, initially splitsville can be uncomfortable, I hold no ill will against any former lovers.

I learned a little something from each, and hopefully I am a better man because of them, and even the worst relationships have happy memories.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

8. an ex of mine recently called me to say

hes almost done with his residency..he married a pediatrician..and is having a baby

meanwhile in this show and tell game...i have very little

c'est la vie

[Tallison]

11. Why do you say you have little?

Is this reality, or are you not perceiving things quite right at this time? I'm determined today to take inventory of all the things I have gained and accomplished over the last seven years that I wouldn't have if I'd spent the time nursing a single relationship.

On edit: Another thing I'm gonna' do today? My hair and make-up. Can't help but be a little shallow about all this. :hug:

[Atlas Mugged]

9. Ouch, is right

I'm very familiar with your situation. I was in a relationship with someone once and I'm still kicking myself in the ass for screwing it up. I was in a rebound situation and, like an idiot, went back to the old boyfriend. I'll never, ever forgive myself. Have no idea where he is or what he's doing now, but I hope he's happy. Actually, I'm lying. I'd kill to hear from him. He was a photographer named Dennis and he lived in an apartment over the Verti Marte in the French Quarter. Beautiful inside and out.

[Tallison]

12. Forgive yourself. It was the best you knew at the time.

I imagine you had kinks to work out that only a mistake could make surface and serviceable. I love your honesty about wanting to hear from photographer-man. That's how I felt about my dude before receiving his email today.

[hickman1937]

22. Hire a P.I.

I did once. She found my friend, he was married, so that I left him alone. Cost me 75 bucks.

[GrpCaptMandrake]

14. This is where string theory comes in handy

You can take solace that there's an alternate universe with an alternate "you" who wasn't an ass and wound up in a completely different situation. They string out infinitely.

Sometimes I think about the alternate me who's a master chef, the alternate me who's a farmer and then come back to earth with the alternate me who's just like me.

[Tallison]

16. I think of the alternate me who's dead from far more serious mistakes

I'm really working this angle today. Thanks. :D

[GrpCaptMandrake]

17. I Guess That's Optimism of a Sort

The alternate unviverse "bad Jim Kirk" is always out there :crazy:

[Tallison]

21. Why me? Why not me? Why me? Why not me?

I get real sick of myself after a round of those questions. :D

[NewJeffCT]

15. i hope my ex has gotten her act together

But, until I moved last year, I was still getting calls from creditors chasing her, even though our divorce was official 5 1/2 years ago, she moved out over 6 years ago, and I've been remarried for almost 4 years now.

But, I still think about her and wonder how long it would have been until I had to declare bankruptcy if I had stayed with her? Or, how long I could have put up with living with a woman that had a part time job & did no housework while I was working 60-70 hours a week, if not more. Of course, I also wonder if I had never gotten married, would I be in better shape financially? (Not that I'm in bad shape now, thanks to my new wife being very good with money)

However, she had a lot of good qualities, like her very outgoing personality, being fairly intelligent, and generally a good person. And, she was physically very attractive (picture a 5'tall Hooters girl with big blue eyes) and had a very healthy sex drive.

So, I'm sure if she's learned to not spend like * or Reagan and gotten a decent full-time job, she's probably making some guy really happy.

[pitohui]

19. lucky? with twins?

to me it sounds like you dodged a bullet! :-)

[Tallison]

20. I guess I did, so to speak

:rofl:

[RetroLounge]

23. I spent a few years taking some solace in knowing

my ex-wife was still single and living back with her parents in Illinois and still (I thought) angry as all hell at everything and everyone. We never saw each other or spoke again since the divorce (except once by accident).

But the resentment I was carrying was toxic and instead of hating her I was told to began praying for her and wishing for her everything I would have for myself and that she have nothing but health, happiness, love and well-being in her life. Damn, that was hard to do.

But a couple of years ago I heard she had remarried and had a kid now, and I was truly happy for her and glad. Like was said in a post above, at one time we saw something good and loving in each other that brought us together and made us happy, so why not be happy for her now.

So if you're reading this Pip, glad you're happy. :hug:

RL

[radwriter0555]

25. Every man I ever dated married the NEXT woman he dated after me,

with very, very few exceptions.

I hate it when that happens.

Well, except for the last one. I got to keep him.