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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:06 PM
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Please help re: fundie email
This is my Grandma. So I don't want to block her, or be rude. But I want to argue this point, and I'm just at a loss.


The original email was one of those blah blah etc, this is why we need religion in schools, we the 86% should tell the 14% to just shut up emails.



My response to that was:

Like I said the last time. I am one of those 14%. And I will not shut up.

I love you guys very much. And I love our country. One of the fundamental principles of this country is Separation of Church and State; another one is Freedom of Religion. Those are very important to me. They are very important to (hopefully) the majority of Americans.

The 86% have the freedom to say, "So help me God." Why isn't that enough? Why force the other 14% to do it too? I respect the faith of every last person in this country. I know that faith is very important to most people, and I would never, not for a second, wish to take that away from anybody. I respect every faith. Thankfully, so does the government.

The reason this country was founded, was because people did not have the freedom to worship as they choose. Please think about that. Emails like this, while they may be feel-good for the 86%, are in actuality supporting taking that freedom away from the minority.

I hope you guys are well. I tried to email you before from my other email address, even sent some pictures. I didn't get a reply so I'm guessing you didn't get it. If you did, I hope you enjoyed the pictures. If not, let me know.

Love,
(me)

She replied with:

Your point is taken but what you are not hearing is that the 14th percent has taken the right for people to worship as they wish . As long as they take that out of the courts and schools we will continue to have children who feel they do not need to respect the right of others as they are being protected from those who believe the Lord is our salvation.
You are more than welcome to your believe no body is trying to take that from you but in the world today schools and courts may be the only place some of the children will be able to make a choice of not believing in the Lord or to believe in the Lord. Love Grandma




Ugh.
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arcane1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:10 PM
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1. can she provide you with ONE example...
of how she no longer has the RIGHT to worship as she wishes?

just one
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:10 PM
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2. Hell that would probably be
the best response I could give.
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micrometer_50 Donating Member (367 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:19 PM
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3. She seems to say that courts and schools are the only places
that a child can actually have the "freedom to decide".
And allowing that to continue is a bad thing.


:shrug:


"in the world today schools and courts may be the only place some of the children will be able to make a choice of not believing in the Lord or to believe in the Lord."
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Der Blaue Engel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:20 PM
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4. Ugh indeed
This is why I don't talk to my family.

You cannot get these kinds of "Christians" to respect your point of view. Ever. The most you can hope for is to have them respect your request not to be proseletized to, and most won't even do that, since "God told us to be a witness" is an excuse to say whatever they want, whenever they want, to whomever they please. :eyes:

You could try this:

"No, the 14% has not affected the rights of anyone to worship as they wish. It makes me sad that you don't trust in your own God enough to believe he can get his message to those who need to hear it without taking away the rights of others. I think you should examine your heart and ask God for guidance on this, because in this, he's on my side."

But it probably won't go over any better than anything else.

Good luck!
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:24 PM
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6. I'm wondering which sect of Christianity
she is supporting to be in schools. Lutheran, Baptist, Presbyterian, Evangelical, Catholic, etc. Which one would it be? I wonder if they ever think about that.

:: sigh ::

I'll post whatever I decide to come back with. I just brought up the Snopes article on this email and so I'll use a few comments from that, I guess.
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I Have A Dream Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:22 PM
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5. I don't have advice but here's what I wrote to my mother.
Sorry -- I can't just delete this as I'm directed to do. I love God with
all my heart and soul, but I don't agree with this. The strength of our
country is that EVERYONE has the freedom to choose what they believe -- not
just the majority. As one of the 14%, I won't just SHUT UP as the E-mail
stated I should!

Incidentally, some of the people who love God are among the 14% who don't
think that it's appropriate for God to be mentioned in the pledge or on our
money -- one of which is me. I love how the E-mail implies that if you love
God, you are among those who support God being mentioned in the pledge and
on money. It's also implied that you don't love God if you don't support
this. I believe that God doesn't want to be shoved down anyone's throat.
He wants us to come to Him willingly. We don't live in a fundamentalist
nation where religion/spirituality is forced on us. God has blessed our
nation with this. Oh, well. We've all had this conversation a few months
ago, didn't we? I care enough about this issue to have you and <my sister's name> mad at
me about it. I'm not trying to start a fight, but I feel VERY strongly
about this and can't just say nothing.

Love ya, Mom.

<My name>

--------

My sister and I had a big fight a few months before over God being mentioned on money and in the pledge. (My sister's a liberal but feels strongly about this.) Basically, we've agreed to disagree. I'm never going to convince them and they're never going to convince me.

By the way, I reference God as He only because this is the frame of reference that my mother has. I don't believe that "God" is a male energy any more than a female energy. I use the term "Universe".

By the way, I think it's really interesting that everyone thinks that people should not interfere with families UNLESS children aren't being taught about God. (This seems to be what your grandmother is saying.) They can't have it both ways; either a parent has the right to make decisions in reference to their children or they don't. It's not just "religious" people who get this right.
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:27 PM
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8. Good point about
only interfering when a child doesn't have religion in their life. Maybe I can integrate something about that into there. I love my Grandma, but she constantly sends me these p.o.s. emails. Well, now she realizes that I'm not a part of the so called majority. Yeesh.
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DIKB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:25 PM
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7. Freedom of religion
is also freedom FROM religion. You are free from being indoctrinated with the majority's beliefs. If she believes in "majority rule" she better get used to the catholics ruling everything, they outnumber every other christian sect by far. As per her belief then:

The Hail Mary should be a requisite part of daily life, said immediately after the Pledge of allegiance.

The President would be subservient to the Pope.

Catholic churches and only catholic churches would be exempt of taxes. Every other "cult" has to pay taxes on land owned by their heathen sects.

Principals of schools would be replaced with Catholic Priests.

Hope she enjoys the vision of her little "majority rules" country.

As it stands now, you are able to pray, worship, churches can own land without paying taxes on them. The only thing the minority is saying is that the government can't FORCE religion upon us in government buildings, or government funded institutions such as school. How pray tell is this making a victim out of her ? This is a far cry from other situations where being caught with a Bible is a crime worthy of death. These people have no idea what martyrdom is.
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Dukkha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:27 PM
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9. to people who throw around the unfactual 80 - 90% stat
I usually say there are far more cockroaches than humans too. that doesn't mean they are superior or right.
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Lars39 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:32 PM
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10. Would it help to point out to her that the door swings both ways:
If you allow religion into the government,the government could also dictate the particulars of worship :who, what, where, when and how,and the government's religious majority might not always be Christian.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 08:35 PM
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11. Been through this one.. Here is my stuff (your reply is great, btw)
Edited on Thu Jul-14-05 08:40 PM by GreenPartyVoter
http://www.livejournal.com/users/gpv/1281.html

I wish I had sent along a link to the Snopes article about this, but I didn't: http://www.snopes.com/politics/religion/capital.asp


Anyway, here is what I did say in my response:

While I am all for living by Christian principles I
just want to point out that we don't have to be a
theocracy to be led by those principles. :^) The
Separation of church and state is still of the utmost
importance. We'd never want to live under a Christian
Taliban that hands out forms such as these:
http://www.whitehouse.org/dof/faith-funding.asp , nor
would we want our beautiful and spirit-sustaining
churches stamped out as they have been in Communist
states. This separation therefore protects _both_ our
churches and our government.

This was just what I was talking about when I sent you
the link to the church that booted out all its
Democrats. Now the IRS is investigating them because
they broke the rules that protect their tax-exempt
status and the Pastor has felt the need to step down
followng the brouhaha. :^( This is why I like the way
Reg handles things. He never makes me feel that he is
imposing his own political beliefs on me from the
pulpit or that I am unwelcome in the church for being
liberal both politically and theologically. In fact,
I know that he has very strong beliefs but he is also
an excellent teacher in that he asks only that his
congregation learn to think for themselves. No spoon
feeding there. ;^)

Oh, and as to the bit in the forwarded letter about
telling the other 14% to sit down and shut up, let us
first ascertain that the other 86% are all actually
agreed upon which version of God? ;^D


P.S.: Why Separate Church and State?
From Americans United for Separation of Church and
State, which is headed up by a church Pastor.

http://www.au.org/site/PageServer?pagename=issues

Separation of church and state is the only principle
that can ensure religious and philosophical freedom
for all Americans. Church-state separation does not
mean hostility toward religion. Rather, it means that
the government will remain neutral on religious
questions, leaving decisions about God, faith and
house of worship attendance in the hands of its
citizens.

The results of America’s policy of church-state
separation can be seen all around us: Thanks to
separation of church and state, Americans enjoy an
unparalleled amount of religious freedom. In some
nations, churches remain dependent upon government for
support and aid. Religious life in these nations is
often devitalized, and many churches are near empty on
Sundays. Other countries merge religion and government
into theocracies. Religious liberty cannot flourish
under that system either; attempt by the government to
enforce a version of religious orthodoxy foster only
repression. By contrast, religious liberty has
flourished in America and separation of church and
state can take the credit.

Our Founding Fathers understood that efforts by
government to “help” religion usually end up hurting
it in the long run. Thanks to their vision, America
has struck the right balance. Religious groups are
supported with voluntary contributions, not tax
dollars. Houses of worship are free to seek new
members and spread their religious messages but they
must use their own resources to do so. Institutions
that serve Americans of many religious faiths and
none, such as public schools, are free from sectarian
control. The government cannot force or coerce anyone
to take part in religious worship or prayer services.
Americans have the right to join whatever religious
group they like or refrain from taking part in
religion at all. No one can be forced to support, aid
or fund religious groups.

This grand tradition of religious liberty has made
America the envy of the world. In countries where
religion is mandated or supported by the state, people
look to the American model of church-state separation
with longing. Church-state separation, a policy forged
by great leaders like Thomas Jefferson and James
Madison, is the expression of a mature and confident
republic. It represents a promise of freedom that few
countries have had the courage to fully embrace.

But America had that courage, and the results of that
embrace have been nothing short of remarkable. Today
we are an open and free society of nearly 300 million
Christians, Jews, Hindus, Buddhists, Muslims, Atheists
and others. All live side by side in harmony. All have
the freedom to proclaim their views. All enjoy the
right to worship or not worship unmolested by
government officials or state-appointed religious
leaders. All are equal in the eyes of the government.

That is the legacy of our Founders’ grand experiment
with separation of church and state. That is the
result of keeping an official distance between
religion and government. That is the principle
Americans United for Separation of Church and State
upholds every day boldly, proudly and without apology.



P.P.S. I am adding these quotes because many of our
founding fathers were in fact deists and not
Christians in the sense that we understand the word
today.

Thomas Paine was a pamphleteer whose manifestos
encouraged the faltering spirits of the country and
aided materially in winning the war of Independence:
"I do not believe in the creed professed by the Jewish
church, by the Roman church, by the Greek church, by
the Turkish church, by the Protestant church, nor by
any church that I know of...Each of those churches
accuse the other of unbelief; and for my own part, I
disbelieve them all."

From:
The Age of Reason by Thomas Paine, pp. 8,9
(Republished 1984, Prometheus Books, Buffalo, NY)

George Washington, the first president of the United
States, never declared himself a Christian according
to contemporary reports or in any of his voluminous
correspondence. Washington Championed the cause of
freedom from religious intolerance and compulsion.
When John Murray (a universalist who denied the
existence of hell) was invited to become an army
chaplain, the other chaplains petitioned Washington
for his dismissal. Instead, Washington gave him the
appointment. On his deathbed, Washinton uttered no
words of a religious nature and did not call for a
clergyman to be in attendance.

From:
George Washington and Religion by Paul F. Boller Jr.,
pp. 16, 87, 88, 108, 113, 121, 127 (1963, Southern
Methodist University Press, Dallas, TX)

John Adams, the country's second president, was drawn
to the study of law but faced pressure from his father
to become a clergyman. He wrote that he found among
the lawyers 'noble and gallant achievments" but among
the clergy, the "pretended sanctity of some absolute
dunces". Late in life he wrote: "Twenty times in the
course of my late reading, have I been upon the point
of breaking out, "This would be the best of all
possible worlds, if there were no religion in it!"

It was during Adam's administration that the Senate
ratified the Treaty of Peace and Friendship, which
states in Article XI that "the government of the
United States of America is not in any sense founded
on the Christian Religion."

From:
The Character of John Adams by Peter Shaw, pp. 17
(1976, North Carolina Press, Chapel Hill, NC) Quoting
a letter by JA to Charles Cushing Oct 19, 1756, and
John Adams, A Biography in his Own Words, edited by
James Peabody, p. 403 (1973, Newsweek, New York NY)
Quoting letter by JA to Jefferson April 19, 1817, and
in reference to the treaty, Thomas Jefferson,
Passionate Pilgrim by Alf Mapp Jr., pp. 311 (1991,
Madison Books, Lanham, MD) quoting letter by TJ to Dr.
Benjamin Waterhouse, June, 1814.

Thomas Jefferson, third president and author of the
Declaration of Independence, said:"I trust that there
is not a young man now living in the United States who
will not die a Unitarian." He referred to the
Revelation of St. John as "the ravings of a maniac"
and wrote:

The Christian priesthood, finding the doctrines of
Christ levelled to every understanding and too plain
to need explanation, saw, in the mysticisms of Plato,
materials with which they might build up an artificial
system which might, from its indistinctness, admit
everlasting controversy, give employment for their
order, and introduce it to profit, power, and
pre-eminence. The doctrines which flowed from the lips
of Jesus himself are within the comprehension of a
child; but thousands of volumes have not yet explained
the Platonisms engrafted on them: and for this obvious
reason that nonsense can never be explained."

From:
Thomas Jefferson, an Intimate History by Fawn M.
Brodie, p. 453 (1974, W.W) Norton and Co. Inc. New
York, NY) Quoting a letter by TJ to Alexander Smyth
Jan 17, 1825, and Thomas Jefferson, Passionate Pilgrim
by Alf Mapp Jr., pp. 246 (1991, Madison Books, Lanham,
MD) quoting letter by TJ to John Adams, July 5, 1814.

"The day will come when the mystical generation of
Jesus, by the supreme being as his father in the womb
of a virgin, will be classed with the fable of the
generation of Minerva in the brain of Jupiter." --
Thomas Jefferson (letter to J. Adams April 11,1823)

James Madison, fourth president and father of the
Constitution, was not religious in any conventional
sense. "Religious bondage shackles and debilitates the
mind and unfits it for every noble enterprise."
"During almost fifteen centuries has the legal
establishment of Christianity been on trial. What have
been its fruits? More or less in all places, pride and
indolence in the Clergy, ignorance and servility in
the laity, in both, superstition, bigotry and
persecution."

From:
The Madisons by Virginia Moore, P. 43 (1979,
McGraw-Hill Co. New York, NY) quoting a letter by JM
to William Bradford April 1, 1774, and James Madison,
A Biography in his Own Words, edited by Joseph
Gardner, p. 93, (1974, Newsweek, New York, NY) Quoting
Memorial and Remonstrance against Religious
Assessments by JM, June 1785.

Ethan Allen, whose capture of Fort Ticonderoga while
commanding the Green Mountain Boys helped inspire
Congress and the country to pursue the War of
Independence, said, "That Jesus Christ was not God is
evidence from his own words." In the same book, Allen
noted that he was generally "denominated a Deist, the
reality of which I never disputed, being conscious
that I am no Christian." When Allen married Fanny
Buchanan, he stopped his own wedding ceremony when the
judge asked him if he promised "to live with Fanny
Buchanan agreeable to the laws of God." Allen refused
to answer until the judge agreed that the God referred
to was the God of Nature, and the laws those "written
in the great book of nature."

From:
Religion of the American Enlightenment by G. Adolph
Koch, p. 40 (1968, Thomas Crowell Co., New York, NY.)
quoting preface and p. 352 of Reason, the Only Oracle
of Man and A Sense of History compiled by American
Heritage Press Inc., p. 103 (1985, American Heritage
Press, Inc., New York, NY.)

Benjamin Franklin, delegate to the Continental
Congress and the Constitutional Convention, said:
As to Jesus of Nazareth, my Opinion of whom you
particularly desire, I think the System of Morals and
his Religion...has received various corrupting
Changes, and I have, with most of the present
dissenters in England, some doubts as to his Divinity;
tho' it is a question I do not dogmatize upon, having
never studied it, and think it needless to busy myself
with it now, when I expect soon an opportunity of
knowing the Truth with less trouble." He died a month
later, and historians consider him, like so many great
Americans of his time, to be a Deist, not a Christian.

From:
Benjamin Franklin, A Biography in his Own Words,
edited by Thomas Fleming, p. 404, (1972, Newsweek, New
York, NY) quoting letter by BF to Exra Stiles March 9,
1790.

Speaking of the independence of the first 13 States,
H.G. Wells in his Outline of History, says:

"It was a Western European civilization that had
broken free from the last traces of Empire and
Christendom; and it had not a vestige of monarchy
left, and no State Religion... The absence of any
binding religious tie is especially noteworthy. It had
a number of forms of Christianity, its spirit was
indubitably Christian; but, as a State document of
1796 expicity declared: 'The government of the United
States is not in any sense founded on the Christian
religion.'"

The words "In God We Trust" were not consistently on
all U.S. currency until 1956, during the McCarthy
Hysteria.

The Treaty of Tripoli, passed by the U.S. Senate in
1797, read in part: "The government of the United
States is not in any sense founded on the Christian
religion." The treaty was written during the
Washington administration, and sent to the Senate
during the Adams administration. It was read aloud to
the Senate, and each Senator received a printed copy.
This was the 339th time that a recorded vote was
required by the Senate, but only the third time a vote
was unanimous (the next time was to honor George
Washington). There is no record of any debate or
dissension on the treaty. It was reprinted in full in
three newspapers - two in Philadelphia, one in New
York City. There is no record of public outcry or
complaint in subsequent editions of the papers.
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 09:02 PM
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12. Thank you all for your input- here's my reply to her.
Honestly, how are you no longer able to worship? Everybody has the freedom to worship as they choose, when they choose. If one is to support Christianity in schools, then they must support Islam, Wicca, Judaism, Ba'hai, Satanism, etc in schools, too. Those are all recognized as official religions by the government. If that's not okay, then there is no reason why Christianity in schools should be tolerated.
Even if we were to allow Christianity in public schools, which sect would it be? Protestant, Presbyterian, Catholic, Evangelical, Lutheran, Baptist, or what? Furthermore, who would make that decision? If America were to have a state-sponsored religion, there would no longer be freedom in this country.
The problem with children these days is not the fact that they don't have enough religion in their life. One can believe in God and still be a bad person, just as one can not believe in God and be a great person. What children need is better education. Something that isn't going to happen unless more money is put into schools. They need parents who love them unconditionally. They need a place to go if there are problems at home. They need more extracurricular activities to keep them from joining gangs or ending up junkies. There simply is not enough money going into the school system. On top of that, children need access to health care, which millions of parents cannot afford, sometimes even in the face of an emergency.
It's not as if having non-religious parents keeps children from learning about God; there are plenty of kids in their classes who believe in God and will talk about it. In every school I have gone to, there has been an after-school Prayer Club. There is also family members.
My mother raised me without religion being an issue. She did a good job, too. I was raised to have an open mind, to think critically, to educate myself, and to respect others ideas and beliefs. I was raised to learn from my mistakes. To see the good in every situation. To face obstacles, and have strength when everything seemed to be going wrong.
I do my best to take care of the environment around me. I've fed numerous homeless men while I lived in Tacoma, out of my pocket. Because it was the right thing to do. I donate to charity, because they need my extra cash more than I do. I do unto others as I would have them do unto me, because it is the right thing to do. I help out my friends in need, and never ask for anything in return, other than a smile and another visit. I used to be a caregiver for a woman who could hardly take care of herself. I don't waste my money on fancy things. I would do anything I could for somebody who needed my help. All while being non-religious. And I will raise my kids the same way, allowing them to choose how they believe and explore their own spirituality. And I will always fight for everybody's right to choose. I don't expect anyone to agree with me, I just expect to have my freedom, as an American citizen, not to have someone else's religion in my government.
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I Have A Dream Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 09:11 PM
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13. This is great, Ariana.
However, if your grandmother is an evangelical Christian, it doesn't matter how good a person you are, if you've not "accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior", she believes that you're going to hell; all of your good works are irrelevant.

This is why our arguments don't mean anything to them. I truly feel that they think that if they don't fight for God in these money, pledge type issues, God won't be there for them when they need it. It's an extremely emotional thing, and nothing we say will ever make a difference.

Thank you for being the wonderful person that you are and for making a real difference in the world.
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-14-05 09:19 PM
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14. That's true.
I'm not even sure what she is. I know my Grampa was Catholic. I dunno about today. My gramma and I never got close or anything, and when she was given my email address I was under the impression that I would be able to chat with her and my grampa. So far I haven't received a single personal email, with the exception of her response when I emailed her back. All of it has been fundy chain emails. So she might be, or she might be Catholic, I dunno. And if she can't respect my response, at the very least she will know that I don't appreciate these emails, and if she keeps them coming, I may have to respectfully block her after all.

Thank you for the compliment. :hug: I only do what I feel is right.
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