Where's a great place to meet nice, available guys?

[Darth_Kitten]

I'm a little rusty at the dating scene.

What's a good place to meet interesting men? :)

:D I really want to know. (I don't care for the bar scene)

[da_chimperor]

1. How about my living room?

:shrug:

[WindRavenX]

2. bookstores, baseball games

Coffee shops...anywhere! =)

[Ready4Change]

7. Minor league games, absolutely.

Can't speak for Major League games.

[WindRavenX]

9. Major League games are still good

Lot's of single doods around :D

[progmom]

3. book store cafes

the Borders cafe here is one of the hot spots in town for picking up educated singles.

[datasuspect]

4. in my basement

we meet every second friday.

bring a skull mask.

[sniffa]

5. the internets

or the post office.

[GOPisEvil]

6. Follow your interests. From there you will people with at least one thing

in common.

Hasn't worked for me yet, but I'm still (relatively) young. :D

[Darth_Kitten]

12. What's a good looking guy like you doing single?

Women must be nuts where you live. :)

[GOPisEvil]

14. Eh...it's mostly my fault.

I'm a lousy dater. :shrug:

Thanks for the compliment, though. :)

[Darth_Kitten]

17. I remember your picture when you posted it.

Lots of good looking guys on DU.

[GOPisEvil]

18. I appreciate that.

:) I don't always feel that way about myself though.

[Darth_Kitten]

20. I don't give compliments unless I really mean it.

:)

[GOPisEvil]

22. Thank you.

That puts a smile on the ol' face. :)

[Darth_Kitten]

23. Hope I'm not embarrassing you......

haha. ;)

I'm not usually so mushy. ;)

[GOPisEvil]

24. A little, but I'm very flattered.

:)

[KG]

8. St Petersburg, FL

i got someone in mind, just for you..... :)

[Darth_Kitten]

13. KG!!! my sweetie......

:hug: :D

[greatauntoftriplets]

27. DK!!! Listen to this guy.

If I weren't taken....

[KG]

36. thanks!

:hi:

[greatauntoftriplets]

37. You're welcome....

:hi: back.

[BreweryYardRat]

32. Normally, I'd say you've got competition in St. Pete...

But somehow, judging by her reply, I don't think she'd prefer me to you.

[KG]

39. oh, heck, i've been pitching woo at her for years, but she doesn't

even know i'm alive.... :)

[tjdee]

10. But then you have to talk to them, LOL.

Are you good at that?

I'd try some of the places listed above...but I'm not good at flirting with guys I don't know/getting a guy to talk to me/picking up a guy in a random place. *That's* where I have a problem, not just meeting them.

[Darth_Kitten]

15. I'm pretty shy at first......

I find it hard as well to just start talking. :)

[Southsideirish]

11. Night school - hang around the cafeteria, library, campus, etc..

Smile and be friendly. Don't forget the faculty, too. Many of ours are available.

[flvegan]

16. My house.

Oh, wait...you said "interesting"

[the_spectator]

19. As a single guy, let me caution on the "bookstore" etc. suggestions:

People often say women should meet men at the bookstore, the supermarket, etc.

I say NO.

Girls, the only kind of guy who is going to start flirting/hitting on you in places like that -- completely sober, under the harsh florescent lights of retail establishments -- is going to be a total operator/"playa" or whatever people are calling it these days. Stay away from those guys!

I actually come back to the bar option -- sure, the "bar scene" as we think of it is no good, instead, try to find a nice, pleasant, low-key bar in your neighborhood with a good vibe (and adaquate seating)-- you can meet some nice guys that way, I think, or at least have some good conversations with total strangers.

Happy hunting!

[Left Is Write]

26. I met my husband in a bar.

We're both pretty nice. Sometimes, nice people go to bars. (Granted, it wasn't a typical "meat market" type joint, but it was a bar. I'd gone to see a favorite band of mine, and none of my friends was interested in going.)

[the_spectator]

29. Yep, you're right - Sometimes nice people go to bars -

Just find a nice one - of course no-one wants a meat-market place where, amongst other things, the music is so loud that conversation becomes impossible and there's never enough places to sit.

In fact, I think, honestly, it generally really is only bars where adults will have real conversations with people they didn't know beforehand. When Starbucks started up, people theorized(hoped) that they would become "third places" -- other than work, and home, where people would actually interact with fellow human beings. It didn't work. People go to places like Starbucks with friends, or meet friends there, but don't really talk to strangers at any great length.

There is something about alcohol which allows adults to talk to each other. Of course, I guess it would be a lot healthier if we could stay the way we were when we were kids, and we'd just go OUTSIDE and PLAY with each other. Too bad kids these days don't seem to have even that, in these days of Playstations and "play-dates."

[rstlne]

33. I met my current bf the old fashoned way...

...in a bar!
I never looked to the bar scene for finding a mate, however I do enjoy getting out and listening to some good music every once in a while. It seems reasonable to me that one might meet a good friend in the same place.

Face it, guys are gonna go after what ever they can get, where ever they think they can find it, best to just keep your BS detector turned ON at all times and enjoy the hunt!

[tarkus]

41. Are coffee shops good? They seem perfect, but I don't know if they work.

I am constantly in coffee shops, they would be a great alternative to bars. The downside is that not only are people sober, but they are alert.

[tarkus]

42. Are coffee shops good? They seem perfect, but I don't know if they work.

I am constantly in coffee shops, they would be a great alternative to bars. The downside is that not only are people sober, but they are very alert.

[tarkus]

43. Sorry about the double post. Didn't even go where I wanted it to. Oh well.

[peacebuzzard]

21. How about the Y...M...C...A....!!!

Go there for a workout, take up swimming, or tennis, eventually someone shows up in the same situation....(you might have to go through lots of dead end work outs, but in the end you will have a great bod) ..... ready for some dating! Oh, and always go during the after-5 o'clock rush hour. For that matter, any sports club will do.

[Joey Liberal]

25. My place

Bring your bong:).........

[NewJeffCT]

28. book store, D&D convention

at least you have a chance they are intelligent, too, when you're there.

Dungeons & Dragons convention - it's probably 80-90% guys, and many of them are available. Sure, many of them are geeks and/or lack social skills... but, most of them will bend over backwards to be nice to a woman because they aren't around them too often. (OK, being a bit humorous there...)

[leftofthedial]

30. wherever I am

I'm kind of freaking out too. W-A-Y rusty at dating.

[grannylib]

31. I met my hubby of 20 years at the convenience store...aisle 3, by the milk

[u4ic]

34. Volunteering, or hobbies

friends...I honestly have no clue either. :shrug:

I met my ex through a part time job.

[baldguy]

35. .

:hi:

[Dukkha]

38. The men's room

It even says so on the door.

[tanyev]

40. I met my husband doing community theater.

Even if you don't meet THE ONE, it's a fun setting in which to meet lots of interesting people.

[Lannes]

44. If you want someone with booksmarts

Try working or frequenting a library.