nor would I call it "such an over the top exaggeration!"
Any child development class I have had and my own experience working with the cognitive development of kids indicates a one year is nowhere near ready. Most two years old are not. Forcing a child into situation they are not cognitively ready to have the awareness to function in only creates stress. Working currently in social services and seeing abuse every day I feel I did not cavalierly throw around the word abuse.
Should you care to calmly discuss this rather than continue on a self-righteous rant like above I'll be happy to compare resources in child-rearing and cognitive development.
For starters, a few non academic sources as they are easiest to google:
http://parenting.ivillage.com/tp/tppotty/0,,3wr3,00.html Parenting cannot be learned in a vacuum and you are right to ask and wonder about these questions. One year (or sooner) is an average age for walking to begin. It is not considered developmentally sound to attempt potty training at this time for at least two important reasons.
First, your one year old is too young to consistently be aware of, much less control his or her bodily functions. She or he is too busy mastering the voluntary muscles involved in walking to even consider the nuances of controlling involuntary processes. It would be overloading your toddler's system to introduce an additional developmental challenge, especially one that he or she cannot be successful at achieving. This could cause delays in other areas of development that are primed for this time.
Secondly, an expectation to perform (even mildly) on the potty at this period in development could result in feelings of failure, inadequacy or general stress associated with toilet training. Early pressure could thwart the emotional sense of pride that coincides with successful toilet training later. Your child could miss out on the sense of mastery which is such a critical part of this developmental milestone when it occurs at the appropriate time.
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http://parenting.ivillage.com/tp/tppotty/0,,47td,00.htmlUsing a "developmental" approach to toilet readiness, most children become ready between 24 and 36 months of age. There are three areas of readiness for toileting: physical, cognitive and emotional. Often, children will have one or two, but not all three. It is easiest for children to learn when they are ready in all three areas at once.
http://www.keepkidshealthy.com/parenting_tips/potty_training/start_potty_training.htmlA recent article in the journal Pediatrics, Relationship Between Age at Initiation of Toilet Training and Duration of Training: A Prospective Study, provides parents some help. This study found that starting intensive toilet training early, which is defined as asking your child to use the potty more than 3 times a day, resulted in kids who were potty training at a younger age than parents who started later. However, the study also found that the earlier you started, the longer it took. And kids who began intensive training before 27 months didn't necessarily finish potty training before kids who started later.
This study doesn't mean that you should wait until after 27 months to start training, but it does offer some interesting points, including that parents in the study:
* started some form of potty training at about 21 months (took out a potty chair, etc), but didn't start intense training until 29 months (asking their child to use the potty more than 3 times a day)
* finished potty training at an average of 37 months
* took about 5-10 months to complete potty training and this was even longer, about 14 months, for parents who started before their child was 24 months old. In general, the older the child was when they started potty training, the less time it took to complete training.
http://pediatrics.about.com/od/toddlers/a/toddler_tips.htm4) Potty Training
Some toddlers are ready to begin potty training as early as eighteen months, while others don't begin until they are two years old or older. And while there are many different potty training methods, one thing is clear - starting too early or pushing your child to become potty trained when they aren't ready doesn't work. So develop a plan on how you want to potty train your child and then wait for signs of readiness.
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