The spark of love

[cestpaspossible]

I was devastated when my wife left me 4 years ago. Even when I was at my least depressed and most accepting of my new situation, I was never able to imagine falling in love again. As time went on, my experiences just seemed to reaffirm this idea - that the best of my life was behind me.

But now I have a new feeling. Infatuation. A crush just as if I were a schoolboy. It is foolish for so many reasons, if I were to examine the chances of our future together intellectually, I'd call myself crazy. But I don't care if it's foolish, if feels so good to feel love, that I'm willing to be a fool.

I can't have my heart broken unless it is first made whole again so I must take that chance.

Do you feel the spark of love in your heart?

[stellanoir]

1. there is nothing more redemptive than

"the spark of love" or even that possibility.

I swear, it's the fountain of youth. Whether it manifests in the form one anticipates or not. There is no greater high or low one ever experiences. It's truly the elixar of life.

Great luck to you.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

2. yes

My husband was married and divorced long before I knew him. He went through a very rough time (several years) finding himself again and getting ready for a relationship. We met 16 years ago during the Memorial Day weekend. It was love at first sight. We are still together and the spark of love has grown into a steady flame.

I wish the same for you.

[KissMyAsscroft]

3. What comes up, must come down....

Getting involved in a relationship while you are in a vulnerable position is not a good idea.

As far as needing to be "fixed" by a woman to feel whole again. That is not the case. Were you "broken" before you met the first person you fell in love with?

You have to let go of the past and love YOURSELF, and surround yourself with loving people. THAT is the only thing that can mend your heart after a breakup. Jumping to another relationship hoping to have someone "mend" you is not only an impossible task for the other person to fulfill, but a guarantee that you will crash back down to earth even harder the next time.

[cestpaspossible]

6. Gee if I'd expressed any of those things, you'd have a point.

I certainly said nothing about need to be 'fixed' by a woman. Are you projecting something from your own life onto me?

[KissMyAsscroft]

10. Actually you did.

"I was devastated when my wife left me 4 years ago. Even when I was at my least depressed and most accepting of my new situation, I was never able to imagine falling in love again. As time went on, my experiences just seemed to reaffirm this idea - that the best of my life was behind me.

But now I have a new feeling."
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I was "devastated" but now I have a new "feeling." So this new feeling is what is causing you to not feel the pain of the devastation of your marriage falling apart? How did it solve the problem? Or is it just masking it?

It wasn't counseling that did this, it wasn't working on yourself, it wasn't accomplishing something in your life, it wasn't letting go of the pain....no.......

It was the "new feeling" of infatuation that did it. Yeah, that's it.

I'm not trying to project, I'm trying to keep you from walking into a snakepit blindfolded.

[cestpaspossible]

12. I'm sorry you feel compelled to inject your negativity here.

I don't really know what you hope to achieve, and I'll try not to return the 'favor' if you post that you are happy about something.

[KissMyAsscroft]

16. Don't post something and then not stand by it.

If you are not willing to own your thoughts, than don't bother having any.

[margaritamama]

4. Love is always worth the chance

:hug:

[Sugar Smack]

5. Yes, I do.

And it really inspires me.

[fluffernutter]

7. good for you!

i love that feeling. and good luck with your new crush - enjoy every minute of it :loveya:

[radwriter0555]

8. Isn't the first flush of love GREAT? There is nothing more glorious

than falling in love...

I recommend it as many times as you're able, throughout your life.

[flamingyouth]

9. Yes I do.

:D

[belladonna]

11. Lately, I'm absolutely on fire with it

I met my fiance by accident back in January. I'd given up on men entirely at that point. I'd just had enough of the BS and had decided that I'd be happily single forever. We talked for a couple of weeks, mostly about politics and our lives so far. Then he finally asked me out for coffee, of all things. And it was JUST coffee too, he didn't hit on me... total change from what I'm used to from men. Here I am, four months later, engaged and happier than I ever thought was possible :loveya:

[MissMillie]

13. Something similar is happening to me

I had shut down completely to any idea that anyone would ever care for me.

I ate myself to the point where I knew that no one would ever give me a second look.

I finally got a hold on the eating thing, and I'm changing lots of other things about my life too. And I find that as I am happier and happier w/ myself, that people seem to be interested in being around me.

Now, I have a suitor. Go figure. Me.... I have a suitor.

It feels sweet.

[Magrittes Pipe]

14. Spark?

It's an inferno. :loveya:

[cestpaspossible]

15. Well

I'm not there yet. But that spark made me realize I could be...