What are you getting your mom for Mother's Day?

[YellowRubberDuckie]

Skip and I got his mom a very lovely yellow stainglass windchime. It's very pretty. And my mom gets a simple $0.48 card, because she doesn't really deserve a Mother's Day present this year, what with her being a complete hag this year.
But I'm sure your mom has been much better than mine. What are you getting her for Mother's Day?
Duckie

[demnan]

1. I gave my mother an armfull of African Violet plants

Nothing could have made her happier.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

2. That's awesome.

Mom's love flowers.
Duckie

[Magrittes Pipe]

3. Same thing I give her every year:

Disappointment and regret. :cry:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

4. Oh, I didn't mean to hit a nerve.

:hug:

[Magrittes Pipe]

6. No nerves.

I lost them in a tragic accident.

And I'm just shitting about my mom. She's awesome.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

21. OK. That's good.

You just about made me feel like total crap there for a second.
Duckie

[tjwmason]

5. NOTHING!

Though that's just because Mothering Sunday has been and gone over here.

She got a load of flowers, cards, a D.V.D. which I can't remember anything about (my sister got that) and lunch from her children jointly.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

9. I'm sure she loved the lunch with you guys the best...

and the Flowers. Mom's are like that.
Duckie

[yvr girl]

7. a book

[BOSSHOG]

8. Flowers for her Grave

Not be a downer, because I loved my mother very much, however, she is no longer here. I think Mother's Day means more to me since she is no longer with us. And yestereday was her 79th birthday.

[auntAgonist]

19. I know exactly what you mean.

Cherish the memories and know that somehow she's always with you. My Mother's resting place is too far away to drive there. I'm in MI and her cremains are in Niagara Falls Ontario.
Sunday will be bittersweet.

RIP Mum.

:hug: to you BossHog!

[prole_for_peace]

10. I am going to let her take care of me after my surgery

on Friday. I was told to have someone with me for 24 hours. She will LOVE it. I can be her (39 year old) baby again. She is already looking forward to it. Isn't that a shame.

[sinkingfeeling]

11. Gave my Mom a 'Mothers' Basket' from Heifer International. That's

a heifer, a water buffalo, and a goat!

[YellowRubberDuckie]

14. Must have been a really big basket.

[VelmaD]

12. I'm going up to visit her...

in a couple of weeks for a belated Mother's Day (she has to work this weekend). I imagine I'll bake her favorite cake for her and probably take her out to see the Hitchhiker's Guide movie...she loves the books and she's the one who turned me on to them when I was a kid.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

17. The movie was great.

We loved it. I hope she enjoys it. It's not 100% like the books, but it's funny.
Duckie

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

13. Not much, unfortunately

I'm so poor right now, I can hardly afford to get to work in the morning. It's going to be a really lean Mother's Day this year.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

15. They have some nice $1 cards at Hallmark!

Then write something really sweet. Make her cry.
Duckie

[Mizmoon]

16. A $40.00 Godiva cheesecake

This thing better be the best cake we EVER tasted, at that price.

[eyesroll]

18. I'm taking her and my dad to brunch.

My parents decided a few years ago that they didn't need us to get them stuff anymore, just time.

So, we're going to a nice local restaurant for brunch (and, since it's Mother's Day, she'll let me pick up the check, at least).

[YellowRubberDuckie]

20. You could always find someplace where Moms eat free on Mother's day.

:shrug: Then she won't feel so bad about you picking up the check or something.
Duckie

[eyesroll]

23. Nah, she doesn't feel bad about it.

She's been a little less comfortable with me spending money post-divorce, because she doesn't realize how little it costs me to live on my own. (We made decent money as a couple, and for some reason she assumes my ex made all the money, even though our salaries were within $3000 of each other.)

But, a few times a year, she lets me pay.

I have a feeling, by the time all is said and done, brunch will be less than $50 for the three of us. (This place has its regular menu for Mother's Day, and not some $30 buffet with ice swans and tepid eggs Benedict.) No biggie.

[fudge stripe cookays]

22. My mom's lucky to get a card from me too.

We have a history, so I feel for ya, Duck.

Our last huge spat occurred when I wanted to buy her a very nice trip to a fu-fu day spa Mother's Day 2003. I was saving up $200 or so to really splurge on her, since I had never had the money to do it before.

When I called her on Mother's Day, it was around 5 or 6 in the evening (too late for her tastes). She was also pissed because I hadn't put a $1.75 card in the mail to her and was answering me in snotty monosyllables. I even TOLD her what I was getting her to cheer her up, since she was obviously pissed at me (again).

I couldn't believe that she could be THAT much of a control freak when I was offering her such a great present. She wanted the freaking card instead. Or something.

That was when all 30 years of crap I'd withstood from her just made me snap and I hung up on her. She called several days later to "apologize", and I told her I was done, and wanted to have nothing more to do with her.

Several weeks later, she told me that she'd planned on driving to our house and shooting me the minute I opened the door.

We have attempted to repair some of the damage, but the smartest thing I ever did was piss her off enough to have her remove me from her will. It now means there is no responsibility to her, no nothing anymore. We're even.

I envy those of you celebrating a normal Mother's Day.
FSC

[YellowRubberDuckie]

24. Wow. Sounds like your mom could be my mom.

I swear to God, I forgot to hook the phone back up one day after using the phone jack to hook my computer up, and she lost her mind.
The other day when I told her that I had gotten the job I start on Monday, she said, "OK." And blew me off. God I cannot wait to get the hell out of this house. One month, and I get my freedom. And I'm not coming back.
Duckie

[fudge stripe cookays]

30. I've been there, Duck.

I'll be thinking of you.

I hate accepting her "help" because there are always impossible strings attached. That's why I hope I never get so financially strapped I have to.

If reprehensor and I lose everything, we'll head up to his folks in Alberta rather than my mother. We'd kill each other. It ain't pretty.

FSC

[NoSheep]

25. I am really disapointed with my mother. I'm surprised by these stories.

I thought I was the only one. It's usually the fathers that are the jerks. Sorry fudge stripe cookays. We all probably have more in common than not.:hug:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

26. In my most recent experience, it's the mothers that are insane.

And I swear mine has some serious pathology. :hug: We should start a support group.
Duckie

[fudge stripe cookays]

29. Sorry NoSheep.

It sounds awful, but if I COULD have chosen one of my parents to go, it would have been my mom.

My dad and I were incredibly close. I lost him 25 years ago, and my life has been fucked up ever since. You wouldn't believe how much therapy I've needed. And at the time I didn't realize that the smaller issues wre all in some way CAUSED by my mom.

That's the reason I hate smoking so fucking much. It took my dad at 47.

FSC

[YellowRubberDuckie]

36. Smoking took my dad at 61.

And that's why I hate it so much, besides the whole I can't breathe situation that it causes. My dad played referee a lot, and kept her off my back. Now she has to be in control of every little minute detail of every little thing, and if I don't let her, she loses it. This will be the last time I ever live with her, come hell or high water. I will live in my car first. I share your sentiments about wishing your dad was still here and your mom was not. I'm in the same boat. I'm very sorry that your life has been like that, but I completely understand how you feel.
Duckie

[fudge stripe cookays]

Wow. I think our moms must have....

actually been twins, separated at birth.

Same exact issues at work here.

Let's hope both of our lives improve without so much "mom" in them!
FSC

[Debbi801]

39. Sounds like my mother...

:hug: FSC

The finally straw with me came after I got up the courage to leave my physically abusive ex-husband with a 1 yr old and a 3 yr old. Her response was that I should have discussed it with her first, and that I should go back to him because now his father (a lawyer) wouldn't continue to provide free legal advice when she and my step father needed it. :wtf:

That was after years of complaining that any gift I bought wasn't good enough, I didn't call enough, etc.

Luckily, my step-mom is an absolutely wonderful woman. I'm thankful that I have her in my life.

Debbi

[fudge stripe cookays]

49. Yuck.

Sorry about that. Glad you have a great step-mom

Wish I'd had a chance to have a step mom. She might have been a decent person. My mom and dad were almost divorced in 1977. Mom wanted to take me with her. I was like "no freaking way"-- I'm staying with dad.

I did have a stepmonster (the guy my mom FINALLY married) after "dating" (to use a polite term) for 8 years.

Thank God they finally divorced.
FSC

[SCDem]

27. Garrison Keillor CDs

My mom is going to have surgery for cancerous stuff on her Thyroid on the 18th and she had mentioned that Garrison Keillor made her laugh and that that was good for her right now so instead of getting her flowers this year a surprise of Garrison Keillor CDs is coming her way. I hope it suprises her and she enjoys them.

[auntAgonist]

31. best wishes for your mom's surgery!! n/t

[SCDem]

34. Thanks

She tells me if you have to have cancer this is the cancer to get because no radio or chemo or hair falling out or pronlonged fatigue just a thyroidectomy and having to stay on synthroid the rest of your life. In the scheme of things it isn't too bad.

[auntAgonist]

35. My mum had thyroid surgery

many many years ago. Not cancer, but a goitre. Large growth on the thyroid if memory serves me. your mom will be fine :)


:hug:

[dubyaD40web]

28. 1'' Faux Window Blinds

Yep. That's what she wants, for her whole house. Oh, and a sappy card.

[Debi]

32. Son and Me went to a store that lets you paint ceramic items

and they fire them. He made Grandma a picture frame w/flowers and her name on it. I love that shop, it's so fun.

For Father's Day we're headed back. He wants to make his dad a popcorn bowl and make himself a trail mix bowl that we're going to write the different ingredients on the bowl!! :bounce:

[Blue Diadem]

33. We may try putting flowers on the graves again, but I'm not sure

if I can talk hubby into it. We stopped after they kept disappearing from his Mother's grave, sometimes within 24 hrs. I didn't feel right putting anything on my Mom's grave and not being able to do the same for his Mom.

The first time it happened we thought it was some random act. Then it continued to happen at every holiday for several years..so we gave up. It's not a random thief, it has to be a relative because they only take what we put out there and not one other item from any of the other siblings has ever just disappeared.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

38. I think it's time to start making some phone calls to your family.

Ask them about it. Or if you have the time, sit and watch the grave the day you put flowers out. Find out who's doing it. That's awful! Does someone in your family not like you or something? That is just AWFUL! If that were to happen to us, we would have thrown a fit to whoever was doing it.
Duckie

[Blue Diadem]

45. Oh, I have confronted them about it..of course, they say that it's

being done by a random thief. Kinda strange that they would take our flowers, potted plants, even once a shephards hook and wind chimes and all the rest would remain there.

Hubby's one of 6 siblings. The two oldest and hubby (the youngest), are close..the 3 middle ones are hateful. They were able to dupe hubby's dad into placing all his money into co-ownership in their names. We found all that out when they forced him into a rest home and put his house up for sale. It didn't quite work out the way they wanted it to..

I think I know which one was doing it, because he let it slip about seeing some "nasty" plant on the grave that he thought another brother had left there. When I said that it was our plant, he went pale. Although..it didn't stop the next one from disappearing.

[PittPoliSci]

37. just bought her a phantom of the opera dvd.

she loved it, so since i'm broke and a college student, it's appropriate.

[Jersey Devil]

40. Mom is giving me a gift instead, her final one

A few years ago I gave her a photo of the ship her mother came to America on together with a copy of the ship's registry with her mother's name on it from ellisisland.org. She told me that she wanted me to have it when her time came as it sadly did last week when she passed away on Thursday, April 28.

[Lavender Brown]

42. .

:hug:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

43. Oh, I'm so sorry.

:hug: I know what it's like to lose a parent. It's not easy. I hope you have people around you that will help you through this. Let me know if there's anything I can do.
Duckie

[Blue Diadem]

46. I'm so sorry Jersey Devil.

:hug:

It's been 9 yrs for me and I still miss her and wish I could call her.

[Left Is Write]

41. My mother and my mother-in-law

are both receiving scrapbooks. My MIL's scrapbook is of all of the kids' studio/school portraits from birth. For my mother, I made a scrapbook of the family reunion last summer.

I also sent each one a refrigerator magnet with the kids' picture on it, and had one sent to my husband's grandmother too. I'm planning a scrapbook for my husband's grandmother, but I haven't started it yet.

[crispini]

44. Yarn.

She's a knitter, so she gets some nice foo-foo alpaca yarn from The Rainforest Site. I figure I'd better get her a real present since her birthday present was a donation to the Kerry campaign! :P

[Spacemom]

47. This Mother's Day is going to be very hard

My mom is battling ovarian (metasasized to liver) cancer. Without some sort of miracle, this will be our last mother's day together.

She lives about 250 miles away. We are driving up friday morning to spend the weekend with her. I'll get her flowers and fill her room with ballons. I'm checking on renting a convertible so I can take her for a drive in the East Texas piney woods she loves so much.

I don't know how I'm going to get through this weekend without breaking down. :cry

[Lavender Brown]

50. Hang in there

:hug:

[Mizmoon]

52. I feel for you Spacemom

That is a difficult thing to know in advance, but in a way it is good that you have time to say all the things that need to be said. I think you should cry if you need to. :hug:

[purr]

48. Orchids.

I got her a planter of P. Orchids (cant pronounce or spell the name of it). Really pretty white flower and she LOVES orchids.

Got my grandmother a bonsai gardenia plant. All will be delivered on Friday, hope they like them.

[the Princess]

51. I'm cooking for my mom

A big pot of meatballs - spaghetti - salad - garlic bread - Eggplant parmigiana - and her favorite cake "Green Apple cake".

YUMMY

[MissB]

53. A gift card or two

Sounds pretty unimaginative, but Mom and her dh pretty much sleep in a van full time. So I buy her practical things like gas cards or grocery cards.

Flowers won't help.