A question for gay men in relationships

[RagingInMiami]

If you're out with your partner at a grocery store, and you spot another man that you find attractive, and you're checking him out when your partner catches you, does he get mad at you or does he also check out the man?

With heterosexual couples, it would usually lead to an argument, or at least a resentful partner.

[JimmyJazz]

1. You forgot to use the question icon.

No one will answer. :o

[RagingInMiami]

2. Aw shit

That's probably the reason all my posts go ignored.

[fluffernutter]

3. lol, it's all about the icons, baby

;)

[SarahB]

4. I'm not a gay man, but I'll add something...

Possessiveness from a partner is because of their insecurity. I was never like this with a male partner, but I've had the reverse happen to me from a man. If he saw me look at another man, he'd get angry. Heck, if he saw another man look at me he'd even get angry at me. This is by no means a just "jealous woman" issue.

[RagingInMiami]

7. I didn't say it was only women. I mentioned heterosexual couples in genera

Cause I know it works both ways.

[SarahB]

11. Ok, gotcha.

I assumed it was one of those silly-jealous-women things, but it wasn't. Carry on, dude. :)

[Bok_Tukalo]

15. I agree that jealousy is an indication of insecurity

But where is the line drawn between being human and being disrespectful to your partner in public?

[SarahB]

20. A 2 second glance is almost just instinct.

Staring is something else. Not everyone wants mutually exclusiveness within a relationship either (or maybe they don't at some periods of their lives), so maybe that plays into things as well.

[Bok_Tukalo]

25. At that point

They aren't really your partner.

[Not Me]

5. We'd both give him a glance,

and perhaps make a comment.
It would never lead to resentment. We're too committed.

[fluffernutter]

6. this is a great question that i have wondered myself.

my brother gets checked out a lot by other guys - he used to be a waiter and he said that once he waited on a gay couple and they both were hitting on him, but neither one seemed jealous.

[RagingInMiami]

10. The reason I ask is cause I was at the store tonight and this guy

was checking me out, and his partner caught him, and they started talking, but I just kept walking.

[fluffernutter]

12. you have a nice athletic bod.

and probably a nice tush too ;)

[RagingInMiami]

13. Only for you, baby

[benny05]

14. I'm not Gay, but I hear what you say

My spouse isn't ever jealous of other persons who leer or show interest in me sexually. Spouse is more interested in my bloglife, lol. I pay more attention to blog/web sites at night...:bounce:

[Bouncy Ball]

28. Mr. Bouncy gets checked out by guys quite a bit.

I don't know what it is. We notice it a lot. Just happened on Sunday.

[RagingInMiami]

32. They probably wonder if his balls really do bounce

[Bouncy Ball]

33. LOL

[bettyellen]

24. it's called a three-way, silly.

i know for you straight guys that means two women, but....

[fluffernutter]

29. lol!

true. i guess it could have been something like that...

[bettyellen]

31. in NYC it happens all the time.

someone will flame me, but 2/3 of the gay couple i know have extracurriculars and it's said it's safer if you're both there. ha.

[mitchtv]

8. he'd check him out too

one of us will make a comment. No reason for Jealousy

[Bouncy Ball]

9. Bisexual couples might have this problem, as well.

Just sayin'.

[LynzM]

17. Yup....

Usually we tend to joke/tease about it. For us, it's not cause for an argument. I've been in relationships like that in the past, and I'm done with it, gladly.

[Bok_Tukalo]

18. Seems bisexuals couples would have A LOT of problems

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[Bouncy Ball]

21. Honey, don't look at that girl's ASS!

(Then the woman looks at girl's ass.)

[Bok_Tukalo]

23. Ass?

You see those tits?

You know I'm an ass man honey.

Yea, I know.

What the hell is that supposed to mean?

Nothing ... nothing.

[Bouncy Ball]

26. LOL

[6000eliot]

16. I get mildly jealous

He doesn't seem to notice. I used to get really jealous, but as the years have worn on, I no longer have the energy.

[ScreamingMeemie]

19. Maybe I'm odd this way, but when MrG and I are out-or even watching

television, I pick out the women I know he'd find attractive...and I'm usually right! I know it's me he comes home with, and other things, so I am pretty secure. :hi:

[mondo joe]

22. We wouldn't get made at one another. But we've been together 15

years, so we're pretty relaxed.

[Rowdyboy]

27. We alert each other and share the joy.....

It NEVER leads to anything except fantasies...

[fluffernutter]

30. woohoo!

i like that answer :)

[arwalden]

34. Easy! -- We Both Point Out The Cuties We Spot!!

If there's any argument, it's because one of us wasn't FAST enough to point out some hottie before he turned the corner and disappeared from view.

[Scooter24]

35. Me and my boyfriend

openly admit to each other that we check out other men. It's human nature so we don't fight over it. :) He knows where the lovin' is though, hehe. It's worked well for us for years. And we both are in our mid-20s so that alone speaks volumes lol