Anyone get offended when they realize they 're on someone's ignore list?

[RagingInMiami]

Don't you just hate it when you respond to a thread started by one of more popular DUers, who is asking the lounge for our opinion on something.
It is one of those threads that end up getting more than 60 posts in less than an hour and you later realize the person who started the thread responded to every single DUer in the thread -- except you.
And that is no exaggeration.
Then, when you send a non-confrontantional PM to that person -- not even mentioning the fact that you suspect you are on their ignore list -- you never get a response.
I really hate when that happens, but should I be offended?

[Longgrain]

1. I reckon I'm not on anyones ignore list...

I'm just too sweet of a guy I guess. Only twice have I even been tempted to put someone on mine...

Buddies list keeps growing tho...B-)

(if I ever did make someone's ignore list, I'd be interested in knowing about it...)

[coloradodem2005]

4. You're on mine.

j/k :P

[Longgrain]

5. Then I guess I can't respond to your message...

now can I?

[coloradodem2005]

8. I guess not.

:P ;)

[meegbear]

2. Badge of honor for me baby

Means I'm reaching my goal of pissing off over 60 thousand people in one place.

[coloradodem2005]

3. I don't have a very long ignore list myself.

Like maybe one person. I don't know. I have had my reasons for doing it to people. I have reversed a number of them if I think I might have overreacted. It can be a little offensive, but I guess people have their reasons.

I only have one person on my ignore list right now and that person doesn't post here to speak of.

[mark414]

6. pffft cowards, all of em

ignore list? how old are some of these folks, 12?

oh no people disagree! let's just ignore em all...

[Demit]

10. There're other reasons to put people on ignore, besides that they disagree

There's one or two here who feel they have to put part of their message in BIG BOLD type, and it looks like shouting to me. I just got so irritated by it I clicked ignore and never looked back. Well, LOL, there are times in a really good thread that I'm so curious to see what "Ignored" must have said I go to the trouble of taking them off the list.

There's someone who writes long paragraphs with no paragraph breaks, and somebody else whose grammar and punctuation is so funky it renders them unreadable, to me. But disagreement? Jeez, that's just part of debate, and it's interesting to see the back-and-forth.

[fluffernutter]

7. nah, don't be offended.

it does suck when it happens over something stupid though.

[Sporadicus]

9. I'd Be Even More Offended...

if the person went public by stating, 'you're on my ignore list.' I've never put someone on 'ignore,' but if I did, I would just do it without resorting to high drama and attempting public humiliation.

[wildeyed]

11. When I post in someone's thread and am the only one

who doesn't get a response, I just assume they think I'm boring. I'd rather be on ignore than boring.

I only had one person on my ignore list. They attacked me pretty rabidly over a misunderstanding. I probably should have hit alert, but instead I did the ignore thing. I wanted to be absolutely, positively certain that I never, ever made the mistake of posting a response to that individual ever again.

[mistertrickster]

12. It means you're more interesting than average, that's all.

[progmom]

13. I'm just checking to make sure I'm not on YOUR ignore list.

testing...

[RagingInMiami]

14. Never

Unlike some DUers, you have a sense of humor

[progmom]

15. Hey thanks!

And I feel the same about you. I actively seek out your threads!

[RagingInMiami]

30. thanks

that more than makes up for being on that asshole's ignore list

[Amfortas]

16. ah..... it's his loss !

[immoderate]

17. I asked about the ignore list in ATA...

and I didn't get a response, so I might be on their ignore list. I wanted to know how to find out whose ignore list(s) I might be on.

Then Jimmy Jazz PMed me, (interesting because I thought I might be on her ignore list,) to tell me to try PMing anybody whose ignore list I thought I might be on, and I would get a display that said I was on their ignore list. I didn't try that because if I wasn't on someone's ignore list, I wouldn't want them to think that I thought I was on their ignore list.

--IMM

[progmom]

19. Why in the world would you be on anyone's ignore list??

:shrug:

[immoderate]

24. Actually, I didn't think I was.

I just wanted to know if there was a way to tell if I was. The direct answer to your question though, is sometimes I piss people off.

I don't have anybody on mine.

--IMM

[RagingInMiami]

22. I read skinner say in ATA once that you would not get a dsplay

informing you that you are on they're ignore list. You just won't a response. The point is for that person never to know they're on the ignore list.

[immoderate]

29. I can understand that.

Does that apply to PMs? Seems you'd want to know if you're on their ignore list, or they're just ignoring you.

--IMM

[Bouncy Ball]

31. You shouldn't be able to PM them at ALL if they have you on ignore.

A message will come up saying this person is not receiving messages or something or other. And that means either they have you on ignore or they have disabled their PM feature altogether. But if the little PM icon shows up on their posts, then they haven't disabled it altogether. Just for you.

So that's how you can find out. I'm off to find out if the one I think is ignoring me really is.

[hfojvt]

18. It is not paranoia

they really are out to get me.

How do you know who the popular posters are? Other than the obvious fact that I am not one of them.

I do not try to be popular, although I try to be thoughtful and funny, but many times I feel the need to weigh in when another poster has been insufficiently thoughtful or compassionate. In fact, that is probably most of my "serious" posting. What is the point of posting just to say "ditto" or "amen"?

[xmas74]

20. I don't know-am I on someone's ignore list?

Most of the time I figure that they had too many to respond to, I made an idiotic comment (happens often) or that they just didn't see it (I do that a lot)>

[Zomby Woof]

21. Naw

I am spastic... am never steadily on DU, so sometimes I come back to lots of replies, and have no time to get to them all.

That is, I WANT to reply to everyone, but I don't have the attention span (or DSL anymore, dammit) to do so.

I don't want anyone to feel bad, and it is always okay to PM me if curious.

[RagingInMiami]

35. It wasn't you I was referring to

It's someone I think who took one of my jokes a little too seriously

[Zomby Woof]

37. Oh I know!

I just wanted to participate here. But since you are one of the few who gets what the original Skynyrd was about, how the hell could I ever have you on ignore? :-)

[RagingInMiami]

39. exactly

we're about due for another anti-skynyrd thread any day now. it's been about three weeks.

[amazona]

23. I'd be too clueless to figure it out

Any time I've found out I was on ignore was not through my own ability to figure it out but because I was told.

The conservation movement is a breeding ground of communists
and other subversives. We intend to clean them out,
even if it means rounding up every birdwatcher in the country.
--John Mitchell, US Attorney General 1969-72

[Bok_Tukalo]

25. I don't have an ignore list on public forums

Let alone such a narrow demographic, heavily moderated one such as this.

I never understood the ignore feature. Never mind the willfully close minded aspect of it, isn't it something everyone is capable of without automation?

[pres2032]

26. i think that's only happened a couple times

i didn't think i was on this one person's list, but i remembered the situation which may have led to that and what kind of person they were and it didn't bother me as much.

[RevolutionaryActs]

27. Why do you ask? Does someone have me on ignore???

Oh no! :(

:silly:

[Bouncy Ball]

28. If you're on their ignore list, I don't think you can send them a PM,

can you?

In which case, they are ignoring you the old-fashioned way.

I have been placed on at least one ignore list, but it was an accident. Still, when I found out, yeah, I was baffled and upset. To the point that I had OTHER DUers PM the person, LOL!

(Lesson: Don't put me on ignore, I'll get other people to hound you! Just kidding!)

Anyway it turned out to be all a big misunderstanding anyway. But I know the feeling.

Oh and I think there is one DUer right now who has me on ignore, but I have no proof of that. Just that they literally NEVER respond to me.

[RagingInMiami]

33. I remember you threatened that guy with a cage fight if he didn't take you

off his ignore list

[immoderate]

34. Well it's not me.

--IMM

[maveric]

32. "Ignore" is for elitist wimps w/ thin skins and a penchant for censorship.

There, I said it. Flame me till I'm well-done!

[two gun sid]

36. Nope. Anyone who can't stand the heat...

should kiss my ass.

[Bouncy Ball]

38. Welp, I must not be on that person's ignore list. I just tried to PM

them and it gave me the blank form.

Here, Raging, I'll put you on ignore temporarily and you try to PM me. See what you see when you do. Ok?

I'm going to do it now.

[immoderate]

40. Wow, I can't wait!

--IMM:bounce:

[Bouncy Ball]

41. Raging is now on my ignore list. Wonder if he's still here?

Should I start a new thread, telling him to try to PM me?

[immoderate]

42. Suspense is killing me!!

--IMM:crazy:

[RagingInMiami]

43. I got "the page you requested cannot be displayed"

So that means I am not on the other person ignore list, I am just being ignored. That really helps.

[immoderate]

44. Did you PM Bouncy?

I got's to know!

--IMM

[RagingInMiami]

46. yes, I PM'd her

And I got that notice that said page cannot be displayed.

[immoderate]

47. Well, that answers it.

To sum up, if someone has you on ignore, you will get a "Page not found" when you PM her.

--IMM:D

[Moms Baby Democrat]

45. I'd probably be a bit butt hurt at first....

But I generally get over myself pretty quickly. I have always been the type of person who people either like or dislike,a take it or leave it kind of girl. I see it this way, if they have put me on ignore it was most likely in their best interest and I won't be bothering them again. I haven't used it here yet, but have been tempted a few times. When I usually feel the urge, I just keep on scrolling...opinions are truly like, well you know, we all have them, like it or not. I can say this though, I could name quite a few people IRL I really wish I had the ignore option for! Don't let them get to you, whoever it may be, they aren't worth it.

[auntAgonist]

48. I don't think I post enough or say anything

controversial enough to be on anyone's ignore list. If I am, I wouldn't know why.

aA

[Anarcho-Socialist]

49. I don't think it's something to get worried about

Ignore lists can be a good thing; especially if two or more DUers have a big problem with each other - this can avoid nasty and personal flame wars. It's sometimes best to leave things alone.