Do we have a grief group here at DU?

[GreenPartyVoter]

[alittlelark]

1. If we don't we should... I'll look.

[GreenPartyVoter]

2. If we have/get one, I am going to ask Skinner to untombstone my dad

so he can join it.

[alittlelark]

3. Did he die recently?

[GreenPartyVoter]

4. Iif you mean was his DU membership rescinded , it was this past summer.

I think. He's an unrepentant Nader supporter and was perhaps a little ardent in his support of the man.

But my mom passed away at the end of January, so we're all struggling with that right now. :(

[alittlelark]

7. I'm very sorry.

I have yet to deal w/ the loss of a parent... not sure how I will do w/it.

How are you dealing w/ it?

[GreenPartyVoter]

10. Some days better than others. Today is an ok day, which is good because

dad is having a really bad weekend. I am glad that we all seem to be taking turns with being the "strong" one.

But... over all I am still having a hard time with it all. It is one thing to say "mom is still here, just in spirit form" and another thing to feel it in my heart and be at peace with it. That will be some time in coming for my brother and me.. and may never come for my dad.

[alittlelark]

23. Your father has lost his life-mate.... my G'father never got over it

He got better, but never returned past 60%.... but, then he was 83.

I doubt you will ever fully 'get over it'. It is expected that a parent dies before the child, but I think the scar remains. I have scars that remain from those not near as close to me as a parent.

[GreenPartyVoter]

28. My FIL lost my MIL 7 years ago. There is no getting over a lost loved one

just.. adjusting and getting by.

[alittlelark]

31. The wounds eventually develop enough scar tissue to mitigate

that intense searing feeling. But there are always flaws... scents, songs, situations.

[GreenPartyVoter]

34. Yeah. You always get jumped by stuff when you least expect it. :^(

[alittlelark]

35. Yeah, as a female I can get away w/ the misty-eyed thing (w/excuse)

I wonder how men deal w/ it? When it hits you are totally unaware... and unable to raise extra 'shields' in time.

[auntAgonist]

13. I'm so sorry to hear about you Mother..

Please accept my condolences. May the memories you cherish, keep her close in your heart forever.

My mom passed away not that long ago .. It's very hard somedays. I miss her terribly.

[GreenPartyVoter]

14. Thank you. I had a webpage for her, but I let my domain name lapse so

it's down at the moment. But my avatar is a pic of her. :)

[auntAgonist]

22. she is very beautiful.

what a lovely tribute!

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

25. Thank you. :^)

[Blue-Jay]

5. No disrespect intended.

But a "Grief Group"?

[GreenPartyVoter]

6. Yeah, you know. A place where people who have lost loved ones can support

each other. We've got all kinds of groups here at DU, but I don't think we have one of this nature yet.

[RevCheesehead]

8. If that doesn't fly, please come back and post...

at the Liberal Christians group. I think there's enough traffic there that people can at least be supportive for both of you.

:hug: to you and your dad.

[GreenPartyVoter]

11. It should fly, though. Look at how many DU members we have lost.. or

members who have lost loved ones, in recent times. :( We have a need for a group of that nature, no doubt about it.

[RevCheesehead]

16. I totally agree.

My parents are nearing that time, and my mom has not been well this last year. She could go at any time...

Why not put together a mission statement thingy, and get supportive responses? According to the rules, you need at least 10 people who are donors to DU (with a star). Once you've got that, bring the proposal to Skinner in ATA.

[alittlelark]

36. I have not been to that 'group', but I know many Liberal

Christians. They are a great bunch!!!

[MuseRider]

9. That would be a great idea.

We used to use the Meeting Room for those issues but a special group would be very helpful.

[GreenPartyVoter]

12. So what is the official procedure for starting a new group. I know we

have to do something and get ten people to say they want it? Or something to that effect.

[GreenPartyVoter]

15. Aha.. here it is

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=206x10

[MuseRider]

18. Here are the guidelines.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=206x10

I would be interested.

[auntAgonist]

19. me too !

If someone would PM me and let me know when the group opens I'd appreciate it. I'll be gone for over a week starting Tuesday but I will be back !

[MuseRider]

26. Will do it. n/t

[Nite Owl]

17. I think its a good idea

There are so many people here who have lost loved ones. My husband passed away 10 yrs ago and I am not 'over it'. I don't know if one ever really gets over it or you just learn to go on.

[auntAgonist]

21. I don't know either ..

I KNOW there are times I'd do anything to talk to my Mum again.

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

20. Ok, does anyone have suggestions for what the group statement

should be?

[GreenPartyVoter]

24. Bereavement group: a place of support for people who are grieving

The purpose of this group is to provide a support system for members of DU who have suffered a loss. Members joining this group will find a safe place to cry, scream, hurt, adjust, heal, and learn to cope with their loss.

[Nite Owl]

27. Sounds good

and mayybe a place to learn how to cope with the loss?

[GreenPartyVoter]

29. Good idea. The great thing about an online group is

that it isn't limited by operating hours like a counselor is. It would be there for us whenever we needed it.

[katinmn]

30. Great idea!

I'm sure this will fly. Put my name down. :hi:

[Longgrain]

32. I'd support it...

I've had lost friends, car accidents, disease and deaths in my history...

Sometimes I could use it..

[GreenPartyVoter]

33. OK, I've sent a note to Skinner to look over this thread. Thanks everyone

[TOhioLiberal]

37. I would be in support also.

Lost my mom in October. Like you have good and bad days. It would definitely be a help on any day.