Flowers on a first date - how do you feel about them?

[yvr girl]

How do you feel about giving/receiving flowers on first date?

[flamingyouth]

1. I think it's a very sweet gesture

:)

[greatauntoftriplets]

41. And a classy gesture....

:)

[SarahB]

2. It's nice.

If I was interested enough in someone to even accept a date, why wouldn't I like like it? If you're going to do it though, do it right. No wilted gas station flowers, guys. It's not about money, but thought. Even one single flower can be beautiful and touching with thought and effort behind it.

[Bonhomme Richard]

3. This question makes me chuckle.

I used to get flowers for my wife and all I would hear is "what a waste of money", or "they're just gonna die anyway". What a killjoy. So I stopped and have told her she doesn't have a romantic bone in her body and she agrees. Maybe her being Scotch has something to do with it but she has to be so damn practicle all the time.
LOL and I've been married to her for 30 years. I kid her and say that the only thing we have in common is the children.

[Beetwasher]

4. I Prefer Sex

But hey, that's just me! ;-)

[Debi]

10. Now THAT show some

PIZZAZ!

[Beetwasher]

14. LOL!

:thumbsup:

[tjwmason]

5. I've only had one first date with a woman

and I certainly did take flowers (and yes they were from a florist).

I'd be less likely to now that it would be with a man rather than a woman - don't quite know why though.

[matcom]

6. first date?

i perfer to "de-flower" :P

[yvr girl]

11. You like 'em young do you?

[kodi]

7. depends upon what preceded the date.

context is everything.

[Debi]

8. To me it's creepy

I mean if they're sent to you AFTER the date or bought for you during the date maybe, but before the date even begins? Trying too hard stalker like behavior...eww


(damn spelling)

[Radical Activist]

9. Looks desperate

and too eager to please. A lot of women either look down on that or take advantage of it.

[taught_me_patience]

32. i agree...

sign of desperation.

women smell desperation a mile away and are repulsed by it.

taught.

[Wapsie B]

36. At least for me it was.

The women I gave flowers to even after the 2nd or 3rd date didn't appreciate the gesture. They acted as if I was trying to buy my way into bed and not just accept the flowers as a token of friendship. But then the again women who I actually was infatuated with and summoned up what little alpha male I have in me and risked rejection by asking them out all shot me down.

[SOteric]

12. It depends...

A fella once sent me 3 dozen long-stemmed roses the night before our first date. I loved the flowers, and I don't think I'd mind receiving them if it weren't WAY too much of a statement, WAY too soon. It made me a tad uncomfortable.

In general, a little bundle of posies on a first date is a nice thing, and I wouldn't object.

[Technowitch]

13. I love getting flowers from anybody - date or no

[Moms Baby Democrat]

15. I Agree....What a waste of money

That's just me though, I prefer a bit of creativity whenever possible. When trying to show your thoughtfulness why not try something different rather then stick to the usual. If you really want to pick it apart....a gift or offering of any sort can often be considered a symbol of one's affection, so why offer something that's going to die? :shrug: Just saying....

[Rainbowreflect]

16. One of sweetest guy I ever dated asked me out with roses.

He was really shy & instead of just asking me out he brought roses to my work with a very sweet card asking if I would go out with him.
It worked.

[Nay]

17. I'm a woman, and flowers on a first date screams "stalker"

but that's just me. Take it easy, guys, relax and try to enjoy just enjoying the time with your date. No need to go overboard.

[Undercover Owl]

39. it's probably too much on a first date, IMO

Not necessarily "stalkerish", but it's too much too soon.

[barb162]

42. yeah n/t

[AngryAmish]

18. Smacks of desperation

[tjdee]

19. I actually feel bad for guys after reading this thread...and that's rare.

If a guy goes "gee, maybe she'd like some flowers" when she's thinking "he's a desperate stalker"....that's rough!

Roses may be stretching it, but flowers are always a kind gesture.

Be happy someone thinks enough of you to give you anything, geez--I've only gotten a few bouquets of flowers (two or three) in my life, and I wish I could be as snooty about it as some people!

[arwalden]

20. Roses? No. --- A Small Seasonal Bouquet... FINE.

Those small desktop-sized "thinking-of-you" type of pick-me-up arrangements are a sweet gesture. (One of the mixed-bags from the grocery store is a nice gesture too. Just hope that your date has a vase to put them in.)

-- Allen

[mcscajun]

21. I'd be more than happy — I'd be in Shock!

It'd be a First.

[calico1]

22. I don't like it.

I had it happen to me once which I posted about on another thread. The guy was acting creepy to begin with then when we get home he pulls out a flower arrangement from his trunk! It was a blind date so he had never even seen me before! Even if I knew the guy and was nuts about him I think its kind of pushy for a first date--unless you already know the person pretty well and just started dating. That is different. But from someone I don't really know? No, I don't like it!

[RevCheesehead]

23. one word: Allergies.

(and the cats will eat them)

I think it would depend on how well I knew the person. If we knew each other, that could be a sweet gesture. But if it's a stranger, the gesture smacks of "trying too hard."

If you really want to sweep me off my feet, bring cheese. :)

[liontamer]

24. but how often do you date strangers?

If you know and like someone enough to go on a date with him/her, aren't you on close enough terms to give/accept a small gift?

[RevCheesehead]

27. strangers = blind dates, friends fixing you up with someone, etc...

How often? <sigh> - you don't want to know.

Ideally, there would be swarms of gentlemen at hand, all vying for my attention, trying to out-do one another in their gifts and charms.

And like I said, if you really want to sweep me off my feet, bring cheese. (most people know that about me. I wonder why? :shrug:)

[Aristus]

25. I'm a man; I never got flowers on a first date.

Or any other date, either.

:cry:

[Hello_Kitty]

26. I've been doing the personal ads for the last month

I went on a date last week where the guy brought flowers to the restaurant. It was a sweet gesture but it was also awkward and embarrassing for me to walk to my table with a big old bouquet with a guy I'd just met. So my vote would be, as a general rule, no.

[enigmatic]

28. I give flowers on a first date all the time..

Well, I'm married now, but I did when we were dating, and when I dated others. I like the look of the woman when she see's them, and flowers are beautiful things to look at, so why not?

[liontamer]

29. it looks like the answer is

date with someone you know: lovely(unless you don't like flowers in which case someone you know will substitute flowers with your preferred small gift)

date with stranger(i.e. blind date): too weird and desperate

[Merope215]

30. I think they're okay from a blind date

as long as they're not threatening or over-the-top flowers. Roses or lilies or something would be too much, and I think the floral mixed bouquets are too. But something like jasmine, or just a gerbera daisy in an interesting color, is a nice gesture. I love flowers and like getting them from people, and my SO got me with a smallish bunch of yellow jasmine when I didn't know him that well. I'm just sayin'. :shrug:

[liontamer]

31. i think the gesture is always nice

but some people say that it freaked them out.

[Merope215]

40. Yeah, but I've been lucky so far

I haven't had any experiences involving creepy guys and flowers. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and usually think of flowers as just as nice thing to do, as long as the guy understands it doesn't guarantee him anything later on, so to speak.

I guess it depends mostly on the person involved, as usual, but I personally don't think flowers are ever a bad idea. :)

[skygazer]

33. I'd go along with the general concensus here

Flowers on a first date with someone you are already acquainted with are nice, as long as it's not over the top. Roses are a lover's bouquet and can be seen as pushy or too much.

On a blind date or a date with someone you've never met face to face, I'd hold off and send some afterwards if the date went well.

Personally, the flowers I've most enjoyed receiving were the bouquets of wildflowers that a former boyfriend used to bring by for me for no particular reason, flowers he picked himself with me in mind.

[GOPisEvil]

34. I always thought it came across a bit strong.

:shrug:

[Left Is Write]

35. I think it's nice to receive flowers on the first date, but

I do think roses might be a bit much.

[bigwillq]

37. I think it's very sweet.

I like a gentlemen. :)

[Jack_Dawson]

38. Trying Too Hard

[Swamp Rat]

43. How come men don't get flowers from women?

:cry:

[Renew Deal]

44. I don't do it but...

It's OK to do if it's one or two.

[CanuckAmok]

45. C'mon..."stalkerish"? "Desperate"?

I usually bring flowers for a first date, because I've already spoke to the woman enough ahead of time (via phone, email, or 'around the watercooler') to get a good sense of what she is like.

And I don't think I've ever gat the "just in case you're planning to, don't bring me flowers because I'll think you're Ted Bundy" vibe.

I even bought flowers for a woman I just found beautiful, not even planning on meeting her for a date. Just a "here are some flowers, because you're lovely. Well, 'bye." kind of gesture.

[yvr girl]

47. I had a friend who received flowers on a first date and she was

freaked out. Of course, the whole date wasn't good.

I received flowers from a stranger once and was completely charmed. I think the giver makes a difference.

[CanuckAmok]

48. I suppose the more important issue is:

How do you feel about flowers on a first date, yvrgirl?

[yvr girl]

49. They're not expected but

I do like flowers. I wouldn't want anything over-the-top though.

[CanuckAmok]

50. Oh, so this is too much?:

How about just two out of the four, then?

[yvr girl]

51. Let's play rate the bouquet

1. A little large, but I do love tropicals
2. Unless the date involves me being a bride/bridesmaid, it seems wrong. I'm not really in favour of getting married on the first date.
3. Ah, spring. A bit large, but lovely.
4. Wrong. In so many ways. Wrong.

[CanuckAmok]

52. Wow...your standards are obviously too high for s guy like me!

back to the drawing-board.

[yvr girl]

53. That's not fair

I don't even expect flowers. I'd love the most simple of bouquets.

[CanuckAmok]

54. Okay...here's a start.

[yvr girl]

55. I love it

:*

[tinfoilinfor2005]

56. Thanks for the belly laugh!

The first one looks as though it should have a large ribbon that reads "RIP" draped across the front...which could really put a girl off, especially if her date was an undertaker, LOL.

[xmas74]

46. I couldn't pick any.

I've never received flowers on any date.
I think that it might be nice.

[silverpatronus]

57. my thing is, if it's a first date, he doesn't know what flowers i like

and i totally dislike the generic roses. EVERYBODY does roses. no real thought or consideration goes into it.

i don't like it for the same reason that any man ever offering me a diamond will get beaned in the head with it. no thought, no originality.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

58. It depends

If it were someone I'd had my eye on for a while who finally asked me out, I'd be delighted to receive flowers.

If it were a blind date or a pickup, it would seem a bit desperate.