Should I set my friend up?

[Sympleesmshn]

I wanted to do a poll for fun so here it goes...

A little back-round info... My friend likes a girl but doesn't know if the feeling goes both ways. He is too afraid to take the risk himself, should I set him up?

[Spinzonner]

1. Not if it's Ann

[Sympleesmshn]

3. lol, It isn't...

[Lady Freedom]

2. Don't do it

Setting up people can backfire!!!!

[Sympleesmshn]

4. Yeah but asking some one out can back fire to.... n/t

[Lydia Leftcoast]

5. Do it in a subtle manner

Talk to the lady and bring up your friend's name in conversation casually. Say that you think he's a great guy. If she blushes and giggles or something, you're fine. If she rolls her eyes or throws up, forget it.

If you don't know her well enough to do that, invite both of them to the same small party or as part of a small group to go to a movie followed by coffee or pizza.

[Sympleesmshn]

6. I can't believe only 5 people are going to decide my friend's fate...n/t

[miss_kitty]

7. how about a small dinner party

with a couple other people? Then it's not such a pressurised situation. I saw someone say setups can backfire, but they can also work out great!

[Sympleesmshn]

9. Well I have it all planned out...

I just want to know if I should go through with it or not...

[NightTrain]

8. You mean, you're going to commit a murder and frame your friend?

Sure, go for it! Just don't leave any evidence behind lest Lt. Columbo find it and nab you.

[Pepperbelly]

10. how old are you people?

That makes a dif I think in what I'd advise.

[Sympleesmshn]

11. High school Senior...

but he is much more mature then his age. It is a trend at our school to act more mature then your age.

[Pepperbelly]

15. I'd mind my own business ...

you can never go wrong that way.

[Sympleesmshn]

16. I asked him...

A few days ago he said no, and today he said it was cool... I am just doing the poll for kicks and to see how people stand on the issue...

[Pepperbelly]

18. I would amuse myself elsewhere, I think.

Trust me on this ... it never serves you to intervene in the lives of others. It really isn't a good idea.

[Patriot Acts]

12. Does your friend already have some type of friendship with this girl?

I would hate to see you destroy a friendship or "make things weird" between two good friends or co-workers.

[Sympleesmshn]

13. They are friends...

(We all go to the same high school) He will graduate soon, so it couldn't be that bad...

[SarahB]

14. No.

It doesn't work. In the past, I was attempted to be paired with a number of guys "who liked me" and it never worked. For me, it worked better when those matters were taken care of more directly by either myself or the gentleman in question.

[RoyGBiv]

17. No, no, no ... a thousand times no.

With all due respect to your friend, people who will not take the risk themselves will not benefit in the long-term by being set up. I know this. I was this person at one point in my life. Being set up -- that is finding people who would respond to my passive-aggresive cues to set me up so I didn't have to take the risk -- made me a basket case for years. The relationships I developed due to this were disasters.

At most, put them in the same room together and let what happens happen, but do not "make the first move" for your friend.

[Patriot Acts]

19. I agree with post 14 & 17

;)

[Blue-Jay]

20. Do it!

Regardless of how it works out, you're not responsible. They'll either get along or they won't; no skin off your ass. If it turns out ugly, a true "friend" won't blame you. If it works out, you're the godfather of the first child.

Hook 'em up. People only get so many chances. Be an optimist.

[Briarius]

21. only if you set them up the bomb

I got set up and it worked out ok, so it may be worth a shot...