Have you ever had this happen...

[Cadence]

I was at the movie theater today buying popcorn and a coke. There were two lines with very few people. As I'm waiting, I look over at the other line and at that exact same moment this guy had just turned and was facing me. We made eye contact and it was like this little jolt of something ran between us. Not really magical or anything like that and not really like attraction. Just a jolt, that made him stand out, *really* stand out from everyone else.
But since I'm not cool in those situations I turned away and when I finished getting my order he was gone. I thought about him on and off all afternoon.

Ever had those? Like an energy exchange with a complete stranger and somehow they feel important.. even though you know it really wasn't?

[pres2032]

1. wow, so that was you?! I knew it!!

:-)

that is pretty cool though. hehe, love at first site maybe?

[Cadence]

4. He- he! We did both see movies today!

;)

I don't know if I believe in love at first site... I have no idea what that was. It was *somethin* at first site that's for sure. Have you ever had that happen?

[pres2032]

6. yeah, something like that

back in sophomore year me and my friends were trying to get a house approved by residence life for junior year and one girl had a friend studying abroad and wanted her to live with us (it was going to be 5 girls and 2 of us guys). well the house wasn't approved and I really didn't give another passing thought to the people who were going to live with us, but i wasn't with friends yet. Junior year comes and my female friend brought over the girl who was abroad and when we first saw eachother we were both taken aback for a few moments. We went on to become very very close friends, heh, until she decided she'd had enough this september and called our friendship off for the most part.

[Cadence]

8. Ahh I'm sorry cutie!

Sometimes those things happen. I've heard statistically that the average person is *lucky* to have three friends that they stick with throughout their life. So it sounds like just about everyone on the planet is pretty familiar with getting friends and losing them. Sometimes inexplicably. I know I have.

:hug:

[pres2032]

11. hehe, thanks!

yeah, i beleive i can count my long time friends on one hand. but that's ok, some things are meant to be, others not so much.

anyways, time for bed, goodnight! :hug:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

2. Was he cute ?

If you see him again , say hi . Actually things like this have happened to me before and I reacted the same way as you did .

[Cadence]

3. Really, you've done the same thing?

I don't know if I'd even recognize him again. I was so taken aback by the jolt, that I kind of vaguely remember what he looked like.
Yeah, he was cute but not my typical "type" at all. I like light brown hair, blue eyes and he was dark hair, dark eyes.

It really caught me off guard. I bet that's only happened one other time in my entire life.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

5. That's when the goofy side of me comes out ...

Yeah it will happen to me - but its always like a guy who I am not normally attracted to but when they appear I am like " whoa " . He looks at me , and I look at him . Marvelous lol . And I am goofy and I don't want to do anything awkward I just quickly turn around like you did .

[Cadence]

7. Yep that's me... goofy!

I've never had the cool.. smooth vibe.. I'm the one that will spill my drink on myself or accidentally have toliet paper stuck to my shoe. Which is actually funnier because I don't look like I would be.. I look like I would be cool... but I'm not.. so it's kind of surprising for people.

The thing is if I continue to quickly turn away ...I'm *never* gonna meet someone. I have to learn this!!
In my head I'm thinking smile! smile you dork.. c'mon smile! it's not this scary just smile! But nothin...my face just stays frozen. Which is funny because I smile all the time normally.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

9. LOL I smile all the time too ...

But in situations like with what happened to you , I always lose my cool and thats when I bump into like a pole or something LOL . I am all cool and calm but as soon as something like the way that you turned around and saw that guy , as soon as that happens , I drop my drink , drop something else , or I just lose all of my motor skills . I smile a lot too . But like I said , I go into the opposite mode when a guy comes along , its like a defense technique that I had to learn how to get away from .

[Cadence]

10. Yes that's me too exactly! How'd you "unlearn" it?

I swear I've been trying forever to get over this. I know it's a protective mechanism probably related to something completely different but it baffles me. I've actually come along way.. in the past I wouldn't have been able to hold his gaze for as long as I did and my heart would have started pounding. That didn't happen today. I calmly turned away quickly and stayed calm... just couldn't bring myself to turn back around or smile.

Baby steps I guess. Great.. at this rate I'll be single until I'm fifty and by then this won't be an issue. ;)

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

15. I would go into " defense mode " ...

because I would always care so much about what other people thought about me - and going into defense mode might have turned people off into talking to me . So instead of worrying about what people thought about me , I switched into the mode of thinking " I am not perfect , and neither is everyone else . " and I just opened up and gave everyone a chance . If they like me , they just like me , if they don't , then oh well - I know who not to smile at :) lol . And it did take baby steps for me , because I am a really shy person and I just now at the age of 24 started to come out my shyness - I just think to myself , " I am me and this who I am supposed to be . " Same thing applies to meeting guys and etc - just smile and who knows what will happen .

[Cadence]

18. Well see my brain is sending the smile signal

and my face doesn't respond. I might be missing neurons. That would explain a lot actually. LOL. I have no problem meeting guys I don't find attractive. Even if they're models .. if I'm not attracted.. I'm totally fine.. confident.. outgoing.
But if I'm attracted.. I have all the couth of a thirteen year old.
Oh well, I'm sure I'll figure it out. With or without those neurons. :D

[Az]

12. Eye contact is the initiation of a challenge

We react to it with a fight or flight reaction. If we determine the individual is not a threat the energy will redirect. But that initial jolt is just your body getting ready in case something is about to happen.

[Cadence]

14. I don't know. It wasn't really like flight or fight.

I understand the concept but this was different. I've struggled with PTSD.. flight or fight, is very familiar territory.. this was something in another category.
Nothing threatening more like a draw... but I wouldn't say attraction.

:shrug:

[Maple]

13. So next time....

SMILE

[Cadence]

16. Yeah. Easier said than done.

That's what I told myself *last time* this happened.

Ever had an experience like that? Not where you reacted as I did, but where someone affected you like that?

[EC]

17. Yeah, quite often....it's called chemistry....

But when you look away, it's lost. If you would have held the gaze, it may have turned into magical....

[Cadence]

19. Really?? You have it happen often?

That's awesome! If I had it happen more I'd get better at it I bet! Ugggghhhh... just reading your words "If you would have held the gaze, it may have turned into magical" gave me a butterflies.
Chemistry is a powerful thing!! It left quite an impression.

Have you had a long term relationship come from one of these encounters?

[EC]

20. Yeah, I figure it's because I'm one of those

non threatening types, with a heavy aura...

I'm always the one people will pick out of a crowd of strangers to talk to, or ask directions

And yes, my first fiancee, we caught each others eyes in (of all places) detention in high school...we both held it and had to find out who each other was...that lasted 3 years. Then there was my husband, we caught eyes in junior high, but like you, I looked away, he ran, we ran into each other again in a bar years later, I was dancing, he was drinking and his glass stopped half way to his mouth and didn't move, he just stared, and I did too (lucky the guy I was dancing with was gay, so he didn't feel insulted) we just made our way to each other when the song was over and never parted again until he died 15 years later.

Then, to get back into the swing of things and start socializing again, I took a week-end job as a cocktail waitress and a new bartender was starting, when I walked in to go to work, all of a sudden I felt a rush, and just twirled around and our eyes clicked, we were together for 2 years.

Now, I tend to look away because I really don't want to get involved again for a while, I'm kinda enjoying the freedom and the ownership of the remote control.

[mark414]

21. i had that happen at work once

*sigh* i wish i would've talked to her...

but what kind of guy approaches a girl when he's at work? just seemed like a bad idea to me...

[EC]

22. Look at your signature...

So why go with the script? Take a chance once in a while...

[GOPisEvil]

23. Yep...and I never act on those little exchanges.

It's because I'm a big weenie.