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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:18 PM
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Bisexuality..I don't get it
Ok, now hear me out. I'm not quite sure what to think about bisexuality. I can understand homosexuality I guess, but bisexuality is different. I know three bisexuals at the moment and they're all the same. Their parents weren't the best and I personally think they're trying to convince themselves that they're bisexual as a form of rebellion to get back at their parents. Now, I could be wrong, that's why I posted this topic. I've came to this conclusion because my girlfriend was the same way. She went around saying for a time that she was bisexual trying to rebel against her parents...but she really wasn't.

Comments?
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:20 PM
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1. no
not for me anyway. been this way as long as i can remember.

could be those few cases, but i don't understand how claiming to be bisexual is some type of rebellion. it doesn't even make sense.

we are born the way we are, nothing can sway me from knowing that.
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Modem Butterfly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:20 PM
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2. That mean you have to pay for it, right?
Seriously, no sex threads.
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sendero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:20 PM
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3. Some psychologists believe..
... that there is really no such thing as a true bisexual. That people will eventually gravitate to one or the other, and that most do it as a form of "look how free I am".

Me, I have no idea, and don't really care :)
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:22 PM
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7. well
those psychologists can screw off.

the physical attraction to both sexes NEVER goes away.

i might end up marrying a man and spending my life with him., but it doesn't change the fact that a woman turns me on too.
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VioletLake Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:45 PM
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58. It is about attraction, but NOT necessarily physical.
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 04:48 PM by VioletLake
It's wonderful being able to enjoy the beauty of both sexes. :9

Edit: oops... left out the NOT. :+
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:30 PM
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24. haven't heard that
but I guess that could make sense. and I was just started this topic cause it was something I didn't understand. I try to stay out of gay related issues as best I can, but I just thought I'd post and see what everybody had to say
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edbermac Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:20 PM
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4. Well, it doubles your chances of getting a date on Saturday night...
Quoth Woody Allen...
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:21 PM
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5. Oh boy... this should be fun.
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:22 PM
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8. ROFL!!
:hi:
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:23 PM
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10. :)
:hi:
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DrWeird Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:24 PM
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14. I'll go microwave some popcorn.
And preheat the oven.
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:25 PM
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17. I'll share...
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TXlib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:21 PM
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6. They're greedy bastards
getting twice the number of dates as the rest of us! :evilgrin:
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:23 PM
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9. not really
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 04:24 PM by Faye
at least from my personal experience, it's not very easy for a bisexual girl to find another girl to date or whatever with - unless the other girl is bi too. gay girls won't have us :cry:
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TXlib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:26 PM
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19. you weren't supposed to take me seriously.
maybe gay girls won't have you, but straight men want you even more!
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:23 PM
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11. Wow..think I'll register at DU and start a bisexuality thread
oh..and the answer to your question...she said she was bisexual because she wanted GOOD head for a change
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:24 PM
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15. AHAHHAHAHA LOLLLLLLLLL;;L
no shit dude!~!!!!!
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:26 PM
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20. LMFAOROFLMFAO
:cry:
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silvermachine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:28 PM
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22. Brilliant
I'm dyin' over here!:headbang:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:32 PM
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30. I don't see anything wrong with that! My first thread ever
was something completely controversial intended to start a flame war - wasn't everybody's? :silly:

sorry - could not hep myseff.
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Shakespeare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:33 PM
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33. ROFL! Nominated for best spit take of the day!
Jesus, NSMA--the subject line AND the message are hilarious and perfect!!

:yourock:
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MuseRider Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:39 PM
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46. Best answer ever.
Thanks. :hi:
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:43 PM
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55. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!
TEENA!!!

TEENA!!!

TEENA!!!

:D
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theorist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:50 PM
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68. I'll be the one male to say, "That's damn funny!"
I'm trying to learn, I really am. :evilgrin:
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theorist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:57 PM
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79. wrong place n/t
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 04:58 PM by theorist
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sundog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:25 PM
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124. hahaha
thank you :toast:
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Liberal Veteran Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:23 PM
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12. What's not to "get"?
The general understanding of sexuality is that it's a continuum, not a digital thing.

Think of a scale of 1 to 100 with Heterosexuality being "1" and Homosexuality being "100". I think there are any number of people who fall anywhere in between. Some people are 99 and primarily identify as homosexual yet leave open the possibility of that one person of the opposite sex they could have a relationship with. Same for the person who is 2. I think there are probably lots of 10s through 90s. Somewhere around the middle (the 40-60 range) you have the people who identify as bisexual.
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Goldmund Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:24 PM
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13. Why do you need to get it?
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blm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:25 PM
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16. I get it.
And I like it. It's worked for me about 24 years now.
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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:26 PM
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18. It's the quadsexuals I don't get
:shrug:
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DelawareValleyDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:28 PM
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21. Once you do get a quadsexual
you'll never go back :-)
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:30 PM
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23. If you are not bisexual, what do you care?
If you think you might be bisexual, there's a lot of good information out there to help you deal w/ your apparent confusion. Good luck.
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:32 PM
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26. apparent confusion?
:shrug:
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:35 PM
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35. Note I didn't say that bisexuals are confused.
I said that "high-carb" is apparently confused. If he doesn't get bisexuality, and thinks he might be bi (something I posited), I would imagine he's confused.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:38 PM
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44. I'll say - I think he made a left turn when he meant to go right.
;)
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:32 PM
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29. oh it ain't that
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 04:33 PM by high_carb_hot_dog
see my ex said she was bisexual and she never did convince me. her mom was really hard on her and it just seemed like she was using the whole bi thing as a form of rebellion.

and to anser your other statement...nuh uh. i'm perfectly happy bein straight
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:36 PM
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38. I am very glad you cleared that up.
Heh.
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Spider Jerusalem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:30 PM
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25. No....
bisexuality is probably more "normal" than being either completely homosexual or completely heterosexual. Sexuality is more of a spectrum than a strict set of walled-off categories. Most avowed heterosexuals will at some point at least fantasise about a homosexual encounter, although they may not go through with it...which would seem to indicate that bisexual tendencies are pretty widespread. In fact, 2000 years ago, it was generally accepted that bisexuality, and not complete heteo- or homosexuality, was "normal"; I'd say the shift is largely due to the cultural influence of religion.
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:32 PM
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31. Wrong spot
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 04:33 PM by Misunderestimator
oops
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:32 PM
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27. Mmmmm....pizza...
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:33 PM
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32. Really????
Good - 'cause I'm hungry - do you think there will be enough for everyone to share :P
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:37 PM
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42. There should be, but it's not quite done yet.
I'd give it about 10 more posts *AHEM*...I mean minutes. :D
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KurtNYC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:46 PM
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61. And it won't be DiGiorno? or Celeste?
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:32 PM
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28. That's such a common accusation against bisexuals...
...that they are either trying to rebel, trying to be special, trying to be cool, hip, or otherwise faking it.

I wonder why gays and straights don't get accused of faking it.

Please check out this link:

http://serf.org/~jon/soc.bi/faq/a.html
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:36 PM
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36. well..
it may be a common accusation, but I haven't seen anything that would lead me to believe otherwise. the ones I know really are rebellious.
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:40 PM
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51. LMAO... The blacks I know are rebellious... think they are just pretending
to be black?
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:56 PM
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76. No doubt. (nt)
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Book Lover Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:54 PM
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72. Sorry - dupe
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 05:01 PM by Book Lover
DU has been so weird for me today!
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:59 PM
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83. LOL
I know. I look around I'm I think, Hey, how'df that happen?"
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:55 PM
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75. But why do you immediately question the authenticity of their bisexuality?
3 people are rebellious, they are all bisexual. This is a very small sample to draw a broad conclusion from in the first place. In the second place, why do you automatically question whether their bisexuality is fabricated to serve their rebellion? You introduce the concept that it's a fabrication. It's your suspicion. There could be any number of things that link the 2. For example, many people may be bisexual, but rebellious people are more likely to be out.

It's a logical fallacy anyway, like all boxes are shapes, all boxes have angels, all shapes have angels.

Did the FAQ help you "get it" at all?
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MuseRider Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:35 PM
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34. I have always heard that
we are all bisexual and I think that is most likely correct. Why does this matter?
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:36 PM
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37. Kids might say that
Especially if they're at the point of being curious about it.

I suspect adults who have who have been engaged in relationships with both sexes over a number of years might say differently
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:36 PM
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39. Hm. This should be interesting...
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:38 PM
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45. That's the smilie I was looking for!!
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:40 PM
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49. I usually reserve it for GD flame wars, but you know - when
appropriate! :) Note the spelling: Why are "they" always the worst spellers - skinner did invest in spell check, ya know.
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UdoKier Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:37 PM
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40. Maybe with some very young people.
Adults who have fully explored their sexuality know whether they are indeed bisexual.

I'm bisexual, but I don't bother my parents with it. It just means I acknowledge that I can be attracted to both genders. I'm happily married to a female, but if things had gone differently, It might have been a male - just so happens I fell in love with a nice girl. I'm an atheist, so I don't believe it's a sin, and I don't believe in lying to oneself or trying to repress one's feelings. That doesn't mean you have to act on those feelings - it's just a matter of acknowledging them and not looking at them as "dirty".

But don't feel bad - a lot of gays and straights are very uncomfortable about bisexuality.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:39 PM
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47. oh hey, don't get me wrong
i never said it was a sin or anything and I never said I looked on it as being "dirty", just as something I didn't understand.
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UdoKier Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:47 PM
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63. I know.
But a lot of bisexuals repress that side of themselves for that reason and simply identify as "straight". This may lead to frustrations and infidelity.

On the other hand, some other bisexuals may go the other way and simply identify as "gay" because much of the gay community is also uncomfortable with it.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:48 PM
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66. yea?
i didn't know the gay folk had a problem with bisexuality?
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UdoKier Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:02 PM
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88. It makes some of 'em feel all icky.
nt
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intrepid_wanderer Donating Member (559 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:53 PM
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141. Crazy
IRONIC, No?


:bounce:
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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:37 PM
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41. Anyone got some steaks?
This flame should be a big one.
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DrWeird Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:40 PM
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50. I've got some frozen pizza.
Can't remember the brand name. Let me check my freezer.
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:47 PM
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62. why, it wouldn't be this brand, would it?
<img src=>

I love that brand. So cheap and so predictable!
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:40 PM
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52. flame away
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 04:42 PM by high_carb_hot_dog
it take more than people at keyboards to hurt my feelings. I'm still trying to wonder why everybody's gettin so pissy about it. I didn't say anything negative, i just simply said I didn't understand it
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DrWeird Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:45 PM
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59. I believe you.
Yeah. That's the ticket.

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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:49 PM
Original message
What's there to understand?
and more importantly, WHY are the sexual preferences of other people ANY OF YOUR BUSINESS?

Maybe they're bisexual because they like vagina.

Maybe they're bisexual because today is Thursday and what else am I going to do?

WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE TO YOU?

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WoodrowFan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:19 PM
Original message
he's just curious
the kid's just curious and he had the courage to ask.
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:34 PM
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128. I really don't think he's curious
I think that it's quite odd that AS SOON as he hits the # of posts required to post his own thread, this is the ONE question that he asks.

And not even in a gentile, "I'm really curious" way. He's not curious as to why people are bisexual. In fact, he's ascribing the attitude of 'rebellion' to bisexuals. That would infer that he thinks that bisexuality is a phase, something done to get a rile out of someone, a feeling that will soon pass, something that isn't genuine.

He's being inflammatory and he knows it and is enjoying getting a rile out of DU'ers.
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WoodrowFan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:36 PM
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133. maybe
I'm reserving judgement, but you may be right.
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:51 PM
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69. I like mine rare, please.
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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:54 PM
Response to Reply #69
73. Here's a nice baked po-tatter to go with it.
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:04 PM
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90. Thanks! I brought some brews...
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Pithlet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 07:18 PM
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160. I'll bring the potato salad. Who's bringing plates and napkins?
I don't know how to do cute smilies that aren't on DU.
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Placebo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:38 PM
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43. What is there to "get"?
I like men, so I say that I'm "gay", but it's really more complicated than that, because I've had girlfriends in the past too, and can't deny that I still find women attractive.
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MsAnthropy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:40 PM
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48. WHERE ARE THE MODS?
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DelawareValleyDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:45 PM
Response to Reply #48
57. I don't know, but
I hit alert the minute this was posted.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:46 PM
Response to Reply #57
60. so...... what?
is discussing homosexuality/bisexuality/transgendered/whatever a no-no here?
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MsAnthropy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:52 PM
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70. No. sex. threads. period.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:01 PM
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87. Oooohhh...
...I didn't think of that.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:00 PM
Response to Reply #57
86. I think it's ok to discuss this...
...as long as there are no personal attacks. The post IS biphobic, but I think some of this discussion might help people understand bi-phobia, and maybe even get over it.

I don't know.
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MsAnthropy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:06 PM
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96. Oh please. This is nothing but flamebait crap.
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Bouncy Ball Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:41 PM
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53. What?
How do you explain bisexuals who have no living parents? Or who haven't told their parents they are bi? Or who aren't in touch at all with their parents?

Or bisexuals who are married to the opposite sex and live life as a heterosexual?

Or bisexuals who are with their homosexual partners and live life as a homosexual?

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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:45 PM
Response to Reply #53
56. deep breaths...
you might have missed the part where I said that I could be wrong. and that I had nothing to compare the alleged bi's I knew to. i have come to the conclusion I have about bisexuality cause of the experience I've had with it. if i should happen to have anymore, i might change my mind
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:49 PM
Response to Reply #56
67. What in the world possessed you to put up this thread?
Did you really think that at 22 posts, you weren't going to get flamed? I'm just asking.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:56 PM
Response to Reply #67
77. here's a better question
i'm starting to get the feeling that anything other than total agreement about homosexuality is frowned upon here? why? can I not post a reasonable topic dealing with this issue? or do I only have to say "yes sir!! I agree totally with the Democratic party's view on homosexuality. i will not show dissent in any way"

now I ain't homophobic by any means. I believe in gay marriage and i even have class tonight with a married gay couple. they're two of the nicest people I know.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:59 PM
Response to Reply #77
84. Because you have not established yourself yet.
When some one with a low post count comes to this forum and posts something this controversial without first getting to know anyone, it looks really suspicious, ya know what I'm saying?

Some people, if they truly had a question about this would approach it in a more delicate manner in the GLBT forum. I'm sure it would be reasonably discussed.

It's not that we are all in lock step - but you gotta get to know us before you throw up a thread like this and even then, I'd be really careful about how I approached the subject.

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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:04 PM
Response to Reply #84
93. i gotcha
i wasn't trying to offend anybody. and I'll try to be more delicate in the future.

thanks for the heads up.
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intrepid_wanderer Donating Member (559 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:05 PM
Response to Reply #84
150. OH BULL!
Discussing controversial issues is how people go from strangers to great respect (or lack of it) based on how these former strangers conduct themselves along the discussions progression!

'erm... that's what I think!

:bounce:
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theorist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:05 PM
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151. Thanks, Jazzy.
This is a point that some new DUers fail to gather. This is a community. You wouldn't move into a new neighborhood and start a conversation like this the first chance you get. (Less than optimal analogy, but you get the picture.)
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:03 PM
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89. "agreement about homosexuality"
Saying one disagrees with homosexuality is like saying one disagrees with giraffes.

Homosexuality is a fact of life. It exists. It is an immutable trait. I could no more change my orientation than change my eye color -- and why should I try?

No, the question is, how is this country going to treat its gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, and other "different" citizens?
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:06 PM
Response to Reply #89
97. if we can use Nov. 2 as an example...
then I'd havta say badly. and for that, I truly am sorry. I'm guessing you're gay and I know a second Bush term must really suck for you
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:16 PM
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106. No, we can't use Nov. 2 as an example. Would you like to know why not?
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 05:24 PM by Bertha Venation
Because our system is set up to protect the minority from the tyranny of the majority. If it weren't for that, blacks would still be riding in the back of the bus and women wouldn't be allowed to vote.

With Bush in the WH and the radical right in control of Congress, it's tough to see how we are going to realize that protection, but we will not suffer second-class citizenship for much longer.

"a second Bush term must really suck for you" -- not any more than for anyone else, Dude. Even the radical right who backed him is going to suffer eventually.

edited to change the word "accept" in the 2nd para to the word "suffer" -- since no one I know just accepts it.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:22 PM
Response to Reply #106
119. ok, so you say....
that you're not going to accept second class citizenship much longer. but I ask...what exactly can you do about it short of moving to Canada? didn't you already try that with the gay marriage thing and it blew up in your face? I believe in gay rights, but I don't think there was a worse time to bring up something like gay marriage than there was in 2004
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:22 PM
Response to Reply #97
118. You're guessing I'm gay?
How astute.

Check my signature line.

:eyes:
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:25 PM
Response to Reply #118
123. wow....
didn't notice that
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:14 PM
Response to Reply #77
104. A poem
He came and posted
It gets better
Gawd I wish he would post more
Gee..first thread is flame bait
Sure hope it lasts

Because it's been a while
Oh how I missed you
So many flame wars - so little time
On DU
N0....don't go
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:57 PM
Response to Reply #67
80. just an idea:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:00 PM
Response to Reply #80
85. Is that his gallery pic?
;)
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:04 PM
Response to Reply #85
91. Why I do think it is
:-)
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intrepid_wanderer Donating Member (559 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:02 PM
Response to Reply #67
147. awhhhh
all the flaming... why why

(target aquired, I know)

:bounce: I'm still happy to be here :bounce:
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intrepid_wanderer Donating Member (559 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:00 PM
Response to Reply #53
145. yeah
YEAH, DAMMIT< YEAH!!!!
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loudestchick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:42 PM
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54. Just because an individual doesn't act on their feelings doen't make
those feelings any less legitimate. You say she wasn't bi? How could you possibly know? I've been married for almost 14 yrs...but I still consider myself bi...I just happen to ALSO be monogamous. I'm still attracted to both sexes, but I take the promises I made to my husband seriously.
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:47 PM
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64. Let's get to the real matter of things... Did you feel inadequate
because your girlfriend was bi?

I really don't understand why you need to analyze this more deeply than "some people are attracted to both sexes".

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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:48 PM
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65. How old are you?
Just askin'
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Nikia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:52 PM
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71. Maybe you should get to know some closeted bisexuals
There are quite a few who are closeted to some extent and usually to their parents. A few of my closest female friends came out to me as bisexual in college. They were not dating women at the time and told few people about their attraction to women. It is not a rebellious thing at all. Of course, your bisexual friends probably won't come out to you since they know that you have a negative opinion of them.
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:54 PM
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74. You're freaking unbelievable
I'm a woman, happily married to a man. In the past, I've had sex with other women. Why? Because sex is good. I'm not going to limit myself to penis when vagina is just as fun.

Perhaps you should stop worrying why other people do the things they do and start focusing more on your life.

So what if this girl had parents who weren't the best? Does that fact ALONE make for a catalyst for every "against the grain" trait she may have in her life? Her parents weren't the greatest, that explains why she ....fill in the blank....

People are people. People like different things. Personally, all the bisexuals I knwo (male and female) have/had great parents, great childhoods, no trauma, etc.

We are who we are. I'm no more straight because I had a horrible childhood that someone else is gay because they had a wonderful childhood.

You really ought to keep your nose out of the bedrooms of other people. What they do, why they do it, and to whom they do it to is NONE of your business.

Tell me---why are YOU straight? What are YOU rebelling against? How was YOUR childhood?

enjoy your relatively short stay here, btw.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:04 PM
Response to Reply #74
92. hi Heddi
Thanks for your post. This made me pretty mad, too.
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:08 PM
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100. I can't believe this thread is still open
Although it is fun to see the OP scramble for excuses like "no no...that's not what I meant...I think vagina is a wonderful thing....as long as it's mine all mine and it ain't goin to no cooter-lickin lezbo..."

heh
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:14 PM
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103. when did you see me attack homosexuals?
i haven't said anything derogatory about homosexuals. have I said anything that would qualify as homophobic?

If this is how you treat people who have honest questions about anything gay-related you should probably get used to more punishment from the "moral values" crowd.Not trying to be mean, just telling it straight. I don't appreciate being made to look like some kind of gay-hater when I'm not
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:32 PM
Response to Reply #103
127. See, that's where you're wrong
i haven't said anything derogatory about homosexuals

Right. You haven't said anything derogatory about homosexuals, but you have said (throughout this thread) quite derogatory things about bisexuals (I suppose that they are considered homosexual by some people or in some circles). You pose an 'innocent' question yet continuously label anyone who is bisexual as being 'rebellious'. That's a completely insane "connection" on your part, and entirely rude to post on a message board. I would imagine that the bisexuals you know are teenagers since those are usually the prime group of people that can be accused of 'rebelling' against anything---parents, authority, etc.

You've (as of yet) failed to address the numerous ADULT bisexuals who state that 1) They're not bisexual because they're rebellious and 2) They're far too old to rebel against parents or 'societal norms'. You just seem to ignore those questions (or statements) because they dont' fit into your narrow world view that Bisexuality=rebellion.

And please point out where *I* ever called you, or insinuated that you were a gay-hater, or homophobic. I think it's telling that one of the bisexuals who you REFUSE to believe is really bisexual was an ex-girlfriend who broke up with you. Perhaps jealousy on your part that she preferred vagina to penis? hmmm...

If this is how you treat people who have honest questions about anything gay-related you should probably get used to more punishment from the "moral values" crowd

No, this is how I treat people who have IGNORANT questions about anything gay-related.

And dearie, I'm sure I'm much older than you and know quite well what to expect from the "moral values" crowd. That's why I'm on this website, see. I'm not here to troll, and ask vapid questions to get a rise out of people. I'm here to learn and expand my thoughts. Perhaps you should leave your ill-defined preconceived notions about human sexuality at the door when you come to DU. Questions like the one you're asking aren't laughed at. We don't find your "but I'm just askinnnn'" attitude funny or cute. We deal with people just as ignorant on a daily basis, and I'm sure happily for you (yet sadly for us), these bigots and homophobes are the ones that are in charge. THey're the ones that make the rules of this country and continue to shred the civil rights and liberties of people who, according to you, are 'acting out' or being rebellious.

Not trying to be mean, just telling it straight

Oh ho ho. What a cute pun. I'm sure you've been waiting to lay that one on us. Please, do tell another funny. Please.

I don't appreciate being made to look like some kind of gay-hater when I'm not

If you wish not to look like a gay-hater, then stop portraying YOURSELF as a gay-hater. No one here has ascribed anything to you that you first did not ascribe to yourself through your closed-mindedness and play-ignorant questioning.

Although I really shouldn't get so worked up about you. You're not serious. You're not here for serious discussion. But it's still fun seeing you squirm in your seat when faced with hot questions.

Enjoy your stay
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:56 PM
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78. I don't claim to know the truth, buuuuut...
I'd say there are both. There are born bisexuals and there are those who experiment, and there are probably those who experiment to rebel.

But in the final analysis, who gives a rat's ass!

Be attracted to whomever you're attracted to for whatever the hell reason you see fit!

david
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:59 PM
Response to Reply #78
82. see, that's my point
I never said there weren't any real bisexuals out there. just that I've only know the kind who seem to do it for rebellious reasons
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Briarius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:07 PM
Response to Reply #82
99. so you know people who did it as rebellion
big deal. People try all sorts of things as 'rebellion'. That being said, there are plenty of us that are bi that are not 'rebelling' or 'experimenting' or whatever. It's who we are and like most people, we don't appreciate the broad brush treatment.
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theorist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 04:58 PM
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81. Kind of unrelated, but there's something about bisexuality that bugs me.
The "all females are inherently bisexual" myth that many men perpetuate. For some reason, this seems to be common knowledge among my male acquaintances, and it bothers me. When I respond by asking, "What about men? Are they inherently anything?"

I usually get them to admit that they're real view is that men can be one of all three, as if it's somehow discrete. If you ever come across a person like this, I have the perfect talking point. "Do you realize that you are artificially forcing women to have only one option when it comes to sexuality, but allowing men to have three."

I personally agree with the continuum hypothesis posted above, but am admittedly unsure about it. I am comfortable with my own sexuality, and I consider that a blessing.

As for the OP, get a grip. Humans are experimental beings, and sexuality is a complex thing. You can't boil it down to simple questions of rebellion.
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baba Donating Member (452 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:41 PM
Response to Reply #81
135. I also dislike the assumption that men can't be bisexual.
I have heard this one before, also-that males who are bisexual are really gay but in denial of their full gayness. I don't think it is true.
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eyepaddle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:05 PM
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94. Well, I can't think of a polite way to put this; so here goes
Edited on Thu Feb-03-05 05:05 PM by eyepaddle
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snooper2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:18 PM
Response to Reply #94
112. That's the cutest fucking bunny I've ever seen...
Best part of this whole thread!
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eyepaddle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:21 PM
Response to Reply #112
117. LOL, thanks,
I grabbed this from some other DUer--I wish I could remember who--I thought this thread could use a little levity. After all this is the LOUNGE.

And that bunny--well, you'd just have to be made out of stone to not think that's cute!
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WoodrowFan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:35 PM
Response to Reply #117
130. love the pic
I've used it before. have it on my cubicle wall next to fluffy, destroyer of worlds.
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Ekirh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:23 PM
Response to Reply #94
120. awwwww....
what a delicious looking pancake :)

actually no.. that is cute.. that's my comp's background.. luv it.
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liontamer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 07:06 PM
Response to Reply #94
157. that's adorable
it almost makes up for all this ignorant bi bashing
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:05 PM
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95. Jesus, you're still around?
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:07 PM
Response to Reply #95
98. yup
i get the feeling you're not too happy bout that
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:10 PM
Response to Reply #98
101. Oh it's not you we're unhappy about
it's the ignorant stance you're taking about human sexuality.

But we understand...it's just confusion on your part....rebellion on theirs. Maybe one day, those crazy cooter-eatin wimmen will come around and see the errors of their ways and bow down and worship all that is penis :vomit:
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:12 PM
Response to Reply #101
102. Don't confuse, he's a big Lieberman guy.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:15 PM
Response to Reply #102
105. well hey
maybe if Lieberman had run we would have a democrat in the white house now. whattaya think about that?
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:18 PM
Response to Reply #105
111. You really think Lieberman is a democrat? Whatever gave
you that impression? Oh, maybe by the way he has his lips firmly planted on Shrub's ass?
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:18 PM
Response to Reply #111
113. what happened to ABB?
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:19 PM
Response to Reply #105
115. Bwwwwaaaa!!!! Oh yeah, i can see the red states embracing him
especially the Falwell crowd.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:24 PM
Response to Reply #115
122. i dunno why you're laughing....
Bush has a second term and I think we're all gonna get screwed.
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Maddy McCall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:23 PM
Response to Reply #105
121. You have got to be the most ignorant poster I've ever encountered
:eyes:
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:27 PM
Response to Reply #121
126. glad I can be the best at something
;-)
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baba Donating Member (452 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:45 PM
Response to Reply #126
137. Sorry you are getting flamed!
I thought your question was legit. All I have to say is: human sexuality is complex. We are complex creatures.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:17 PM
Response to Reply #101
109. see post #103
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HalfManHalfBiscuit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:20 PM
Response to Reply #101
116. Crazy cooter-eatin wimmen!
I think I'll make a t-shirt with that on it.
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Heddi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:36 PM
Response to Reply #116
132. if I had a band, that's what I'd call it
:-)
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jswordy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:16 PM
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107. I envy them.
To be able to say, "He is hot," or "She is hot," then act on it. WOW! Love springs eternal, everywhere! LOL

I know a bunch of bisexuals. Usually they prefer one way or the other as far as homo-hetero, but can go either way. It seems to me this arises most in females rather than males, but that's just my experience.

I don't care who they have sex with, personally.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:17 PM
Response to Reply #107
110. i noticed that too
that it does seem to be more common among females
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liontamer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 07:08 PM
Response to Reply #110
159. the use of the word bisexual is more common among females
That doesn't mean that the incidences of bisexuality are different amongst genders.
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WoodrowFan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:16 PM
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108. they get the toasters and
they get the toasters and the blenders for recruiting.
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slutticus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:19 PM
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114. I was always under the impression that all chicks were bi.
*runs away very quickly*

:P
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:25 PM
Original message
as well you should
:spank: :)
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southpaw Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:25 PM
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125. Holy Joe don't like no buy-sexuals, does he?
All that rebellion was probably stoked by rock music and violent video games.

Ban them... before they get to the children
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Lone_Star_Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:35 PM
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129. My cat is bi
Now I'm worried he's a rebel. Next he'll be smoking cigarettes and getting tattoos!

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goodboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:35 PM
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131. what smells like burnt hot dogs?????????
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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:38 PM
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134. I could be wrong but
This poster seems to be young. I'm not saying he is for sure, but it just seems that way. We do have posters on here that are teens. I'm just saying that there seems to be a lot of reaction here to something that could possibly be a valid post.
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CrownPrinceBandar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:49 PM
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140. I tend to agree...............
However, he DID hurt himself immediately by making just some really ignorant and stereotypical statements. But what I can't believe is the amount of piling on this guy has taken from established DU-ers without the mods locking this thing. This has to be one of the nastiest threads I have seen in the Lounge in a really long time.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:02 PM
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148. hey man
like I said before, it's gonna take alot more than somebody at a keyboard to hurt my feelings.
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CrownPrinceBandar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:10 PM
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152. This isn't about you..........................
IMHO, this thread has violated a few of the posting rules as I understand them.

Like this rule:

"Do not publicly accuse another member of this message board of being a disruptor, troll, conservative, Republican, or FReeper. Do not try to come up with cute ways of skirting around the spirit of this rule. If you think someone is a disruptor, click the "Alert" link below their post so the moderators can deal with it. Unfortunately, it has become all too common for members of this message board to label anyone with a slightly different point of view as a disruptor. We disapprove of this behavior because its intent is to stifle discussion, enforce a particular "party line," and pre-emptively label a particular point of view as inappropriate or unwelcome. This makes thoughtful and open debate virtually impossible"

and this:

"There is a difference between forceful advocacy for a particular issue (which is allowed), and personally attacking people (which is forbidden). If you can't tell the difference, you are likely to get into trouble here."

Yes, you are new and there IS a certain amount of suspicion that will be leveled at you. Sorry, too bad. We all had to go through it. However, there is no need for incivility and that has been more than adequately displayed in this thread.
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high_carb_hot_dog Donating Member (94 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:00 PM
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146. you're almost right
20. i'll be 21 in March
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Jersey Devil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:42 PM
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136. My dog used to hump the couch
I wonder what that says about him? Is he a couchsexual? He also enjoys (or used to before the BIG SNIP) humping other dogs (females), so would that make him couchbitchsexual?

Oh God! Have I broken the rules?
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:47 PM
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139. OMG!!! that was hilarious.
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Borgnine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:46 PM
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138. I wish I was bisexual.
Seriously, I wish I could find both sexes attractive enough to fuck, but guys just don't do it for me.
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:54 PM
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142. wtf
who's that in your sig :o
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:55 PM
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143. Thats young Howard Dean
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 07:04 PM
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155. wtf happened to him?
he was HOT!!!!!
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Spider Jerusalem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 07:05 PM
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156. They say that at fifty, you have the face you deserve...
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New Earth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 07:07 PM
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158. lol
never heard that one before. it's pretty funny (and fucked up) :crazy:
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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 05:59 PM
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144. I'm attracted to men and women
I'm in a stable relationship with a man. I've got three kids. Go figure.
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grace0418 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:03 PM
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149. People love who they love
To some people, a person's attractiveness is not dependent on their "plumbing" so to speak. They just find someone attractive regardless.

I actually think that all people are somewhere on the bisexuality spectrum. Some people are really strongly heterosexual, some are really strongly homosexual, and some people are somewhere in between. My guess is that most people who are in between just go with the way they lean more heavily. But a few people are truly right down the middle so they are bisexual.
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Withywindle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:25 PM
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154. I agree with you about the spectrum.
:shrug: I'm mostly more strongly attracted to men more often, so I could just let people assume I'm straight, but that feels dishonest to the wonderful women I have been hot for and involved with in the past (and might be again in the future). I guess I'm one of those 70/30 bisexuals.

I suggest that the OP try talking to some bisexuals who aren't melodramatic teenagers. There are millions of 'em.
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jmm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 06:20 PM
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153. Having a sexual relationship with someone you're not
really attracted to seems like an odd form of rebellion to me.

If you can understand how someone can be attracted to the same gender or the opposite gender why not both :shrug:?
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 08:42 PM
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161. Deleted message
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Moderator DU Moderator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 08:46 PM
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162. Locking.
This thread has become both flame-ridden and flamebait.
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