telling solider friend feelings about the war

[cloud75]

is anyone having a hard time telling a friend back from iraq how they feel about the war? i had kerry signs all over my yard he's got to know. should i not say anything or just let him know i support him and the troops just not the war...even that sounds hypocritical.

[bahrbearian]

1. Support the Troops bring them home !

[cloud75]

2. sounds good but...

what about the 13 months sacrafice he made was it all for nothing i don't want to tell him that even though it is true.

[nadinbrzezinski]

3. the troops are figuring this on their own

many don't beleive in the mission already

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

4. Let him share how he feels ...

After all he was in the battlefield . And the soldiers are figuring out that this war was unneeded on their own .

[cloud75]

5. good idea thanks n/t

[BlondieK143]

6. Let him talk to YOU.

I've been dating a marine since March (well, as much as we can anyway) and he knows how political I am (and he's on the other side of the fence). I've found it's much easier to let them open up to you. You weren't the one that served in Iraq, you have NO CLUE what he saw over there. Parts of him are probably trying to forget it and the other parts are probably trying to understand what he saw. Just be a friend. Don't always give him the "sympathy" look when you're around him, do what you did before he left. Show him a good time, go to your favorite places to hang out, but just be there for him. If he wants you to know what happened, he will. And one of these days, you'll be able to explain how you feel about things, but not now, he doesn't need that at this time.

[cloud75]

7. more good advice i think i will let things cool down ...

from the election and his return from iraq here been home about 3 weeks we had a big Texas bar-b-que for him on Friday night very patriotic themed event. my father in-law attended the party with me and said it was nice what people were doing that for him...he said the only thing he saw when he came back from vietnam was burning cars and rioting...i told him the country has learned from past mistakes and now were not to taking out our frustrations on the troops. were in the middle of history here and these are time i will never forget thanks for the advice.