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Edited on Sat Sep-13-03 01:37 AM by ropipor
Dear TETMD:
Moving away from your childhood home is always a difficult challenge, but since you are willing to seek assistance from others on ths DU boards I think the move does not have to be as traumatic as it could be. You're probably worried about connecting to all those fond memories, the nostalgia of family interactions, holidays, etc. . .but you do have the chance to make the move as wonderful as possible. Right now you're looking back wondering what the new home is going to be like. Will the same memories last; will you forget; will you feel sad? Yet, you are moving along with your family. . .so the memories that you made in your old home will be shared again and again, not only by you, but by them too. I am sure that your parents and siblings are as worried as you are and they are trying to make a good show of it. We all mask our fear in different ways. How are they coping with the move? Do you see how they are worried? How do they hide the worry? I think the best way to cope with this situation is to talk directly to your mom, your dad, or your siblings and share how you feel. Communication with them will help you adjust to your new memories. Moreover, sharing the memories of the past, your saddness for moving from one environment to another, and reaching out will help.
I know that when I am scared about making any major life change I reach out to my parents. That's what a mom and dad are there for. They are there for support. You are still their baby and they would probably love to know what's on your mind. Dont raise your voice, say what you want from your heart and ask the universe, god, yourself, etc, to help you choose the right words if you find that emotions being to overwhelm you.
Remember, Communicate how you feel.
When you feel like connecting to your past, keep some of those pictures close by and look at them. Relive your past experiences, but don't get caught up in them too much.
I hope this helps...
Enjoy your Iron Maiden mix. . think of it as your work of art that was made during this life change.
--ropipor
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