IS it better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all?

[terrya]

Of course it is.

[redqueen]

1. If you say so

Hurts, though. :(

[Robroy]

6. TRUE Love

is never the cause of hurt or loss.

[mrboba1]

2. Are we talkin' about sushi here?

If so - then I go with 'not to have loved at all.'

[ixion]

3. yeah, I suppose, although if you never love, you never miss it

:-(

[redqueen]

4. That's pretty much what I think.

[pagerbear]

5. Definitely

[mistertrickster]

7. Depends on whether you got any "action," if you know what I mean

. . . and I think that you do.

[tridim]

8. Are we talkin' OBGYN love here?

We know how idiot-boy feels.

[liontamer]

9. in some ways it is

but if you were happy being single and never wanted to fall in love in the first place, it just makes things much worse.

[arwalden]

10. That Depends On How Soon After The Loss You Ask Me

[FunBobbyMucha]

11. Lloyd Dobler, as usual, said it best

When the incarcerated father is depressed over his daughter's angry letter to him, and Lloyd describes another version of the letter that ended "But despite it all I still love you."

The dad glumly notes that this is not THAT letter, and Lloyd says, reflectively, "Well, isn't it good just to know a letter like that is out there?"

[Debi]

27. "I gave her my heart...

and she gave me a pen"

I love Lloyd Dobler..

[tjdee]

12. Nopity nope nope.

I could have saved myself lots of pain and aggravation had I stayed asexual like Morrissey.

People THINK they want to be in love and all, but it really is such a pain in the ass and just about always ends badly.

Though, if I get married and stay so for a good chunk of years before one of us dies, my answer changes to yes, it's better.

In fact, I'm schizophrenic about this issue.

[Phillycat]

13. Yes it is.

You always learn something, even in the worst relationships.

It hurts a lot, though. :(

[Ready4Change]

14. 2nd best quote from "MIB"

When Tommy Lee Jones' character is told that in "Men in Black" he leans forward agressively and growls "Try it." Totally illustrates his characters bitterness over his lsot love.

That said, I DO believe it is better to have loved and lost. Unrealized love is always a shallow thing compared to actualized love, even if it eventually turns sour.

Just my two cents.

[WindRavenX]

15. yup

You need to be hurt along the way in order to realize how great true love is.
Just my 2 (worthless) cents.

[bratcatinok]

16. Loving someone makes me a better person.

Over the course of my life I've loved a few and lost a few. While the losing hurts, I've always managed to become a better person for having loved.

During the time I was divorcing my 2nd husband I somehow managed to learn what unconditional love was about. I learned I could love him even if I didn't particularly like his actions.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

17. Damn right. Live a great life and regret none.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

18. yes.

[tigereye]

20. yes

nothing ventured, nothing gained. And other sad cliches...

[ET Awful]

19. Depends on the nature of the "lost" part.

Personally the last time I would rather not have loved at all. :)

[TrogL]

21. No

I've loved. Lost.
Loved. Lost.
Loved. In the process of losing.

I give up.

[Bunny]

22. Oh, it all sucks. n/t

[Magrittes Pipe]

23. It all depends who the person is.

I have been fortunate in that everyone I've ever loved has been worth it (even those experiences which were, at the time, painful as hell). But I've seen friends in situations where 'twould have been better never to have loved at all.

It's who you love that matters, not who you lose. The right people benefit your life, the wrong people suck your soul like sponges.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

25. What the fuck is this?

Has somebody jacked Hedges password?

[Debi]

28. Even though it's over...whoisalhedges...

I still love you.




NOW GET LOST!!!

[rene moon]

24. NO, never

it's all bad--even when you think it is good.

[Maleficus]

26. Nope.

I've never loved yet, and I'm in pretty damn good shape (emotionally and physically).

My buddies have been in love before, and it turned them into wrecks when their loved left them. They suffered, cried, quit eating, and were always depressed.

Thank God I never had to go through that shit!

[Nikia]

29. It all sucks, maybe I don't want anyone to love me

I am not just talking about potential spouses and partners. I also mean with friends. Sometimes, I just want to be completely alone. I don't want any friends. I don't want anyone to care about me, and I don't want to care about anyone else. Of course there is my husband, he is addicted to me or something. He insists that he loves me and tells me how much that I mean to him. I can't help but love him then too. I guess that I can't be completely alone like I want in my hurt.