Same-sex friend suddenly hits on you very overtly...

[UdoKier]

Same-sex friend suddenly, unexpectedly hits on you very overtly...



you...

[alittlelark]

1. Damn, I love choice #7!!!!

Cannot choose it with honesty however!

[UdoKier]

3. Ah, but ain't it the truth?

nt

[MidwestTransplant]

7. Very American Beautyesque

[4morewars]

2. I lmao at the last one !

right above other.

[Spinzonner]

4. Try and fix them up with your Gay/Lesbian sibling/cousin

[UdoKier]

5. Nice!

Good idea. What if your gay whatever is butt-ugly?

:P

[Spinzonner]

6. That's not my problem

I'm just trying to score points with my parent/aunt/uncle by 'marrying' off their precious child

[vajraroshana]

8. what does that even mean?

did you mean to have "you're" in that line instead of "your"?

even then, I don't know what that means.

huh?

[UdoKier]

13. No, it's "your".

What if your gay friend/cousin/uncle/etc. is ugly?

I just substituted "whatever" because it's shorter. Sorry for the confusion.

[ncrainbowgrrl]

9. Wonder why stuff like this never happened when I was single?

n/t

[SarahB]

10. This happened to me.

I got to be friends with a women who was actually one of the few progressive, intelligent moms around here. About 4 years ago, she was at the end of a troubled marriage and confessed to me she was "bi-curious" and wanted to explore that with me. I wasn't into it, but I'm open-minded enough that it didn't shock me or make me want to end the friendship or anything. She was either hurt or embarrassed enough that she pretty much ended the friendship shortly after. I still see her sometimes since we live in the same town. She's remarried now (to a guy) and hopefully she was able to explore that side of herself and is more at peace with it somehow.

[eyesroll]

11. Depends.

Which same-sex friend is asking? ;-)

[LynzM]

17. Agreed,

That is the important question... some of my female friends I love but do not find at all attractive, some I might, if the situation presented itself. But this hasn't happened to me since college, so who knows?!

[Misunderestimator]

12. Opposite-sex friend suddenly, unexpectedly hits on you very overtly

Hmm... what do you do? Has happened to me... and I usually politely explain that I'm not into that. Not much of a difference between the situations, I'd say.

[UdoKier]

14. I thought about making that poll.

But if I tailored it only to gays, the response might be too sparse, and if it was tailored to everybody, I dunno, wouldn't it be 90% "jump his/her bones?

Maybe somebody should do that poll. I was scurious how many people have hangups about this.

I personally would be flattered but say no, because I honor my marriage, but I wouldn't be remotely grossed out (unless it was just a gross person).

I really don't understand the revulsion some people feel about this stuff. People is people and parts is parts. Both genders can be beautiful, and I don't find that threatening.

But whatever.

The shocking thing to me is that 7% clicked the "repug" option. How pathetically sad.

[sui generis]

15. a couple of interesting points

if same sex friend knows you're married and hits on you anyway . . . I would re-evaluate that friendship. A moment of weakness or loneliness can happen to anybody, but if it happens a lot maybe getting in your pants matters more than your friendship.

Otherwise I think you have a fair opinion. I thought it would be funny to turn the poll around:

A close straight friend of yours hits on you, what do you do?

1. get him to work out for a couple of years and take a bath
2. I don't do virgins

both of which are funny and insensitive and play on "our" stereotypes - but the fact is that sexuality and our personal reactions to it are complex and not all black or white. Not all of us queers consider sleeping with a hetero (or curious) person a "conquest" either - especially if they're married, and almost always particularly if the friendship is important.

[UdoKier]

16. If that's a stereotype.

I fit it to a t.

I need to work out badly, but have no time to do it. I bathe enough, but I cut my hair with a flowbee and never style it. You guys can't imagine what it's like working at home with two kids. (sigh)

When I watch "Queer Eye" and see these guys running around having fun in great clothes and little apparent boring domestic responsiblility, I feel a bit envious.


But I doubt most real gay men have a life that remotely resembles QESG.

[sui generis]

18. kids change everything

like I said - a bad stereotype. Some of the fussiest prissiest guys I know are (gasp) hetero. And some of the flabbiest unwashed guys I know are not hetero, and they don't have kids or any excuse.

Oy - I hate the boring domestic responsibility but we get it too - QESG is utter fluff. Who the heck has time to put 12 kinds of "product" in their hair and on their body every day, much less get out and buy it? Some of my aspiring "high queen" friends have houses that look like museums -- beautiful kitchens and not a single cooking pot, and you're afraid to sit on the couch and don't even think about asking for the restroom. That's not real.

Some basic housekeeping is just good habits, but mostly I keep a house and kitchen that looks like people live in it and eat there. Don't let QESG get you down . . . we all put our (designer?) trousers on one leg at a time.

[Lerkfish]

19. I should make choice #8: completely oblivious until later.

When I was in college, one guy in my creative writing class hung around me a lot, inviting me to this or that, meeting him for burgers, that sort of thing. I was completely clueless as to his intentions/preferences.

One night after chatting with him, he introduced me to a friend of his, who then asked if I was attending the gay pride march that weekend with the classmate. I just said, naw, I'm straight. No negative inflection on my part, and I had no problems with anything, but suddenly that guy stopped inviting me places and I finally put two and two together. d'oh!
I was flattered, actually, but not tempted or interested.