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My dh and I waited 14 years before even trying to have a child. We wanted to have fun and freedom as long as we could, LOL! But we also knew that it would be a big financial investment, and it was a decision we did not take lightly. I was almost 39 when my son was born in Aug. 1999. At the time, I was pretty liberal, but now I find myself swinging further to the left with each passing year! For example, since becoming a mom, I have finally come around to totally rejecting the death penalty. And while I was always a compassionate person, I now am to the point that I feel the entire world's pain and have to be careful what I watch or read. If I hear anything about animal or child abuse that I can't do anything about, I have to turn away. It just hurts too much... more than before I had a child. It's like becoming a mom ripped my heart out and gave it legs and now it's over there walking around and getting into my kitchen cabinets, y'know? The pain and the joy are sometimes too much to bear. It feels raw.
I worry about my son's future here in America. Sometimes I wonder what I've brought him into the world for. I don't think his life is going to be as easy as mine has been, which is sad, because you always like to think your son is going to have it better. (Thank you to GW Bush and to the apathetic sleepwalkers who keep him in power.)
Interestingly, having a child has not changed my feelings about spirituality, at least not yet. I always thought it would, but it hasn't. I have always been 50/50 about God, sometimes I think he/she/it is real, sometimes I don't. I'm a very spiritual person, though, as ever. My son is almost 4 now and is asking lots of questions about God and death and spirituality, so it's starting to get really interesting! I have told him that God is a force, like the wind, and it is all-knowing and all-loving, and that the force is looking out for him. (Star Wars?) Am not sure if I believe it myself, but I like to hope it's true, and I think it helps a kid to have some feeling that there's something greater than himself. Maybe my son will end up on an eternal quest on this issue, as I've been.
The good news is that even at this young age, my son is exhibiting pure liberal tendencies, which makes me happy. He is so compassionate and caring and interested in the welfare of others, heck, he never even pulls the cat's tail. Very non-violent. Loves to read and talk about ideas.
Sorry to ramble, no one has ever asked me that question before. I'll be interested in seeing others' responses.
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