Why do I always pick the wrong times?

[Deja Q]

I'd just entered a relationship a couple of weeks ago. However, health problems from last week combined with his stresses at work and one other issue have made it impossible, for the moment, to see me again.

Eventually he wants to, and I definitely want to keep the door open. He's fun to talk to, talk with, listen to, and be with, and so forth and so on...

I'm hoping things get better for him quickly and not just because of 'me'. (I've had some extra workload on my 'side job' that's kept me busy too so I can empathize...)

As it's generally 4 years between the time I find a guy who can tolerate my awkward social inabilities for more than 5 minutes (well, we did seem to click, our personalities complemented each other's), I'm definitely keeping the door open. (I would regardless, he makes a great companion, amongst other things...)

And, yes, I think he's being totally honest. (Even with my penchant for worrying about every little thing in life, I still think he's being truthful. And, trust me, I don't take many people at face value any more. Not even my boss, who wants to keep me around but no longer says ANYTHING about moving 'up' in the organization. :-( So when they finish the replacement of PCs with Thin Clients, I'm as good as dead... I stay only because I have a couple of cards I can play should the time arise... I suppose ditching my current job for one that pays 50% less is worth the bankruptcy as long as I have a job and can support my desire to live... just as long as they don't take everything, I don't think I could live without it... not when I'm alone in this cesspool of a world.)

Time again and world. Should I update my personals ad?

[Droopy]

1. I'm glad to hear you've got someone special in your life

It's been a long time for me. About 14 years I think. But I'm a loner naturally so it doesn't bother me not to be in a relationship. I used to want it, but after so much time of being alone I've grown to like it that way.

[Deja Q]

2. Well, in his e-mail he did said "friends or more"

So what he said 2 weeks ago may have been a wake-up call that we are just friends with possible benefits.

As I always say, "Applesauce happens. You just have to make lemonade out of it." In time and if it's meant to be, it will be. If not, well, then I'll manage.

[Rowdyboy]

3. Look. its all just the luck of the draw...

And good companions/friends can absolutely make the very best lovers/partners imagineable. Just give it time.

Update your ad? Why not? You're not committed right now. Give it a shot.

[Deja Q]

4. I updated it... and got an instant message response in literally 2 minutes

But I was scared and unsure of myself. So I quickly closed the connection and wrote down his name. (I NEVER get any responses...)

I dunno if I'm ready to date, stupid as that sounds...

[Rowdyboy]

5. Now why even bother to update a personal ad if you're not even

willing to CONSIDER dating? You know you want to. It doesn't sound stupid, it just sounds like you've been badly burned in the past. Been there, done that, WROTE the freaking book, my friend.

You'll never have a fish dinner if you don't reel 'em in when they're biting. Hmmm. "Fish dinner" may be a very poor choice of words in our cases. Anyhow, you know what I mean. If he sounds interesting, what have you got to lose.

Whats the worst that can happen? You get let down again...I know its a cliche, and I've said it to you before, but, most of the time, you really do have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince....

[Deja Q]

6. Well...

I'd gladly substitute "fish dinner" for "bratwurst buffet" any day of the week! :evilgrin:

I did write down his address. I might respond... and get back on the exerciser too, I suppose. :-) After all, if I meet up with somebody 3 years and 52 days from now...

[Rowdyboy]

9. LMAO-I believe the "bratwurst buffett"

might just do you a world of good. Abstinence is HIGHLY overrated IMO.

To paraphrase Nancy Reagan: JUST SAY YES!!!

[neebob]

7. You met him on the internet?

Next the dude. If he wanted to see you, he would. He's OK with stringing you along, though. The internet makes it easy to do that.

[Deja Q]

8. He lives 40 miles away...

You do have a point though... I'll allow myself to be strung for a while. After all, he's a slim hope when there's otherwise no hope.

I'm sure I'll figure out a pattern after ~2 weeks. But I still think he's being honest.

I'm not worried though. If it's not meant to be. I wish it was, but if it isn't then it isn't. I shall press on.