Talk about a fucked up weekend

[bearfan454]

I'm in the Chicago area for my brother's funeral. The guy was 38 and had a massive coronary Thursday. 38 ? What to fuck. I always thought I would be the first one to go out of us 3 kids for being fat, eating like a pig, getting fucked up all the time, and all that. It just doesn't figure.

[Lars39]

1. My condolances bearfan.

38 is way too young. :hug:

[bearfan454]

3. Thanks.

My Mom is really fucked up over it which is normal. I couldn't imagine if I had to bury my kid. I would probably go insane for a week or two.

[Paradise]

7. so sorry, bearfan. so young

"Listening with your heart to "how I am doing"
relieves the pain,..." - Kelly Osmont

how are you doing, bearfan? :hug:

[bearfan454]

9. Im okay.

I had my big cry on the drive up here from Austin. I know I will lose it because his wife has all his pictures layed out. It is closed casket. His wife donated all his organs. Someone in Ohio got his liver. They said about ten people will be better off because of the donating organs.

[ikojo]

11. Wow! That must have been a difficult choice for his wife

to make (donating his organs). I applaud her for it. Her tragedy has brought others extreme happiness.

[Paradise]

17. It's said that 'out of tragedy comes hope' .

Not much consolation, right now, I know. :(

[RunOfTheMillDemocrat]

I am sorry for you loss

38 is pretty young.

Hell, 50 is young for something like that.

[greatauntoftriplets]

2. I am so sorry to hear about your brother, bearfan.

What a tragedy for your family.

Edited for typo.

[Tandalayo_Scheisskopf]

4. Hey, it's small consolation, but...

It is said that no person may know their time.

Been there, done that. May you and your family find some peace at this time.

[bobthedrummer]

5. Deepest sympathy on the loss of your brother.

[Bronco69]

6. My condolences bearfan.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[xchrom]

8. i'm so sorry bearfan

that is really too bad.
take care of your self and your mom -- that is really tough, so sad.

[ikojo]

10. Bearfan54, my condolences to you and your family

I lost my brother to a massive coronary in May 2002 and it still hurts when I think of him. He was 47. He would be 50 this November.

38 is way young to die.

[Rowdyboy]

12. Damn, man, thats rough....Stand by your mom

My baby brother was murdered in 1995 at age 29 and mom never recovered completely. The loss of a child is utterly devastating to a mother-more so than any other imaginable. My heart goes out to you both.

Hang tough.

[bearfan454]

14. She has some prescription Xanex

for the visitation today.

[Mikimouse]

13. Very sorry bf454, I'm sending good thoughts your way...

It is terrible that someone so young is gone. My most condolences to you and family.

[GOPisEvil]

15. Oh, no! You and your whole family have my sincere condolences.

Peace to you and yours friend.

[VelmaD]

16. I never know what to say...

at times like this so I'm just gonn agive you this :hug:.

[bearfan454]

25. Thanks Velma

I needed that hug.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

18. I'm so sorry.

I am sorry for your loss, the fact that he died so young and the fact that you didn't really get a chance to say goodbye.
My condolences and prayers for you and your family.

[Rhiannon12866]

19. I am so very sorry

How terrible for you. My uncle died at 47 and I thought that was young. Maybe you should see this as a wake-up call and start taking better care of yourself. Your family, and your friends on DU, couldn't spare you, as well.:hug:

[bearfan454]

26. I decided that already yesterday

When I get back to Austin I am going to tell Mrs bearfan that life is too short to miss out on it by getting fucked up all the time. This really woke me up.

[Rhiannon12866]

30. So maybe this is a good thing for you

You need to take control of your life. Let us know how you're doing, please. I care.:pals:

[JVS]

20. My condolences

Losing a brother must be a terrible thing, you have my deepest sympathies.

[rbnyc]

21. So sorry...

...It's hard enough to deal with the loss of a family member. That it was so unexpected and makes so little sense makes it so much harder. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You're in my thoughts.

[SarahB]

22. I'm a so sorry for you loss

:hug:

[Nikia]

23. My condolences to your family

I am sorry about you loss. I never know what to say. Be there for your mother and one another.

[mohinoaklawnillinois]

24. Condolences bearfan. I've been there...

Both of my brothers died young. The first in 1999, he was 49 at the time from alcoholism and my eldest brother 56, last April, from colon cancer.

My prayers and thoughts are with your entire family. It's tough to go through, but believe me, things will get better.

:hug:

[Bunny]

27. My condolences on your loss.

38 is very young. I'm sorry for your family.

[buddhamama]

28. My sincere condolences, bearfan

i cannot offer any words of explanation or wisdom...
i am very sorry to hear of your brother's passing.

Peace to Him
and your family. :hug:

[Samurai_Writer]

29. You have my sympathies

I have not lost a sibling yet, but I have lost my dad at the 'relatively' young age of 66 (him, not me, I was 31 at the time). I have a sister who is in very bad health and for years have been bracing for 'the call'.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

[Prisoner_Number_Six]

31. I know exactly how you feel

My big brother passed away at the age of 40-- the hardest part for me to bear was he died on my birthday. It took me a LONG time to get over that!

He left behind quite a legacy consisting of friends made closer by his presence, a loving wife and two sons, one of whom recently married.

He helped me a lot over the years and was my best friend, and after 10 years I still miss him.

My condolences and prayers are with you and your family.