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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:19 PM
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I Am So Powerless Over Ben In Ramadi But Peyton Shines On


And On



We are hanging on but with lots of tears and fears



Think of us fellow DUers. Our hearts are on the line here. It is ugly over there.
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timber84 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:21 PM
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1. Beautiful little girl!
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timber84 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:24 PM
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4. I take it Ben is your husband?
Have you read "The last true story I will ever tell? Really a good book.
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:26 PM
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5. No Ben Is My Son
He is 24 and Pey is four.
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timber84 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:27 PM
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Wow I have a 15 year old and a 4 year old.
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Fridays Child Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:22 PM
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2. Hang on. He'll be okay.
(((((((((( :hug: ))))))))))
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:24 PM
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3. Hanging By A Thread
Hugs help thanks!
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bemildred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:26 PM
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6. Damn, that sucks.
Edited on Thu Sep-29-05 04:26 PM by bemildred
Hang in there. He's going to need you when he gets home.
And I hope he gets home soon.
:grouphug:
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:28 PM
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10. Ah as one of my favorite posters that means a lot
Thanks bemildred. Really
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bemildred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:29 PM
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13. Love ya Binka, take care of that kid. nt
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:27 PM
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7. She is lovely
I have been thinking of you and Ben and everyone caught up in that hellhole. Thank God you have that sweet little girl to hold onto. One thing about kids, they insist you get up and get going every day. When my Mom was diagnosed with cancer all I wanted to do was crawl under the bed covers and sleep. My guys kept me too occupied to do that. And Ben is coming home to you safe and sound, don't doubt it. You have to try and fight back the fear and that little sweetie is going to be a big help. Hang in there!
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:33 PM
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15. Crying again
When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1998 Ben was my rock. He held my hand and kept me going. I beat that devil with his firm hand by my side. I just want to be there for him now. Tears.
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:43 PM
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19. He knows you are there for him.
You give him strength from all the way over here. You can't hold his hand just now but you are in his heart, and he is in yours. You will be be sad and scared sometimes, I sure would be. Just remember to keep some joy and hope around too. You beat the cancer, right? :hug:
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sazemisery Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:27 PM
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8. Ben will be in my thoughts and prayers for you and Peyton
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timber84 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:28 PM
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11. Good thoughts going out for Ben, Peyton and Mom!!
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:27 PM
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9. Peyton is such a sweetie!
And your Ben is a very handsome young man. I saw the pictures you posted just before he left.

Hang in there. Check in for hugs and support any time.

:grouphug:
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hwmnbn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:28 PM
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12. What a cutie!!!.....
and please know we're hoping that Ben comes home safe. We're working to make sure he comes home soon.

Thanks for sharing your family with us. We are all in this together.
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me b zola Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:31 PM
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14. My best thoughts are with you and Ben
I also think of the others with their beautiful children over there, too. I wish you peace of mind, and for Ben to return safe & sound to you soon :hug:
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 06:13 AM
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27. Oh My Heart Breaks For ALL The Children For EVERYONE Caught Up
In this illegal and immoral travesty. I know my thread sounds one sided and selfish. I'm not I care deeply. Thank you for pointing that out to me.:hug:
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me b zola Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 10:52 AM
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30. I think that it is good for you to reach out
I just want to wrap my arms around you and all of the mothers, sisters, brothers, and fathers who are in such pain. I just want the madness to stop. My hubbie and I went to DC from Oregon to tell our leaders that we demand that this war end now.

There is nothing at all selfish or one-sided about your thread. I am so sorry that I made you feel that way, please accept my sincere apology.

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BrklynLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:34 PM
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16. She is such a lovely child. Sending white light and positive energy.
and hopes that Ben will return home safe and sound.
:hug: :pals:
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:37 PM
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17. Oh Another Of My Favorites Show Up
You do not know me but I love your posts and think of you often. Thank you for your kind words.
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BrklynLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 05:54 PM
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24. The internet has given me some of the best friends I have ever had.
Edited on Thu Sep-29-05 05:59 PM by BrklynLiberal
We do not have to actually "SEE" or "HEAR" each other to know each other's thoughts and feelings. We do not even have to live near each other.
We are kindred souls and that is what matters.

:hug:

edited for typos...of course
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:41 PM
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18. Thank You Each And Every One
We are just internet friends but I can not tell you how much it means to me to have you here. You give me strength. You give me hope.

It means the world to me. And I love you very much.
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 04:44 PM
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20. I saw you post here earlier, Binka, and
thought about you and Ben. I'm glad Peyton is giving you strength, and you're all in my prayers.
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Flying Dream Blues Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 05:13 PM
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21. What a beautiful post! I hope you will remember
that Peyton and Ben shine on as they do as reflection of their mother's love--your gift to both of them. They are your strength and you are theirs. After all you've been through, with Ben at your side, I'm sure he feels your presence and love every day.

My prayers are with all of you, looking to that glorious day when he comes home safe and sound. Lots of love energy flying your way!
Holly
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 05:16 PM
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22. Binka, you have beautiful children.
and your family is in my prayers every night, as well as my family's prayers.
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SammyWinstonJack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 05:18 PM
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23. Such a sweet face!
:hug:
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symbolman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 06:11 PM
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25. How much for the leetle gurl?
Edited on Thu Sep-29-05 06:14 PM by symbolman
Whmmmm? She is so cute I MUST have her :) move back to the US so I can babysit that lil sweetimous..

Ben will be fine, most of the people I knew that got smacked down in Nam were basically unaware, no style, no "spider sense".. From what I can tell from you and from the pic of him he's got the good common sense to get the fuck OUT of the way and pull someone with him as he goes..

He'll be back with a chest full of medals, but he'll have aged - my cousins were a lot "older" when they got back, war matures people pretty quick, and they DO train you y'know? I got trained to kill when drafted in 1971, never had to do it, but know how and wouldn't have hesitated if needed. I had told my pals if I got sent to Nam to STAY behind me, that anything that moved in front of me was going to get it, a leaf, a moth, anything.. total survival mode.

And you know what? Of all my pals that came back said that was exactly WHAT they did.. they separated the nice friendly part of their brain from the lizard layer and instinct, and it worked.

Some wake up in a cold sweat with nightmares, others I know aren't bothered at all, most compartmentalize that part of their life and don't talk about it, they leave it where it is..

But he'll still be Ben and he'll still love you and Peyton, and how much gladder could you all be when you see each other.

You're so lucky to have had him around when you went through the breast cancer, I lost my mom to that when I was 16 and it took her about 5 years to die from it - I've got big holes in my memory from that period and I feel guilty for not being there more for her, but I forgive myself for being a Teen and not having much empowerment or capability.. he done good, and he'll do good now and then it will be GOOD when he's back :)

We should talk about creating an alternative venue besides ANSWER, I've been thinking that Takebackthemedia.com should get involved, as a vet I want to make sure everyone stays on MESSAGE so we can get this war over and get YOUR son home and make sure MY 19 year old doesn't have to go too..

So don't you worry, Ben's smart like you, he'll be fine - it's not really an ARMY OF ONE, he's surrounded by support..

Hope all's well with you and the lil punkin' Peyton, she's a keeper :)

Love from all of us,

Sym
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beam me up scottie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-05 06:56 PM
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26. My brother is in Ramadi.
I know.

And I will remember to think of Ben whenever I think of my brother.





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annabanana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 06:14 AM
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28. my heart goes out to you
and I hang a special prayer for Ben on it for you
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 06:34 AM
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29. Thank you For Your Kind Words
DU is pulling me through. Good people here. Like you!
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Just Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 10:58 AM
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31. (((HUG))) I know it's difficult.
My brother recently left. I'll think of your Ben, along with my brother. May all our loved ones and friends return whole. :hug:
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 11:16 AM
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32. Is He Army Or Marines?
Ben is a Marine with the 3/7. He is in Ramadi but he is re-con so they do a lot of patrols. It just so sucks. ((((((HUG)))))
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Just Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 11:24 AM
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33. Served as a Marine during the 1st Bush War --- National Guard, today.
He'll be doing supply runs. x( I try to keep my mind busy to avoid disturbing thoughts.

I wish we could even better expedite their return. I believe we are making a big difference in that process,...it's just the process isn't evolving quickly enough.

Hang in there, sister! :hug:
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Binka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-30-05 11:35 AM
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34. Write me anytime you need to talk.
I don't sleep much these days.
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