I'm Not Sorry: Celebrating the Right to Choose

[Modem Butterfly]

http://www.imnotsorry.net

This website is awesome. Women who have had abortions need to stand up and be counted.

Edited for title

[sinkingfeeling]

1. Added to that site years ago!

[Armstead]

2. I'm pro-choice, but IMO that site is misguided

I'm very pro-choice, and agree with the importance of putting it in human terms. But I have a real problem with the underlying message being conveyed by that website.

"I'm not sorry" and describing abotion as "positive" is not a very constructive way to get the pro-choice message across, IMO. It makes it seem like abortion is being taken too lightly, and confirms the stereotypes of the pro-choice position, IMO. There's nothing "positive" about abortion. At best it is a necessary evil. It is an awful, painful and soul-raking experience.

I'm a male, but was involved in a very difficult decision with my girlfriend about whether to have an abortion several years ago. We ultimately decided an abortion was necessary, and still believe that it was ultimzately the correct decision. BUT I AM VERY SORRY, nevertheless. Even now, ten years later, I still have guilt and images of what the child we aborted might be doing if we had chosen not to have an abortion.

Hopefully the flames won;t get too hot in response, but it's because I support the goals of the pro-choice side that I find that way of advocating for it to be somewhat disturbing.

[Modem Butterfly]

3. I totally disagree

It is an awful, painful and soul-raking experience.

For you, perhaps, and that is certainly the way the anti-choice lobby has portrayed abortion. However, not everyone feels that way. Quite a few people don't, in fact, and those stories can and should be told as well.

[sinkingfeeling]

4. Did you read any of the stories posted there? Most are the

descriptions of how and why the choice was made. Your girlfriend might add why the two of you thought 'an abortion was necessary'. This whole effort was to counter the anti-abortion claim that all women who undergo an abortion are sorry and depressed about it.

People make the decision to abort for many reasons, mine (and I am the mother of a grown son) was due to a medication I was taking. I am not sorry that I made that choice.