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I choose to put it in writing. If my husband decided to have a midlife crisis later in our relationship, I'd SURELY NOT want HIM making decisions for me..(and visa versa I'm sure)
The lawyers for living wills are lining up....($$$$$) Go document your wishes before it's too late :eyes:
There is a little thing that bugs me that no one has thought about, not that I've seen. It is this: That couple, the Schiavos were not married all that long. Young people will say the dumbest things about what they THINK they want IF they were in such and such a condition...like while sitting in front of TV or something like that. Not at all considering what they'd really feel if they were say simply physically disabled. It NEEDS to be put into writing.
IF this couple had been married for 20 30 40 50 years in a committed relationship (especially, free of domestic abuse), I'd say the spouse holds much more credibility and would pretty much KNOW what the other wanted.
In a short relationship like this one, and with such a drastic split between the parents and the son in law regarding the woman's end of life wishes....I say whoa..hold the horses...something smells fishy.
I would fight tooth and nail for my young daughter if I didn't like her husband, or suspected he wasn't doing the right thing by her. I DO have a son n law that is a total JERK. Sociopath is more like it. He mentally and physically abused my daughter. He lied through his teeth to us when asking for her hand in marriage. Everything he proposed in terms of caring for her was a lie. He laid around the house, only taking odd jobs, sent her down to the welfare office to beg for relief. Spent a good portion of his time getting drunk. Lived next door to his mommy giving her all sorts of support while refusing to lift a finger to help my daughter and the kids.
She was committed to making her marriage work but I could see she was sinking into depression--we stayed out of it but told her she was welcome to come home and start over. She had two children that her husband DIDN'T WANT. Today, the bastard has stolen her children, won't let us see them, and calls her a surrogate for his "seed". She nearly lost her mind over his abusiveness.
She is a responsible lovable human being. She took care of him when he was ill with some sort of military related jungle rot. If SHE had become disabled and not able to work, that asshat would leave her or commit her or whatever he could do to "get out" of his responsibility to her--except he'd keep his unwanted children so he didn't have to pay child support :grr:
It's a long story but you get the picture. WE want that asshole to drop dead. I wonder what the Schindler family thinks of their son in law?????
If these two family members were on good terms, don't you think the family would be agreeing with the husband and/or visa versa???
The husband dragging this on for years and years seems suspicious to me. It is typical of what my former son n law would do. He cannot accept defeat no matter the cost and especially if he would GAIN in terms of financial benefits. His ego is too fragile to "let it go".
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