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Edited on Tue Mar-08-05 02:59 AM by Locut0s
Recent events in my family have brought to light a growing ideological rift that has long existed between several members of our family, on my fathers side. I'm not going to go into the exact details at the moment, maybe when things settle down a bit. It's mostly a money issue having to do with looking after my grandparents, and as such is not a political issue in and of itself. The real issue is who should pay how much and even how much money they really need. There has always been an ideological rift in our family between my immediate family and the families of my three uncles, well the biggest gap is really between two of the families. My family is pretty far left, as is one of my other uncles. Both of my other uncles have fairly rich families and are conservative to varying degrees. The one that lives near us is really more fiscally conservative and is pretty far left on most other issues. The rift between us and the remaining uncle however is very wide, they are a very conservative right wing family, compounding this is the fact that they live on the other side of the country. When we do visit them, which isn't very often, I've always felt very alienated even though they are of course a loving family, I just can't get close to the strong right wing values that run just under the surface all the time. Even my father feels uncomfortable around them a lot of times.
I don't mean to make this sound like a cold family since it is not, my father loves all of his brothers dearly, however there have long been strained tensions running just under the surface at times. For the longest time this usually only meant the occasional awkward moment, and since we don't live close to the most conservative of my uncles even these moments were few and far between. However this issue is really threatening to tear the family apart. My conservative uncle feels that we have turned our backs on the family by claiming that we can not afford to pay the amount of money that he feels is owed to the two members of the family at the heart of this. By the way he is arguing that we all pay equal sums of money despite the fact that he easily makes 3-5 times what we do if not a LOT more, which is not to say that we are badly off though. He came up with this sum after having talked with my grandparents and basically made it sound like this is what was going to happen, didn't consult us over the issue, and didn't let my grandparents know what he was proposing. As I said one of my uncles is solidly on our side and the other is more on his side. I think we have come to a solution, bringing my grandparents out here and having them stay in a slightly less nice place while having to give up a few amenities, like my grandfathers car which they can't afford anyways and I'm not sure he should be driving at his age. This they would be able to do on their own salaries with some help from us now and then, and of course three of their sons are out here to look after them. This solution though may just cause further anger amongst the brothers. It's at the point now though that my father is not really on speaking terms with his two other brothers and we may never fully repair the rift.
Anyways sorry for the long rant, what I really wanted to know is do any other members here have any similar family issues that have been exacerbated by differing political ideals. Anyone who is no longer on speaking terms with members of their family either because you just can't stand each other's points of views or because you just don't have anything in common? Anyone else have family relations strained to the braking point fuelled my misunderstandings and ideological gulfs?
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