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Okay, here's my take on gay marriage and/or civil unions:
Being brought up in a conservative family and attending fundamentalist and evangelical churches, of course everyone around me was (and still is) disturbed by the idea of gay marriage. But even when I was an evangelical myself, I had a thought pop into my head back when "domestic partnership" was the big buzzword. That thought turned into the "Oscar and Felix" argument.
I never really watched The Odd Couple, but I knew it the series was about two male roomates who are polar opposites of each other and get on each other's nerves, but they always seem to make it through in the end. I had, however, read John Steinbeck's Of Mice and Men, with the contentious yet touching relationship between George and Lenny, which to some post-modern teens may seem like the "Master-Blaster" relationship in Mad Max: Beyond Thunderdome.
The basic theme in these stories? People need people. There's no sexual component in the Felix/Oscar relationship or the George/Lenny relationship; it's just the realization that you need the companionship of a special person to help make life more bearable. In our modern world, that means someone who can stay by your bedside when you're seriously ill. Someone who can help you raise your children, if any. Someone who can inherit your property and your memories in case the worst happens.
And so, being the somewhat-renegade evangelical Christian that I was, I embraced the idea of domestic partnerships. At the most basic level, it didn't matter if you were gay or straight - if a guy needs somebody, and somebody needs him back, then God's in his heaven and all's right with the world.
Anyway, that was my starting point in coming to terms with gay marriage. Any other thoughts?
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